Nothing Gonna Change My World

[Warbsywoo]

I find that people tend to attempt to influence another's point of view especially if the other person doesn't seem to adhere to a certain belief.

Take for example, my parents. ^__^
Always trying to influence me to do something that I do not wish to do, will never do, and have never even considered doing. Such as changing my personality altogether.

I don't even see the point of changing your personality, you are what you are, and that's all one needs to know. I mean, they're actually trying to pry me loose from the constraints of being quiet. I, for one, find that being quiet is a blessing, I don't get into much trouble that way.

So, question is, would you ever consider changing your personality, much less your viewpoint about life and the world in general?

 

[F. F. Fan]

I find that people tend to attempt to influence another's point of view especially if the other person doesn't seem to adhere to a certain belief.

Yeah, sad but true. There’s always one in every crowd with an arrogant assumption that their way is the best way for all. Either way, it’s really all in sticking to what you value and believe in.

However, sometimes influence can be a good thing. If the persons not a complete buffoon, then I’ll usually always try to keep an open mind in any debate as well as appreciate honest people with a little constructive criticism.

Take for example, my parents. ^__^
Always trying to influence me to do something that I do not wish to do, will never do, and have never even considered doing. Such as changing my personality altogether.

Other than what you’ve stated, what exactly is it that they’re trying to make you do?

In my opinion, never deny yourself an opportunity to experience something new (Lol… within reason and the law of course). You never know, you may end up liking it or it may change you for the better.

I don't even see the point of changing your personality, you are what you are, and that's all one needs to know. I mean, they're actually trying to pry me loose from the constraints of being quiet. I, for one, find that being quiet is a blessing, I don't get into much trouble that way.

So, question is, would you ever consider changing your personality, much less your viewpoint about life and the world in general?

Would you ever consider changing your personality?

Yes, especially if it’s costing me love or happiness.

Much less your viewpoint about life and the world in general?

Yes and no, not every outlook on life is a healthy one and regardless of what your current viewpoint is on life, it will almost always change, especially the older you get. Obviously things that seem important in your life now may not be important to you 5 or 10 years from now.

 

[Warbsywoo]

Yeah, sad but true. There’s always one in every crowd with an arrogant assumption that their way is the best way for all. Either way, it’s really all in sticking to what you value and believe in.

Agreed.

However, sometimes influence can be a good thing. If the persons not a complete buffoon, then I’ll usually always try to keep an open mind in any debate as well as appreciate honest people with a little constructive criticism.

Yes true, influence can be a good thing, just so long as you yourself like the influence, yes. Or that influence forces you into believing what is not there or is something that you don't believe in deep down.

Other than what you’ve stated, what exactly is it that they’re trying to make you do?

Keeping quiet, stay at home, you can't mix in....obviously not good influence right there. But otherwise, their influence is rather good to take to heart.

In my opinion, never deny yourself an opportunity to experience something new (Lol… within reason and the law of course). You never know, you may end up liking it or it may change you for the better.

Of course, but if that something new is something you already know is not a possibility or something that you would abhor, why take it up?

 

[Daenerys]

No way. i wouldn't change for anyone or anything. Im Just me, and if people don't like it then they can stay the hell away from me.

it sickens me when you see someone try and act totally different, or suck up to someone, because they desperatley want to be friends or want something from that person. If someone doesn't like you then fine. be yourself. don't try and change for another person. its not worth it.

 

[Dean Winchester]

If there's something I greatly despise are those people who try to manipulate others with their comments. Seriously, would it be to hard to let everyone think and behave the way they want as long as their actions doesn't harm them?

Come on I've meet numerous people who tried to make me change my behavior and I was annoyed as hell.

"Julius you must smile some more."
"Julius you are too serious"
"Julius you are too mature"
"Julius you should act more like your age"

Blah, blah, blah....

I kind of hate those who try to manipulate me and seriously the amount of recentment that I can develop once I discover someone trying to manipulate me is quite big.

Though I tend not to hate them....just to avoid issues and complains....meh


*By the way Julius is not my real name, just in case

 

[Jimmy]

Well i personally believe you should change the way you are just to please others...

But sometimes people (mainly parents) do try and give you good advices that you should follow to make you more sociable or by being less shy and stuff like that...and those advices although sometimes hard should be followed!

 

[Rorolina Frixell]

i have had to change my personality about 8 times since i first left school but if i am being influenced by others i just ignore their existence mainly because it pisses them off and also if i wanted to act in a certain way i would

 

[Rasputin]

I'm happy the way I am now, so there's no reason why I should change.

