I saw this graph when reading a news article this morning and I thought I'd bring up a discussion about it. I'll walk softly on the topic because I know there are a number of women on here who had children pre-maritally and unintentionally. From the women I know who have become pregnant early, most of them love their child more than anything else in the world but admit mixed feelings about its conception. So I'm curious what people think on this issue?
As an average American, I have to admit I really am a bit surprised by these numbers. They're much higher than I would have thought. Basically 42% for the national average... that's pretty steep. That's not half but it's not chump change either. And it may seem ignorant or rude of me but I'm not sure how women get pregnant prematurely. I don't blame them. I blame the guys because I'm not sure what's so difficult about using protection or pulling out. You can say that's why they call it a mistake... but on the other hand I don't have any friends who have even come close to making that "mistake".
As a guy, I definitely dislike these numbers. Let me be perfectly clear. I believe it is a personal flaw on the part of any guy who is unwilling to date or love a woman just because she's had a child. That being said, I'm flawed. I don't want to date someone who already has a child with someone. I've turned down a few relationships because of it. I would really have to care about the woman a lot for that child not to matter. And when you basically delete those women from the pool of acceptable candidates... it basically means that only 60% of women are then even applicable for dating. As if the dating world wasn't hard enough...
Let's hear some other thoughts...
As an average American, I have to admit I really am a bit surprised by these numbers. They're much higher than I would have thought. Basically 42% for the national average... that's pretty steep. That's not half but it's not chump change either. And it may seem ignorant or rude of me but I'm not sure how women get pregnant prematurely. I don't blame them. I blame the guys because I'm not sure what's so difficult about using protection or pulling out. You can say that's why they call it a mistake... but on the other hand I don't have any friends who have even come close to making that "mistake".
As a guy, I definitely dislike these numbers. Let me be perfectly clear. I believe it is a personal flaw on the part of any guy who is unwilling to date or love a woman just because she's had a child. That being said, I'm flawed. I don't want to date someone who already has a child with someone. I've turned down a few relationships because of it. I would really have to care about the woman a lot for that child not to matter. And when you basically delete those women from the pool of acceptable candidates... it basically means that only 60% of women are then even applicable for dating. As if the dating world wasn't hard enough...
Let's hear some other thoughts...
