Ok, so a few weeks ago I signed onto AIM, which I don't do that often anyway. I signed on, but I wasn't talking to anyone, I was watching TV and playing a little guitar. Randomly out of the blue, my ex-girlfriend from 8 years ago IM's me. So I was kind of feeling her out, trying figure out why she would want to talk to me anyways (it didn't end well in the past). Our history wasn't that great, it was in high school, it lasted 6 months and I left her because she was trying to cheat on me. So we talked for a good portion of the night, catching up on current careers, college and general life from the past 8 years. She's definitely a better person now than she was in the past, but I still see some of her personality quirks come roaring back every now and again.
So then I talk to her a week later online and she tells me how much she's been thinking about what we used to have and she was very apologetic of what happened. She tells me she wants to see me, so she comes by my place later in the week and spends the night. I honestly didn't feel comfortable with her because I remember too much of the past and it kind of makes me stressed. We used to fight a lot, so I was constantly prepared for a fight. We didn't fight at all this night, but some things didn't go that well.
Knowing my lack of comfort in the situation, I told her that I thought it wasn't a good idea that we see each other again. After she was flipping out about it, I managed to calm her down and told her I'd think a little more on it. So as the week goes on, I said that I'd give her another chance. She then tells me that she felt a connection with me that night, but I didn't feel anything, just stressed. She also then tells me that she was legally separated. Being one to have had a relationship with a married woman, I had another way out. So I mentioned that I had my heart broken from a married woman who made a promise before and that I didn't want to get myself involved in that situation again. She then thinks that I'm being selfish and using the past that had nothing to do with her against her.
After more talking, she then comes over again, planning to spend the night again. At some point in the night, the topic of discussion comes up again. So I tell her that I still didn't feel anything for her. She claims that this is the first time anyone has rejected her, and she couldn't understand why I didn't want to be with her. I then asked her why she was separated from her husband and she says that she cheated on him. She then goes on to say that all of her relationships have ended because she had an interest in someone else. She then tells me she'll leave me alone for a week to think on it some more.
Ok so my thoughts on this are that it's just a bad idea all the way around. I really don't feel anything for this girl, and even though the chance and time period was minimal, I feel like it's opening a can of worms. For starters, this all happened way too fast for me, and that's not very comfortable for me. I know for a fact that our personalities are pretty conflicting and aren't compatible enough for the long haul. She's not actually divorced yet, and I feel it's a sticky situation for me to get involved with, even if her husband isn't in the picture anymore. The fact that all of her relationships ended because she had an interest in someone else tells me that she's not a stable relationship partner.
What do you all think?
So then I talk to her a week later online and she tells me how much she's been thinking about what we used to have and she was very apologetic of what happened. She tells me she wants to see me, so she comes by my place later in the week and spends the night. I honestly didn't feel comfortable with her because I remember too much of the past and it kind of makes me stressed. We used to fight a lot, so I was constantly prepared for a fight. We didn't fight at all this night, but some things didn't go that well.
Knowing my lack of comfort in the situation, I told her that I thought it wasn't a good idea that we see each other again. After she was flipping out about it, I managed to calm her down and told her I'd think a little more on it. So as the week goes on, I said that I'd give her another chance. She then tells me that she felt a connection with me that night, but I didn't feel anything, just stressed. She also then tells me that she was legally separated. Being one to have had a relationship with a married woman, I had another way out. So I mentioned that I had my heart broken from a married woman who made a promise before and that I didn't want to get myself involved in that situation again. She then thinks that I'm being selfish and using the past that had nothing to do with her against her.
After more talking, she then comes over again, planning to spend the night again. At some point in the night, the topic of discussion comes up again. So I tell her that I still didn't feel anything for her. She claims that this is the first time anyone has rejected her, and she couldn't understand why I didn't want to be with her. I then asked her why she was separated from her husband and she says that she cheated on him. She then goes on to say that all of her relationships have ended because she had an interest in someone else. She then tells me she'll leave me alone for a week to think on it some more.
Ok so my thoughts on this are that it's just a bad idea all the way around. I really don't feel anything for this girl, and even though the chance and time period was minimal, I feel like it's opening a can of worms. For starters, this all happened way too fast for me, and that's not very comfortable for me. I know for a fact that our personalities are pretty conflicting and aren't compatible enough for the long haul. She's not actually divorced yet, and I feel it's a sticky situation for me to get involved with, even if her husband isn't in the picture anymore. The fact that all of her relationships ended because she had an interest in someone else tells me that she's not a stable relationship partner.
What do you all think?
". So I just continue playing for the time being. I'm thinking I just don't want to bother with her. But then I figure, I just want to close the door on this deal ASAP, so I decide to sign on to AIM (assuming she'd be there). And she was there, so I waited for her to start the conversation.