Serious It's funny

[M1ghty Mous3]

I see people all around me who either have a life or have a special someone. I however do not. I'd like to atleast have a job so i could go out an buy things, go see movies and ect. My brother is almost never home, either working or hanging out with friends. The only friends i do have, work and have life to deal with, so they don't have a lot of time to hangout. Fuck, i don't even have a damn license to drive.

I understand that people go through shit time after time, but seriously? The only big landmark i've done lately is graduate highschool. And even that wasn't rewarding in a sence. Yeah its cool not having to go to school anymore, but it's not something i'm proud of or anything. And not to say i'm not proud of it, but just not like what most people feel when they graduate. I really want to get fucked up right now and the funny thing is, i'm happiest when intoxicated, regarless of the substance. And what's worse, i can't tell my fam cause they'd pry send me to a rehab facility, and i know that won't help.

I can't even qualify for the fucking navy, THE NAVY of all branches! And everyone's like ' well you can write a letter to your congressman and get an appeal" or something like that. But then id have to explaine how i went through the whole process, send it, wait for him to read it, and THEN send me an approval back. And i don't really want to go to the army cause i'd like to not go to Iraq.

I have at most, 2 possible jobs i can look forward to, and even then i don't know if the places will hire me. Haven't even had a damn interview yet. And to top it all off, mom and pops are giving me shit for not having a job and being lazy and what not. They don't seem to consider since depression runs in the family that i might be depressed right now.

It's funny. The world at my fingertips and i can't even make a fist. Sometimes i think drifting away and just leaving it all behind wouldn't be such a bad idea. I hate society and how it's run, what it expects of people and all that who ha. I'll never be able to assimilate into society fully. Even if do find a job, and can support myself, the chances of me being stable for a long time are slim since you mostly have to go to collage now to be successfull. But i don't want to be successful , i just want to get by enough to be happy doing what i do.

 

[Busta]

That's a rough predicament man. I'm just gonna say that while graduating high school may seem like not that big of an achievement to those of us who have done it, it really is in the long run of thing. It's just that it hardly means squat anymore when trying to get a job saying "Oh, I graduated High School, I'm ready to work!"

For some reason society doesn't see it that way anymore and now it's college you have to do. Heck, I completed 4 years of college myself, got a Bachelor's degree in Criminal Justice, and still wasn't satisfied with the job I would have been doing for the rest of my life. I didn't want to be a cop or a prison guard for the next 30+ years, and the jobs I wanted to do all required "further education". Further education? Are you fucking serious? I just spent around $80,000 total to do 4 years of college to get the job I want and you're saying I'm not done with school yet? Graduate school for a Masters degree. Blow me. I joined the Air Force.

The military is not a bad option at all man. I know you said the Navy is the only one that will take you due to some reasons you haven't given yet it seems, but they pay for almost everything you can imagine which lightens a big burden on you, and you meet an ass-load of people you couldn't imagine. Travel, friends, etc., it's a blast. I hope you find something soon and it's something you can enjoy. I'd rather do something enjoyable my whole life and it be considered mediocre by others than be mega-successful and not like my profession at all.

 

[JesusVsThePolice]

I know how you feel, dude. I went through the same thing after I graduated. Fuckin' lost and not sure what to do. I was going to college for some bullshit classes and eventually dropped out after a year and a half. Ended up getting a job working at a prison as a prison guard.

Why couldn't you qualify for the Navy? Did you not score high enough on the Asvab? If you don't want to go the Iraq your best choice would probably be the coast guard. And you don't have to live near water to join the coast guard. I'd rather take the Army over the navy anyway. Ugly uniforms and I don't care too much for the water. Plus it all depends on what kind of job you get in the military that determines where you go. I'm trying to go in for something in the medic field.

Just find you a small job, if you can. The economy is pretty bad right now and even in my town Mcdonalds isn't even hiring. But yeah, just get a shitty job at a food place or a Block Buster or something. Just at least till something better comes along. I'm half tempted to put in an application at the Applebees here in town because of all the women that work there. That's another thing about food jobs, man. You'll be in pretty tight with the women after a few weeks. You'll be able to hang out with them and shit after work if you don't weird them out. And if you do some waiting, you might get some numbers from the female customers. Never know, man.

Just keep your head up, bro. At least you got a free place to eat and sleep. Even if you did get a job, don't be in a rush t get your own place. Stay as long as your parents let you and save that money. Good luck, buddy.

 

[CassinoChips]

I see people all around me who either have a life or have a special someone. I however do not.

Get yourself right before you worry about someone else. The other person can turn into a dependency, and that's not fair to either of you.

Fuck, i don't even have a damn license to drive.

Public transportation is a wonderful thing.

