Serious What do I do?

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lreal said:
It's your mom...

If it was someone other than the woman who nursed you in her womb for 9 months then put food and a shelter over your head, I'd say get your $52 dollars back.

It's $52 dollars. Suck it up and put your shit in a bank account next time. Live and learn.
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What does that mean? The act of birth doesn't mean you have to respect that person. For all you know she could be the worse person alive! I hate when people try to use that defense.

But, as I posted before, I do agree that there's little you can do about it except deal with your money better.
 
This is true. She may be your mother but the label doesn't mean you have to agree with everything she does. She may have problems, though, and may be taking it out on you. You don't necessarily have to 'respect' her, just be much more wary around her knowing she's capable of being a thief.
 
ayumihamasaki said:
What does that mean? The act of birth doesn't mean you have to respect that person. For all you know she could be the worse person alive! I hate when people try to use that defense.
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You're a pretty ungrateful kid. How do you treat your mother on the same platform as a stranger in the street?

It's not like she beats him, she's just a little strapped for cash; he should take care of it better. But anyway, she pays for his food. She pays for his housing. She pays for his hobbies. She takes him to school. She probably buys his damns clothes. And he bitches about $52. What the fuck?
 
It's not that you should be worried about; stealing your kids' money is almost tantamount to telling your kids it's alright to steal money if you're low on cash. Even from people who are close to you, and are your family members.
 
Confront her about it!

Money these days is a scarce thing, we spend more time at work and get little more in return we work for the things we want, and spend little time at home with our stuff that we work hard for.

It would be nice to not have you hard earned stolen by someone who you should be abe to trust.When I lived at hoe I let my mom use my bank card to buy the stuff we needed but draw a line when it came to personnel items coz you have to work for your own things.

If she is having trouble supporting her self maybe your are the cause?

With an extra burden, even one who pays there own way, can still effect the balance of a house hold, What do you do for your mother? Do you help around the house or buy desert for the family or even entire meals and grocery list.

When someone does not appreciate you its easy for that person to devalue your worth and do things to you like stealing or just plain disregard your feelings and concerns.

As people get older they sometimes use general acceptance, buy which I mean other people may do it so its alright if I do it once, twice three times , and pretty soon its part of there make up and thought proceses.

Ealier I said maybe you were burden on her in this time and the answer to that is simple:MOVE OUT SON!
 
lreal said:
You're a pretty ungrateful kid. How do you treat your mother on the same platform as a stranger in the street?

It's not like she beats him, she's just a little strapped for cash; he should take care of it better. But anyway, she pays for his food. She pays for his housing. She pays for his hobbies. She takes him to school. She probably buys his damns clothes. And he bitches about $52. What the fuck?
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I desperately don't want to fight with you, because I've done it before and it's pointless. Plus, this isn't about you or me.

We've clashed about this before. You think you know everything there is to know about a person and take things on face value. You just like to go after people for "complaining" when all you're really doing is complaining about them complaining.

And for your information, I love my mother very much, and how dare you go there. My mother didn't steal from me. You're one of those people who has trouble playing nice with others.

And that's my last post to you in this thread!:awesome:

Good luck with your mother! (See I don't have to grab attention by being a meanie!).
 
Well, I've got the money back, didnt get it back in a good way, I did talk to her, she said nothing. So thanks for the help.

And btw, I have to buy my own clothes and shoes
 
If you want your money back, get legal proof that she stole from you, show her the proof, and then tell her you're going to call the cops if it isn't returned. If she doesn't follow through, call the cops and let them deal with it.
 
Oblivion_XIII said:
Well, I've got the money back, didnt get it back in a good way, I did talk to her, she said nothing. So thanks for the help.

And btw, I have to buy my own clothes and shoes
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I hope it doesn't happen again.

I just wish people were more aware that sometimes parents can take advantage of a situation just like anyone can. People are so biased.
 
Meds said:
If you want your money back, get legal proof that she stole from you, show her the proof, and then tell her you're going to call the cops if it isn't returned. If she doesn't follow through, call the cops and let them deal with it.
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Lmao... Call the cops on your mom for $52? What the fuck?

Well, I guess it's nice you got your money back. Even if she "stole" it, I woulda stayed silent because it's not like she's spending it on nails and perfume. Probably food/rent/util/etc... for her family.

I don't understand how so many people can just jump on the mother and say she's in the wrong. Sometimes life isn't determined by moral principles. Have some compassion. She needs money, let it slide silently next time. Or at least offer to allow her to have it instead of saying "give it back." God damn...she's your fucking mom.

"You need to earn respect" is bullshit when applied to your mom because she reared you for the last 1x years. $52 is nowhere close in repaying what she has done for you.

@ayumi
Who are you? I tend to piss of one person with each post since I don't take a candyland approach of getting my point across. I still think your view of mother-son/daughter relations is perverse. But since you won't respond, I'm not going to waste my time on elaborating this point. But maybe now I'll remember you next time.
 
lreal said:
Lmao... Call the cops on your mom for $52? What the fuck?
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I said, if he wants his money back..

I was by no means suggesting that was what he actually do. It was merely a means to point out how ridiculous the whole fiasco is.

That said, theft is theft, and he has every right to do what he can to get his money back, should he choose to.
 
lreal said:
Lmao... Call the cops on your mom for $52? What the fuck?

Well, I guess it's nice you got your money back. Even if she "stole" it, I woulda stayed silent because it's not like she's spending it on nails and perfume. Probably food/rent/util/etc... for her family.

