Serious No, it's not that romantic.

Dolores Haze

Dolores Haze

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Unrequited love is love that is not openly reciprocated, even though reciprocation is usually deeply desired. The beloved may or may not be aware of the admirer's deep affections.

Okay. I'm not in love. No way am I going to say I'm in love, I've never felt anything that strong. Except for like.. family. WHATEVER.

Well. Basically. Let's start from the.. start. Grand idea.

One day about a year ago - when our darling !B had hair above her ears that was massively curly - B had photo day. What fun. The girls and the boys were in two different lines, in alphabetical order. I'm R. I was behind one of those OHMAI HAIR FLICK I'M SO HAWT :gasp: girls, and she turned around and pointed to the boy about.. idk. 10m away? And asked if I thought he was hot.

I've never had a crush on anyone (alas, my first love was Kiba >_>), and looked over at this guy I'd never seen before and honestly said 'No,'

I haven't been able to stop looking at him since then.
I wasn't in his friend circle - I actually hung out with the corner-sitters. So I only saw him in class .. but I keep thinking about him. He dated my friend for about six months, then broke up with her. Now he's going out with a new girl.

And it's so frustrating. He was away for a week once, and my day felt empty. Other than classes and friends, I had nothing to do. I wanted to be self-conscious, and think that every glance was a stare. I don't get the tickles or anything, I just feel like I know where he is (-stalker- :monster:). And we keep bumping into eachother, which doesn't help.

The worst part is.. he'll never like me. I don't want to celebrate my little rejection anniversary every year (one year so far. ._.). I just want to stop wanting to look at him. I've never been asked out by anyone, either. I don't obsess over this, I'm not like that. I care more about going the wrong way in the Sphere Grid than I care about my relationship status on Facebook.

But in the movies and the stories the girl always gets someone. The adorer gets the object of their affections (we're not counting Erik and Christine here :gasp:). I wouldn't mind some closure. Just say you don't like me. IT'LL HELP. >_> But noo. Now I have to go and chain your lover to my portcullis and hang him while singing until you kiss me. Sounds like a plan :monster:

.. this post is too long. And no-one cares. XD

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-is gone-

Help if you want o_O;
 
I care more about going the wrong way in the Sphere Grid than I care about my relationship status on Facebook.
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I fuckign lol'd hard xD

You're only young, and who needs men anyway? The movies all lie, real life is bog all like that, jut enjoy staring at him, I had a crush on a lad in school for 3 years :wacky: It does pass then you look back fondly and lol at yourself

Im 26 and single and I love it :awesome:
 
i had something like that once, everytime this person(A) come online i was like :awesome: or when i saw her in college or sumin i felt tingley , but it wasnt to appropriate, as i had a gf of a year and a half at the time, i hated that i felt like it but couldnt help it, it didnt help that it turns out she really liked me =/ and kept inviting me out n to hers n shiz... the only way i got over it was once i left college and didnt see her, so im not saying leave school, but try and see him as least possible, or find someone you can stare at who will stare back ? lol
she still slips into my mind sometimes but rarley, i dont think you really get over these things very quickly(its been a year, mabie a little more coz me n gf sorted some shit out n been together 3 years nerly now)
i know this isnt much help but i hope it helped a lil
 
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Bambi said:
The movies all lie, real life is bog all like that
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LET ME DREAM!!!!!




Anyways, is this just an attraction based on how he looks, do you actually know him? He could just be a complete idiot really.
 
DLFlux said:
LET ME DREAM!!!!!




Anyways, is this just an attraction based on how he looks, do you actually know him? He could just be a complete idiot really.
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I do know him, he's been in every class I've had for a year. He's nice. And funny >_> Plus when he dated my friend he would put his arm around her alot. :gasp: I would like that.

you're welcome for the lulz Kelly :wacky:

The thing I don't like is it makes me doubt if I'm pretty enough. At least I know Teddie or Vikki would date me :gasp:
 
Try to find someone else..its the best way lol. Its hard though, the best way to do it is either go in for the kill or get away as much as you can.
 
i have this problem too, except i met him in sports training and he always makes me laugh with his crazy antics and insults to nobody in particular. but yeah, kep on dreaming and have confidence to talk to him, girl, just like i did! :monster:
 
Well, yeah if you really wanna get together with him, you have to be confident that you have a chance. If your not confident about it, then try to gain confidence little by little.
 
Soooooo..... why didn't/haven't you asked him to play Parchesi yet? Or whatever it is you kids are doing these days.

Seriously. I know you said he started dating someone after he broke up with your friend, and if they're still together I'm not suggesting becoming a homewrecker, but once they break up (....and they will....) slide in for the kill. You say he'll never like you, but you never know. He might, once given the opportunity.

Really though, ask him. The worst that can happen is he'll say no. And then you can move on. If he says yes, then you're good to go.
 
