Serious Outlets

[Valkyrur]

Right, in this urbanized landscape, it's really hard to find a place where I can let loose and scream my guts out. Worse, in such a stressful lifestyle, it'll probably kill me ultimately if I fail to somehow leash my unstable emotions, and provide an outlet.

Punching or squeezing something real hard sounds like a fine idea, but I can't bear to punch my pillows. During those times I feel like punching, I can feel that if I did it, the pillows will definitely be spoiled. If I bothered to control the amount of force, it defeats the entire purpose of doing it in the first place.

Squeezing is fine, except it doesn't give a sort of satisfaction I would associate with releasing it all via a scream.

Friends-wise. It's a great idea that I thought about as well. However, it's dreadful that I am a distrustful person by nature. I do not easily trust people around me, including my parents, enough to share with them my deepest and darkest secrets.

It's a fine idea to throw it at God, as in the one in Christianity. Yet, I'm still unable to gain any form of satisfaction....

Ultimately, I keep it within me until they fade away. It's strange, but they always fade away into the background as I focus on other things. Sometimes, they return, but when they do, they are less overwhelming then before. On other times, they never return.

So, what are some of the other good methods to settle yourselves, and release all that anger or stress within?
^That's the main focus of this entire thread.

Honestly speaking, I made this thread as an outlet as well. Just read below to know what I am releasing.

Some background information. Right here in Singapore, I'm not exactly sure about the circumstances in other countries, the schools are starting to pack more and more chapters in our syllabus. Naturally, with this increment comes a greater workload.

For weaker students, it's a nightmare. I don't think I'm weak, thankfully. However, it still calls for a serious amount of studying to actually be confident of doing well in the examinations.

Worse. The GCE 'O' Levels are coming.

Considering it's a national examination not exclusive to Singapore alone, I presume the others will know. To those that don't, just know it's a really major examination that will determine my future path in life.

With the power the examinations hold over my future, how could I not fear? How could the stress elude me? No doubt, it will come knocking on my doors.

Honestly, it has smashed through my walls.

It has came to me though I refused it. I really want to eliminate all traces of it, but I know at the same time it is all inevitable.

..Sigh.

So, how's things going with you all? Life is harsh, but it is the end that we work towards. I am working towards that 'bright shining future', to quote Sephiroth, are you, as well?

 

[Dionysos]

When I get really angry I end up hitting the wall with the bottom of my fists, or slam a desk or something in the same way. I do it hard, but sometimes I realise that I probably shouldn't have done it so hard and am even more angry now that I'm in a lot of pain, and so I kick the wall and then that hurts my toe etc etc...

Yeah from my experience hitting walls and such isn't a very good outlet, unless you can feel relaxed after hitting it gently.


When I'm alone in the house I'd also talk to up above, often getting angry and raising my voice to whoever is up there. I tell them I'd do anything they want me to if they give me the inner strength needed etc... They never reply. I think I even once directed this at any aliens that might be hovering above. "Take me away and make me immortal and I promise I will serve you forever!" or something. It was silly really, and the fact that I was being serious made me feel even sillier when I calmed down (and this was recent btw ).

But shouting and blaming whatever is above for allowing you to trap yourself in a mess / making the world crap / giving you assignments and exams that you are struggling through can make you feel a little bit better.

Ultimately though I find most of it remains within you. Telling people and getting advice seems to be the best approach, but most people wouldn't give a damn about anyone elses problems. Some, however, do.


As for working towards a "bright shining future"... I seem to have lost my goal in life. I think somewhere down the line I forgot what it was, and I just assumed everything would unfold like it just appears to to people around you when its not you yourself. I do dream about me being all awesome with kids, a loving wife, an awesome but interesting career that I enjoy, having lots of friends and enough money to be happy but still be good people... But I know that is unrealistic and what I'm currently experiencing isn't giving any hints of a future like that. Like I said, when I was younger I just assumed those things occured and that when I hit my age, or a couple of years older I'd have my life set out and sorted. It's not like that at all.


And I think it is dangerous to quote Sephiroth.

 

[Bambi]

I release anger by doing housework, if my house is spotless, Ive either given up and tidied it or Ive been in such a rage Ive had the hoover out and rage hoovered. I know it sounds silly, but you can really just throw your anger into throwing shit away or doing abit of agressive polishing...it works for me anyway

Drawing or painting as well, it helps take my mind off shit, that's more a distraction than anything really, time just flie by because it always takes me forever to comlplete a peice and I dont concentrate on anything other than that

I do shout quite a lot, my neighbours must think im insane when all they hear is FOR FUCK SAAAAAKE really loud out off the blue, but that helps too. I get angry quite easily though so Im always URGGGHING or GRRRING at something

 

[Bun]

I find that punching or breaking things is quite the good stress release, but that's just for my personality. When my temper does flair up, I either bottle things up or take them out on whoever or whatever is closest to me (be it verbally or physically). That is, if it is the appropriate time and generally not in public.

You don't seem to be the violent release type, however, so you might want to check into some calming exercises, breathing, counting strategies and the like. Also, you might attempt to do something to take your mind off of the stress like what Bambi said. Cleaning house usually requires a bit of focus on getting those dishes clean or scrubbing the floor spotless. There are plenty of resources available; you just have to find one that suits you best.

 

[Valkyrur]

Yea, I'm pretty introverted, in a sense. Around friends, not so much. Yet, I suppose my true personality is that of someone introverted, but am able to socialize well enough if I know the person- which doesn't sound so introverted after all.

Not to mention, I'm probably too shy to be screaming out loud, literally. I'd like to punch something and smash something...

Punching wise, I believe I would destroy whatever I punched, so I decided against it. Smashing something is extremely tempting, but I think of the costs incurred and get deterred instantly.

Cleaning the house...? Sounds good. I'll definitely try that the next time I get really angry. I'll suppose my mother would love me like crazy after that, lol.

 

[M1ghty Mous3]

It really depends on where i am, and how pissed off i am. Very rarely due i blow up in public and that's only when i'm at my limit. It's wierd with me. I'll get mad at something, and calm down, but mentally the rage is still held in a vile, once that vile reaches max copasity, boom. It's happened a few times and it's not a pretty site. Listening to music greatly helps avoid this scenerio, but isn't always available. Writing also helps. Sure the poems written are probably very morbid and that of a cruel nature but it's better i put it on paper then act it out.

 

[Kandy-Sugar]

I used to throw things around and not care if it broke or not.

Afterwards I would throw a hissy fit because I broke a certain object though. XD

These days I tend to do housework. I usually head straight for the dishes and then I start scrubbing the bathroom or something. Just to get my hands moving and to release some of that frustration I would have usually taken out on throwing about a phone.

I don't usually yell or anything unless I'm really ticked off. Then I'll swear my head off and be rather unlady-like.