Lol, I feel awkward right now, but considering like half of you are older than me, I would like some dating advice from the 'PROS', lol, that was half a joke. Now, (oh crap I heard this before...) There is this girl, and yeah...I have somethin for her. (not a present, emotional somethings.) And she pretty much knows about it already, but I don't know how to get her to like me. Like, I am not very "cool", if you know what I mean. (HERE WE GO) This is a sort of personal thing I don't like to share, but I trust you guys since I don't know you and like lots of you are in the US or England. But some people like to call me gay, and you see, this isn't true. I think they say that because they are jealous, (that probably sounds wrong but I will explain.) I have a talent to do like 10,000 different voice impressions and I can do a perfect girl one. But they think I am gay because of it. ANYHOW, I just need some advice. (WOW I JUST WROTE MYSELF QUITE THE PARAGRAPH LOL)
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That's just backwards logic to me.
Anyway, you can't make someone like you. If they like you; they like you. If they don't; they don't. So be who you are and hope that it works out the right way. If not, then it's not the end of the world.
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You sound really sweet and honest, shame so many people out there tend to ignore those nice kind of qualities. I don't think there's anything about yourself that you should change, even if you are shy if that's a part of who you are then that's ok. Although if you do get into a conversation with this girl, a cheeky smile and a good flow can help ^^
People who pick on you because of your talents are jealous, it's true what you're saying. They probably call you "gay" because they don't have the maturity to think of anything else to say, they just want to belittle you as much as they can, in the most derogatoy way they can think of. They probably know you're not gay, they just want to put you down basically. Classic jealousy. It's good to rise above that kind of behaviour
You haven't said much about how close you are to this girl, just that you think she might know about your feelings. Do you see her often? If you do, and you are already pretty good friends with her, then spending time hanging out with her will help, she'll see your true self that way and may come to appreciate it. If you're not too close, then maybe try to become better friends, but not too much as you'll draw the wrong kind of attention to yourself, or she might get suspicious. Talking is your best friend though, do as much of it as you can
Heheheh I'd hardly call myself a "pro" (*_*), but hope this advice is helpful. Hang in there, and give it time, no use expecting immediate results, just keep being a good friend and who knows eh? ^^
People who pick on you because of your talents are jealous, it's true what you're saying. They probably call you "gay" because they don't have the maturity to think of anything else to say, they just want to belittle you as much as they can, in the most derogatoy way they can think of. They probably know you're not gay, they just want to put you down basically. Classic jealousy. It's good to rise above that kind of behaviour
You haven't said much about how close you are to this girl, just that you think she might know about your feelings. Do you see her often? If you do, and you are already pretty good friends with her, then spending time hanging out with her will help, she'll see your true self that way and may come to appreciate it. If you're not too close, then maybe try to become better friends, but not too much as you'll draw the wrong kind of attention to yourself, or she might get suspicious. Talking is your best friend though, do as much of it as you can
Heheheh I'd hardly call myself a "pro" (*_*), but hope this advice is helpful. Hang in there, and give it time, no use expecting immediate results, just keep being a good friend and who knows eh? ^^
Try and be subtle, if you go in too full on then that's going to SCARE HER. Don't try and force the issue and try and make her like you, that's just like the female argument of "I'M GOING TO CHANGE HIM"... Never going to work. Anything forced is always going to be shaky, not saying it doesn't work, just try and avoid being too hasty.
Good things come to those who wait...
Good things come to those who wait...
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Thank you Incorrect English, that was some good stuff, and how close am I? Well, The thing is, I don't know exactly. She is in my class I at least say a few sentences to her each day. Lol, I also let her wear my awesome sweater when she is cold. (NOW THAT IS A POINT WE SHOULD WRITE DOWN!!! not literally.) Another thing, she stole my pencil case in class one day, and wrote her name on it and put "BFF" under her name. (
OOOOOoook...) She actually danced with me once for an "Oh, I dunno" reason as she put it. So yeah...
THAT'S WHAT I'M AFRAID OF! Asking her out too early and randomly and she will LITERALLY BE SCARED and never say a word to me for like 6 months!
Got to hurry though, WHAT IF SHE FINDS...someone else!
OOOOOoook...) She actually danced with me once for an "Oh, I dunno" reason as she put it. So yeah...THAT'S WHAT I'M AFRAID OF! Asking her out too early and randomly and she will LITERALLY BE SCARED and never say a word to me for like 6 months!