This has happened to me many times in my life, but not as long as a year. I would always feel like "I have feelings for this girl", but it was never the case. Most of the time, they never liked me either, or at least not to my knowledge they did. Eventually I'd get a grip of myself and realize that I didn't have a chance with her or she just doesn't feel the same for me and moved on. One word explains what you're feeling, it's a "crush". You like the guy and see him, but don't have any special attachment to him. Maybe you're also waiting for him to tell you he doesn't like you, but you don't know that for sure. Maybe he wants to tell you he does like you, but either feels intimidated by you or just doesn't know how to go about it. Maybe he doesn't realize that you like him and hasn't taken the first step yet.

If you really feel like you want to have something with him, you should drop him a few hints so he gets the idea that you like him. If you really think it's not a promising situation, then look at it as a temporary crush, then move on. Hopefully that helps B.
 
Going to say many things and guess you can pick which one. Sorry just have many mixed feelings/ emotions on this.

1 : Have Confidence and get to know him as a close- Friend and much deeper. Once you know him better. His personality will show more deeper than before and it would be easier to choose whether this crush is really heading towards something or just a crush that feelings could change for in a few years time.

2 : Your Young. Enjoy your freedom of being single. You seem to enjoy / don't mind being single and your a rather smart/ intelligent girl for your age. So maybe have fun. Enjoy being single and free and maybe wait a little longer for relationships

3 : Society pushes/ forces Women to have a Boyfriend. You Must have a Boyfriend otherwise your a looser type of thing. Espically in those ''Seventeen'' type of Teen Mags.
Would just say ignore the force and don't feel pressured to have a relationship.

4 : Kind of believe that the feelings of Love is somebody that you want to care for, embrace, be close to and support. And a person that you think about/ alot - on your mind. And you just have a urge to embrace/ hold him. Being in love with somebody in real-life ( non- online =p ) really.... feel this way.

5 : Keep your emotions on hold for a couple of weeks. Mood/ emotions change alot.
And crushes come and go like the four seasons. One moment your really thinking about somebody and then next moment it's like- ''whatever ''. If you really adore this guy. You will feel strongly about him for months and really want to be with him.

6 : Wait a while and when he is available. Ask him how he feels. And if he says yes, enjoy the relationship and if he says no, shrug your shoulders and move on with life.

.. 6 sounds good.
 
In High School dating is very random. It doesn't matter if you have a great personality or even if you're fantastically pretty. It's best to just give up on those years. I could be one of the optimistic "OMG ASK HIM OUT" people...but realistically it'll end in you being crushed.

I guess you're just going to have to stick it out. Concentrate on things that make you happy. And just realize that he is not one of those things.

Once you go on after HS things will get much better. People will see you more as a person instead of the "hair flicking girl." I'm sure your stereotype is different maybe a "corner sitter" (since those are your friends) or something but you catch my drift.
 
I really have no business in being here, seems more like a woman discussion than anything else. If a girl has a crush on me, and lets say I'm single.. well then I pick up on it pretty well. I mean women aren't all that hard to read unless it is conversational. You can always dig yourself a hole if you are guy, which makes me really timid when it comes from opinionated topics.

B, all I can say is this, personally speaking. You have a great personality, as little I've seen of you on these forums, you seem to be pretty passionate, as well as fun to be around. Without blowing to much smoke up your arse, all I can say is I would assume this guy is pretty special to you if you have a crush on him. Guys are pushovers. Just be yourself as lame as that sounds, but seriously. If you are new to flirting and such - just make sure you stare into his eyes while speaking to him(not like a psychopath though =P). Always throw small hints out there, and maybe.. just maybe he will get it. I'm sure you have a chance, but its up to you to decide where you take it or not.
 
Shu said:
I really have no business in being here, seems more like a woman discussion than anything else. If a girl has a crush on me, and lets say I'm single.. well then I pick up on it pretty well. I mean women aren't all that hard to read unless it is conversational. You can always dig yourself a hole if you are guy, which makes me really timid when it comes from opinionated topics.
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This is because wimminz are far better at that then we guys are. They're subtle, but you can always tell. Sometimes guys just need a little encouragement.
now to address, the issue.
You need to talk to him and text him, either as a friend or a casual acquaintance, if you really do like him, whenever your phone vibrates your heart will be aflutter etc etc.
If you don't talk to him then cultivate his friendship, but be subtle.
If you don't feel free to wallow in the pain of unrequited love, that his name will shock you every time you hear it and you'll do your best to hide it. I think I may just prefer unrequited love to the dull contentment that is a relationship, but I doubt that you'll feel the same way.
 
I just got out of hs a year ago..and don't be worried about being in a relationship like everyone is saying..its better to grow now then later, even when your not ready for it.
 
I'm kind of loving the fact that most people are suggesting that I get over him, or that it's too early. you're all being very supportive ^^; I think I actually might be getting over him. Whoot 8D

yeah. this is a shit post. >_>
 
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