I don't understand how so many people can just jump on the mother and say she's in the wrong. Sometimes life isn't determined by moral principles. Have some compassion. She needs money, let it slide silently next time. Or at least offer to allow her to have it instead of saying "give it back." God damn...she's your fucking mom.

"You need to earn respect" is bullshit when applied to your mom because she reared you for the last 1x years. $52 is nowhere close in repaying what she has done for you.

@ayumi
Who are you? I tend to piss of one person with each post since I don't take a candyland approach of getting my point across. I still think your view of mother-son/daughter relations is perverse. But since you won't respond, I'm not going to waste my time on elaborating this point. But maybe now I'll remember you next time.
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I think it's a matter of principles. If my folks were to take $50.00 bucks without asking, it's bad parenting for one. It teaches folks it's okay to take things, when they are really needy. Well why do you think gas stations get robbed in the first place.. because they already have tons of cash? Nah, most folks are backed against the wall by their baby mama, and the only way out is stealing... hence the first criminal thing a parent teaches you should not be stealing.

Furthermore, the reason most folks get mad at you in threads at all it is because A) you remain anonymous B) you speak as if most of your information is right. So that leaves two scenarios, you are either A) A duplicate account of a well known member on this site using a proxy B) Already been banned before and are using proxy because you are a bitter person looking for revenge. Either way it's a tad bit retarded any way you look at it. Sounds like someone was bullied in school too much as a kid.

That's all we can work off of for now. Sorry to derail this thread in anyway, but back to the main topic...

Tough break Ayu, but lighten up on your mom. I'm sure there was logic behind taking the money in the first place. At least now you know to store your money, now if it were like 1,000 dollars, then I'd empathize a bit more.
 
@Shu
The guy's not 8, he sounds like a young adult (teenager). He knows it's not right to steal, that's why he's complaining about his "stolen" money. This isn't about parenting, it's about helping the family out. Stealing is wrong so he should get his money back? That's one way of looking at it. But I would allow her to take the cash, because I know she'd only take it if she'd strapped for it in the first place. Principle only gets you so far in life, sometimes you gotta let things slide.

As for your little jab, your A&B are both wrong. I remain anonymous because it's the internet, and I've got enough to deal with in real life to not really give a damn about my "internet image". I'm a bit flattered to be honest that you've concocted these "theories" about me. I would've thought you don't give two shits where I come from.

I think you're the only mod who's come out and actually insulted me in posts. It's apparent you don't like me and would ban me in a moment's notice, but don't worry the feeling is reciprocated. I won't push it since you've got the power to censor which I've been at the mercy of in the past.
 
Well Ireal if I truly disliked you by now I would have tried to provoke you and get you banned etc. To be honest you are healthy for debates because you debate the negative side of things, but the way you do it is the only thing that sticks a fork in it. As you said.. not candyland approach, which means it sounds like you are talking down to folks. They get easily offended when they don't know anything about someone and it looks like trolling from anyone elses stand point. Defend it all you will, but it is from a mod stand point too. I also could be censoring everything you are saying, but I leave it out there for the public to view, you are only drawing attention to yourself.

I have no personal vendetta against you, because the only time where I reacted from you was prior to being a mod, because I figured out that's just the way you were.. A jack ass. It's okay I'm a jack ass too, just occasionally. It's not a jab, it's just the way you are bro. Anonymous doesn't exempt you from me saying what's on my mind to you. I do it to everyone, it's a down to earth approach, I don't name call, unless you think Jack ass is name calling.. in my language is just means you are being a dude.

So anyways, the poster deserves a bit more respect in my opinion was all I'm getting at. He had his cash taken by his mother, he doesn't know how to react, so the only way to approach the issue is to freak out. Doesn't matter of the age, the higher age you are, I would say the more at fault the mom would be. Otherwise where is the moral code to tell otherwise?



lreal said:
@Shu
The guy's not 8, he sounds like a young adult (teenager). He knows it's not right to steal, that's why he's complaining about his "stolen" money. This isn't about parenting, it's about helping the family out. Stealing is wrong so he should get his money back? That's one way of looking at it. But I would allow her to take the cash, because I know she'd only take it if she'd strapped for it in the first place. Principle only gets you so far in life, sometimes you gotta let things slide.

As for your little jab, your A&B are both wrong. I remain anonymous because it's the internet, and I've got enough to deal with in real life to not really give a damn about my "internet image". I'm a bit flattered to be honest that you've concocted these "theories" about me. I would've thought you don't give two shits where I come from.

I think you're the only mod who's come out and actually insulted me in posts. It's apparent you don't like me and would ban me in a moment's notice, but don't worry the feeling is reciprocated. I won't push it since you've got the power to censor which I've been at the mercy of in the past.
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@Shu
You see, this is pretty much a big difference between you and me. You seem to be a pretty idealistic person when it comes to how society/people should function to make a better world (I remember some stuff you said about "no tv" which still sounds absolutely ludicrous to me). You seem forgiving and optimistic when it comes to the potential of human nature to do good in the world. That's not for me.

To get on point, there is no set moral code that must be followed. There is no "ten commandments" or something similar that governs what is good behavior. Everything depends on the circumstances. He is not breaking a moral code because there isn't one set in stone. Naturally there are generalities that tend to be followed most of the time for the betterment of society such as "do not steal" but nothing is absolute.

This situation seems like a perfect exception for me. Let the mom take money from child to pay for bills/food/rent/whatever > Child bitching about some money he lost that he'd probably spend on some overpriced Abercrombie jeans at the mall. Cry me a river son, but the mother would only take it she had to. Give her some slack and hide your money next time.
 
could you please close this thread? The problem is solved, no need for this to be up anymore.
 
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