Thank you for logging in, Sincerely.

[Marquis of Granby]

nice and polite.

how polite and courteous would you say you are? do you think manners are important or do you think that it's all insincere small talk? do you hold a door open for someone then at the last minute render your own efforts useless by letting go of the door?

i think im mostly polite and courteous, but i have quite a dry sense of humour so maybe sometimes people think im being rude when im not. i do think a lot of it is just insincere small talk but i also think that manners are important because it was probably beaten into me as a child. if i hold a door open for someone it is until they are passing through it. if im in so much of a rush that i cant hold a door open for someone i wont half-arse it, but i almost never have that sense of urgency about me. as the great female role models in my life would say "it's nice to be nice".

now you

 

[Master Cat]

Yeah, I think it's important to be nice and polite. I guess it all boils down to respecting people, even strangers. I wouldn't go out of my way to be particularly nice to someone though. Holding open a door? Sure. Letting someone get on the bus or train ahead of me? Why not. I guess I'm fine with the simple nice gestures that are expected of most people.

When people don't say "Thank you" when I hold the door though, that sorta annoys me. I'm not looking for a medal or anything, but if I end up holding the door for like 5 people, I would hope that at least one of them is appreciative and knows how to vocally express that. I'm not a doorman, lol. And it's so easy to simply say "Thank you."

Is it insincere to be polite and have small talk? Hmm. I think some people just love to talk out of boredom and curiosity. There are people who just love learning about other people. Not necessarily insincere. I think it's only insincere if they're making small talk in order to gain some sort of advantage or gain. For instance, getting to know about an employee at a certain store and building a "bond" with that person in order to get a discount later down the line, or talking to professionals in order to build your social network... That seems awfully insincere to me, which is why I'm not fond of the idea of achieving success due to social networks. Doesn't seem fair and it's sorta manipulative. I prefer people to earn their success on their own due to their skills/credentials, outside of external forces and connections. But I guess it works nowadays pretty well. ~.~

 

[Tyler Breeze]

First off, I wanted to say that you, Sincerely, are very funny. You had me cracking up all day yesterday. So thank you for that.

I think I'm a pretty decent person. I do the common things for people. Holding doors and shizz like that. I did go out of my way to be nice before, too nice. But that's changed now. But I still have a heart and do common little things for people, not only out of kindness, but out of normal reaction. I'm used to doing those things, so I really don't think much of it.

I respect everybody until they prove to me that they don't deserve it. My grandma doesn't deserve it. I have not one ounce of repsect for her. Actually, both of them are pretty horrible. They put us through so much stuff that wasn't needed. I don't care whether it's a family member, a friend, or a stranger, if you don't respect me and my parents, I don't have any respect for you.

My talking of the small type is actually always out of caring. I'm legit interested in how you are, what you're doing, etc. It's just a nice thing to do IMO. It may not always start a convo, but at least there was some talk there.

So I am nice to people as much as possible.

 

[L]

i think i'm polite and that i'm pretty mannerly most of the time

i'm just not politically correct

 

[Bambi]

i think im generally polite and have good manners, its not hard to be courteous to another person, its small talk i cant be doing with. i hate taxidrivers and hairdressers trying to talk to me, so i might come across as a bit rude sometimes, but we all know small talk is to fill the silence gap, you dont care about myday as much as i dont care about yours if we dont know each other, id prefer the silence

 

[Squid]

My dad drilled manners into me as a kid, I used to get slapped if I didn't say please or thank you. So because of him I think I am pretty polite and I have a very low tolerance for people who are not. It's not hard to say please or thank you or hold a door open for someone or whatever. People these days seem to be lacking in the manners department though and it aggrivates me.

 

[The Welsh Paddy]

A lack of manners is one thing that really irritates me. Funnily enough, it hasn't been one of those things drilled into me growing up. Back when I was a lot younger, I was polite to the point where I wouldn't accept anything from anything which I later came to learn was impolite because you're rejecting a person's hospitality and good will. But in general, I've usually been told that I'm too nice for my own good. People used to take advantage of that though, so I decided to grow myself a backbone.

Nowadays, it's all saying please and thanks, smiling and greeting people, offering my seat on the bus if I see that someone needs it more. And holding doors open for people who are loaded with baggage, or have a baby in a pram, or are in a wheelchair, etc etc. Oh, and helping people with prams off the bus! I swear, back when our little man was only a few months old, there were times when it was a complete nightmare trying to get off the bus with him in his pram. People not bothering to get out of the way, or standing there impatiently while it's completely obvious that you're struggling to get off. That, with the added stress of having a newborn, just made me feel like smacking someone.

I don't go out of my way to help people unless they are in serious need, but I find that it's generally the smaller things that can make someone's day. I pretty much treat everyone the way I would like to be treated.

When it comes to other people's manners. If they just have basic manners, then I'm fine with that, but if someone comes up to me and asks me a favour without even saying please... Oh boy...