I understand that peopel go throug hshit time after time, but seriously? The only big landmark i've done lately is graduate highschool.

Give it time. You're only 18-ish (I'm guessing). Quite a few more years left, and most people don't do anything landmark worthy when they're a kid anyway.

I really want to get fucked up right now and the funny thing is, i'm happiest when intoxicated, regarless of the substance. And what's worse, i can't tell my fam cause they'd pry send me to a rehab facility, and i know that won't help.

You need rehab. Actually, first you need to realize you need rehab. Then you need rehab. You're using the drugs as an escape. The problem is, your problems are lurking on the other side of the high/hangover. So you're left with 2 options: A) Be perpetually wasted; B) Fix the problems.

I can't even qualify for the fucking navy, THE NAVY of al branches! And everyone's like ' well yo ucan write a letter to your congressman and get an appeal" or something like that. But tehn'd id have to explaine how i went through the whole process, send it, wait for him to read it, and THEN send me an approval back. And i don't really want to go to the army cause i'd like to not go to Iraq.

Then I wouldn't join the military. Unless it's the Coast Guard. I have family in the Air Force, and they went to Iraq. Even if you're Navy, there's still a pretty good likelihood that you'll end up in the Middle East.

I have at most, 2 possible jobs i can look forward to, and even then i don't knw if the places will hire me. Haven't even had a damn interview yet. And to top it all off, mom and pops are giving me shit for not having a job and eing lazy and what not. They don't seem to consider since depression runs in teh family that i might be depressed right now.

Then go see a psychologist and get diagnosed. Or even your General Practitioner can prescribe you some mood stabilizers.

It's funny. The world at my fingertips and i can't even make a fist. Sometimes i thin kdrifting away and just leaving it all behind wouldn't be such a bad idea. I hate society and how it's run, what it expecs of people and all that who ha. I'll never be able to assimilate into society fully. Even if do find a job, and can support myself, the canhces of me beign stable for a long time are slim since you mostly have to go to collage now to be successfull. But i don't want to be successful , i just want to get by enough to be happy doing what i do.

Plenty of people get by without a college degree. And I hear you about getting by and being happy. That's what we all want, I think.

 

[M1ghty Mous3]

Why couldn't you qualify for the Navy? Did you not score high enough on the Asvab?

I got 57 when i took the asvab, 7 pts above whats required. The reason i wasn't quialified was because i can't hear high pitches in my left ear. And what's fucked up is my recruiter said the only job i culdn't do would be sonar tech. Looks liek he was mis-informed.

You need rehab. Actually, first you need to realize you need rehab. Then you need rehab. You're using the drugs as an escape. The problem is, your problems are lurking on the other side of the high/hangover. So you're left with 2 options: A) Be perpetually wasted; B) Fix the problems.

I'm not saying your wrong but hear me out, i can funtion without being intoxicated, i just enjoy being intoxicated. Alchoholism runs in the family and since it can manifest itself by other substances, i'm kinda fucked. I love beer. BEing high, and tripping nuts. Why? Not to escape, oh no far from it. I like wandering into different dimensionals and seing what my brainb can create when given a natural boost by suich substances. It's fun to go on a magical quest while sitting down for hours. The brain is a powerful thing and i plan on getting all tha ti can out of it, even if humans wern;t meant to.

 

[Shu]

Why? Not to escape, oh no far from it. I like wandering into different dimensionals and seing what my brainb can create when given a natural boost by suich substances. It's fun to go on a magical quest while sitting down for hours. The brain is a powerful thing and i plan on getting all tha ti can out of it, even if humans wern;t meant to.

Only problem is alcohol kills brain cells, and although we have a lot more than we know what to do with, pretty soon your memory will be blanking on a bunch of stuff. You might be tripping, getting high now, but your liver along with brain and plus the rest of your body will give out accordingly. Liver from the alcohol, brain from the drugs and alcohol. If you are popping pills then it's very possible some of your organs will start to bleed.

You are 18 now, but your body will be like 40 year old in a year or two if you keep going down that path. My point is, wouldn't you rather do something with yourself that in turn makes you more productive? If your parents are starting to complain about your lack of job, well transportation is a must but you do have to bust your ass if you only have a diploma at this point. People with 2 majors right now are still having a hard time finding jobs. Trust me, I know.. we just hired someone recently at an IT position which barely makes 22k a year and they have 2 masters, and have worked elsewhere too.

In my opinion, and not to sound like a parent, you can't spread yourself thin. Be yourself, and try to get harder to get a job, most folks see the effort and want someone like you. If you are still on drugs/alcohol though, I'd suggest getting that fixed first.