 

[Warbsywoo]

Well i personally believe you should change the way you are just to please others...

But sometimes people (mainly parents) do try and give you good advices that you should follow to make you more sociable or by being less shy and stuff like that...and those advices although sometimes hard should be followed!

You're Machiavellian attitude astounds me.
So the ends justify the means.

Well, yeah, advice is always great, but some influence you just can't bring yourself to agree with, and therefore you are presented with a dilemma. If the advice-giver is someone you know very well, would you change just to please them even if you don't like it, or would you risk friendship by rejecting it?

 

[Jimmy]

You're Machiavellian attitude astounds me.
So the ends justify the means.

Well, yeah, advice is always great, but some influence you just can't bring yourself to agree with, and therefore you are presented with a dilemma. If the advice-giver is someone you know very well, would you change just to please them even if you don't like it, or would you risk friendship by rejecting it?

I would though about the advice given and if it indeed i believed that it was for the best then i would try to ajust myself...for example if someone told me i needed to be less horny i would have to agree and try to change a bit my ways because i would recognize it was true...(or at least i would try to do it).

But if someone got near me and told i had to completely change my personality and attitude to be their friend or something like that i would of course not change at all.

But then again the people who like you the most probably don´t want or need you to change that much and that´s what matters!

 

[Warbsywoo]

But if someone got near me and told i had to completely change my personality and attitude to be their friend or something like that i would of course not change at all.

But then again the people who like you the most probably don´t want or need you to change that much and that´s what matters!

Ah yes, I agree with both.
There's no point in changing just so that you could be someone's friends. It's all over TV, isn't it? People trying to change and then ending up not liking it so they revert back to their old ways anyway.
You'd only be lying to yourself and doing something that you wouldn't even want to do.
Most likely you'll regret it even.

Friends should never influence friends in a bad way.

 

[Jimmy]

These days it´s what happens most anyway...people mostly kids changing their way of acting just to be more popular or to "hang out" with other kids...poor fools they usually end up worst then they were at the begining.

 

[Dean Winchester]

These days it´s what happens most anyway...people mostly kids changing their way of acting just to be more popular or to "hang out" with other kids...poor fools they usually end up worst then they were at the begining.

Hehehehehe

I completely agree with you on this Jimmy. All the people that I've seen and met through all my life are only mere "puppets" of the public opinion. They only change in order to be popular, mostly the men who change their behavior to a "Bad Boy" wannabe only to look cool and impress the girls.

In the end, it's our fault since we somehow influence with our actions the people around us, main reason why they change. I was once like that, trying to change everything around me but I abandoned that attitude long ago.

It's like I said once; if you lose your ability to think by yourself acting like any normal average human, trying to get involved in everything and doing the same actions each day without increasing your knowledge. If you only limit yourself to eat, sleep, and do everything that you are told to do only to satisfy others, then you my friend should consider yourself as "dead".

Because there's no real life in being just a puppet since you are not actually taking your own decisions by yourself....

 

[Warbsywoo]

Hehehehehe

I completely agree with you on this Jimmy. All the people that I've seen and met through all my life are only mere "puppets" of the public opinion. They only change in order to be popular, mostly the men who change their behavior to a "Bad Boy" wannabe only to look cool and impress the girls.

In the end, it's our fault since we somehow influence with our actions the people around us, main reason why they change. I was once like that, trying to change everything around me but I abandoned that attitude long ago.

It's like I said once; if you lose your ability to think by yourself acting like any normal average human, trying to get involved in everything and doing the same actions each day without increasing your knowledge. If you only limit yourself to eat, sleep, and do everything that you are told to do only to satisfy others, then you my friend should consider yourself as "dead".

Because there's no real life in being just a puppet since you are not actually taking your own decisions by yourself....

I completely agree with everything here.
It's quite alright to satisfy others, but to the excess is just a big no-no.
Being unique is what living means, in my opinion.
Changing for the benefit of others or to lure friends into your circle is probably the most foolish thing that a person can do.

 

[Saix]

No on can force me to change, so I'll be who I want to be for as long as I want to be that way. Like most others, I've had the usual talks about changing aspects of myself to appear more socially accepted, but I always brush such things off. It's unimportant to me.


However I'll change parts of myself when I see fit, at some point. Obviously I'll have to alter aspects of myself for the whole 'adulthood' business, but that's not for a while yet.

 

[Warbsywoo]

Yeah, we always do have to adapt to everything we encounter in life or we lose. We can fight it, but it's gonna be tough. So sometimes it's just best to conform for your own sake for a while and when you know that it's safe, then proceed with changing.

That's how I look at it.