Got to hurry though, WHAT IF SHE FINDS...someone else!
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Whoa sounds like she's pretty forward actually!!! Either that or she's doing that annoying girl "oooohhhs but we are such good friends tralala" thing. I'm not sure. But yeah like Ruud and English Dave said, best to see how things play out ^^
1. be honest with her.
2. just be who you are.
3. don't act like you are someone else
4. don't lie to her.
5. when she talks be quiet and listen to her carfully.
6. if you see sad smile and try to cheer her up.
7. if something bothers her ask her about it, if she tells you what it is then try to help her.
8. if something bothers her ask her about it, if she says that there is nothing bothers her then tell her that you respect her wish and don't talk about it.
9.when she shows you something she made such as painting, drawing, a story, or anything else give a compliment and try to encourage her.
2. just be who you are.
3. don't act like you are someone else
4. don't lie to her.
5. when she talks be quiet and listen to her carfully.
6. if you see sad smile and try to cheer her up.
7. if something bothers her ask her about it, if she tells you what it is then try to help her.
8. if something bothers her ask her about it, if she says that there is nothing bothers her then tell her that you respect her wish and don't talk about it.
9.when she shows you something she made such as painting, drawing, a story, or anything else give a compliment and try to encourage her.
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This seems more fitting in Temple of the Ancients, so...
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And it's kinda hard to tell. I mean, are you friends with this girl or not? Not that it matters...I'm just trying to imagine the situation. Anyway, I say get to know her more first, and do make it known that you are interested with her, but asking her out too soon may not be a good idea...for some. Just take it slow, but not too slow.
If she likes you, then things will happen to its own accord. If not, then oh well. You're young, it's not the end of the world. You'll meet other girls, different time and places. What I'm trying to say is...just don't get your hopes up, you know what I mean? Things won't always go your way, despite the "dating advices" that you receive from others.
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And it's kinda hard to tell. I mean, are you friends with this girl or not? Not that it matters...I'm just trying to imagine the situation. Anyway, I say get to know her more first, and do make it known that you are interested with her, but asking her out too soon may not be a good idea...for some. Just take it slow, but not too slow.
If she likes you, then things will happen to its own accord. If not, then oh well. You're young, it's not the end of the world. You'll meet other girls, different time and places. What I'm trying to say is...just don't get your hopes up, you know what I mean? Things won't always go your way, despite the "dating advices" that you receive from others.
'nuff said
Just be yourself and take things from there, you should at least have some knowledge about here (likes/dislikes etc) and you should know her...or at least spoke to her! If she doesn't know who you are what you're like etc, then its probably a no-go. But she needs to like you for who you are, trying to impress her probably will force her the other way (like in most cases), so just act natural and like Pools said "If they like you; they like you. If they don't; they don't."
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We're not all gods of sex just because we're older than you. I still haven't gotten laid and I'm almost 18.
My advice is simple, and cliche. but it's true.
Be yourself. Don't force anything, just roll with the flow like normal. You're fine how you are now. If the person you're eyeing can't accept/doesn't like the person that you are, you've really no good reason to involve yourself with them, and you will just end up getting your feelings hurt when you try to push your feelings on this person.
If someone calls you gay, and you're not, you don't need to prove yourself to anyone. If you know it's not true, you don't need to prove it to anyone else, precisely because you know it's not true.
But anyway... just be yourself. If this chick doesn't like who you are, then fuck her.
Relationships aren't the most important things to have when you're young. Relationships come with expectations, drama, and the whole fucking shebang. Try taking a look at the bad side of a relationship and weigh the advantages and disadvantages of getting into one.
O--M--G...Like, 3 hours ago. She hugged me and put her arm around me and said "You're my best bud, arn't ya..." HOLY CRAP! The end. I think we got something here now.
AND SHE SAID SHE LIKES GIVING ME HUGS OUT LOUD! OK, I see where this is going. When she signs on MSN we are gonna have the most hardcore, intense IM conversation in history! I JUST REALIZED, MY MOTHER FRICKIN' 200th Post! XD
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Actually that sounds more like, 'we are friends'
not 'come and get it like a big funky sex machine'.
Like someone said before, you can't make someone like you, but you can still try. Just be nice to her and say nice things occasionally, don't be OTT though.
Alternatively, ask her out, that way, you will know whether she likes you.
not 'come and get it like a big funky sex machine'.
Like someone said before, you can't make someone like you, but you can still try. Just be nice to her and say nice things occasionally, don't be OTT though.
Alternatively, ask her out, that way, you will know whether she likes you.
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It's pretty damn annoying when you get such mixed signals from the opposite sex. I've been in a couple of situations myself where the guy's all over me shouting to the rooftops how great a friend I am, OMG JEEZ SAMANTHA YOU'RE SO DAMN HUGGABLE!!! But then they just don't want anything more. Wtf?!?! It's so hard to tell when someone likes you in a friend way or a romantic way. I'm really not sure what this whole big show is that she's putting on, but I can understand why you're so confused.
But yeah, the general advice still sticks ^^
But yeah, the general advice still sticks ^^
I don't want to MAKE her like me, I just want some advice so she would have more feelings for me. She is really special to me, and I have like no idea what to do, but as of now I have some pretty good ideas thanks to you guys. Oh, and I don't think you are "gods of sex" since you are older, I am asking you since you ARE OLDER, and you have experienced these things (Hopefully...) SHUT UP SECOND MIND!!! GOSH!!!
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Hehehehe awww ^^
To be honest you seem to be doing just fine already, carry on as you are, if she's all friendly with you and not creeped out by you then you are already set. Just be there if she needs to talk, girls love to talk
To be honest you seem to be doing just fine already, carry on as you are, if she's all friendly with you and not creeped out by you then you are already set. Just be there if she needs to talk, girls love to talk
...I don't know what to say...She doesn't like me...She went out with me for 3 hours. She is being threatened by her ex. I can tell. I saw him pacing around her and she looked sad. She made up some corny excuses and thinks I believe them. I don't know what to do. She was the only one I ever truly loved in that way.
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Oh Noes rejected by your love, your love was unrequited and you became an hero, or you became Tedius. SRSLY just beat him up cause leik all wimminz respond to violence. If you're not willing to beat him to a bloody pulp you obviously don't love her.
Roll with the punches and learn to grin and bear it, kiddo.
that basically means gtfo unless she calls for you to do her bidding.
Womenz need space when they're depressed, and if you try to be aggressive with them(or what you may have in your head to define "comforting" them), they will distance themselves from you. Just means it's time for you to find a nice comfy spot on the bench/sofa/floor/corner of the room and wait.
But ya, pay no mind to the boyfriend situation unless it escalates to srs business. Let her take care of her own problems. Her parents can help her better with that situation and make a better outcome than you can.
alternatively, you could kick this guy's ass, but in my experience that's really never worked too well and the chick just got mad at me. Lovers will have their quarrels, and will eventually get over them.
Let me tell you something else cliche. Nice guys always finish last. You're a nice guy. Being a nice guy is fine when you're a shriveled old raisin, but no-one's going to care about how much you love them as soon as you meet them as much as you do.
What you're experincing is infatuation, not love. You've known this girl for three days, no? You cant really expect her to want to make out with you and start having dirty secks under the football stands after just starting to hang out with her.
Valuable relationships take time to form; romantic relationships are no different. Unless they're one of those sex crazy chicks.
FRYLOCK, VIOLENCE IS NOT THE ANSWER!!! Anyway, my theory was not accurate. Her ex is just calling her a fag and stuff. (HOW COULD SOMEONE BE SO MEAN TO HER?) She tells me she is just not ready, not old enough for a boyfriend. She likes me, she says I'm cute, but she just isn't ready... She is right, I can accept that, but somewhere in my heart I still love her.
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I do believe a philosopher, I don't know which one, said It's much easier to show hate to someone we loved than indifference.
Look if she has an ex-boyfriend obviously she doesn't like you in that way.
Also I hate to be ageist for want of a better word, but at 15 you don't really know what love is. It may feel like love, but at 15 people are incapable of feeling the depth of feeling that is love.
So my advice to you is, move on, find someone else.
Look if she has an ex-boyfriend obviously she doesn't like you in that way.
Also I hate to be ageist for want of a better word, but at 15 you don't really know what love is. It may feel like love, but at 15 people are incapable of feeling the depth of feeling that is love.
So my advice to you is, move on, find someone else.