 

[M1ghty Mous3]

Only problem is alcohol kills brain cells, and although we have a lot more than we know what to do with, pretty soon your memory will be blanking on a bunch of stuff. You might be tripping, getting high now, but your liver along with brain and plus the rest of your body will give out accordingly. Liver from the alcohol, brain from the drugs and alcohol. If you are popping pills then it's very possible some of your organs will start to bleed.

You are 18 now, but your body will be like 40 year old in a year or two if you keep going down that path. My point is, wouldn't you rather do something with yourself that in turn makes you more productive? If your parents are starting to complain about your lack of job, well transportation is a must but you do have to bust your ass if you only have a diploma at this point. People with 2 majors right now are still having a hard time finding jobs. Trust me, I know.. we just hired someone recently at an IT position which barely makes 22k a year and they have 2 masters, and have worked elsewhere too.

In my opinion, and not to sound like a parent, you can't spread yourself thin. Be yourself, and try to get harder to get a job, most folks see the effort and want someone like you. If you are still on drugs/alcohol though, I'd suggest getting that fixed first.

I haven't smoked since saturday, tripping hasn't occured since i have no idea, not recemntly though. And being drunk last night in the first time in 2 weeks. I'm not saying people are wrong, just giving them an idea of how often i use. Which isn't very often.

 

[Dee]

To me, it just sounds like you're making excuses. If you're really in such a slump, you would at least consider seeking help. If not rehab, then maybe therapy? Having someone to talk to who can give you an outlet for your fears and anxieties may help. You don't have to tell that person you're on drugs, as, apparently, it is not an inhibition to your everyday life just yet.

I believe you can pull yourself out of this supposed early onset of depression if you truly wanted to, even if it may take some time. The least you can do is begin to realize you need to do something before it gets worse. If you can rely on someone, tell them you think something is wrong, you could at least go from there.

And hon, you're so young. Don't even begin to think that this is the worst of it. If you keep going down the path you're on now, I can guarantee you--1000%--that is it not going to get any easier; not by a long shot. You've got a choice here. You've got the whole world open to you and if you cannot do this on your own, then you need to step out of your box and start utilizing your resources. Call a hotline. Talk to a therapist. I don't know. There are so many places and people you can turn to. You just need to take the initiative before it gets so bad that you know for damn sure you won't.

 

[blakstang98]

I'd say you actually don't have it all that bad at the moment. You have your high school diploma, which you may think isn't much of anything, but it really is important. Even though your parents are on your case about getting a job, you still live with them, so you have a home. And as far as the social aspects of life, it is what it is. Unfortunately, with the ending of a period of school, whether it be high school or college, you tend to lose your friends. This is a result of either you or them moving to a new place to pursue a career (in the college case), one goes to college and the other works, so you just won't run into each other as much, and people are coming of age and are looking toward settling down with someone which generally takes a toll on said couple's relationships with their friends (though it should never be something that destroys a friendship).

I mean, I don't see a problem with what you're doing as far as looking for a job and taking tests to qualify for the Navy. You're making an effort and things aren't landing. This sort of thing does happen, unfortunately, but the only thing you can due is just continue to pursue a job and/or get into the Navy. It doesn't help that jobs are hard to come by at the moment, but keep trying, something will land. As for the Navy, they're right, sonar would be the only place you wouldn't be able to work with your hearing issue. I know for a fact that if that is the only issue, then you should be able to work in any other area of the boat. So I'd say either they're withholding another reason why you didn't qualify or they're simply not accepting any new applicants. If being in the Navy is what you really want to do, I'd say keep pulling at that string until you get a real answer as to why you don't qualify or until they do decide to accept you.

And as others have already mentioned, drinking and/or doing drugs excessively is not a good thing. I'm not going to tell you that you shouldn't do any of them, that's totally your choice, but just make sure to take caution to using them excessively. Booze is dangerous if you constantly drink, but a few drinks here and there won't hurt anyone. Drugs are a little more tricky because that could show up in a pre-employment drug screening, which will keep you out of a job. At least be wary of what you are taking if you have hopes for landing a job. I worked in the rental car business while I was in college, and I know for a fact that they're hiring at this time of year, so that could be an option for a job. But as I just stated, they do pre-employment drug screenings, but no random testing, so if you were to apply for that, clean out your system first.

I wish you the best of luck in your endeavors sir.

 

[M1ghty Mous3]

I'm full aware of pre-drug screening and try to stay away from drugs for a week or so while looking for jobs. I turned in like 5 or 6 apps yesterday, and i have a friend whose uncle is looking for night time med assistent, make sure he takes his meds, if he needs med attent, call an ambulance, simple stuff ike that. So hopefully thing will looks up rather soon. And maybe it's just me being flip-flop-ish but idk if i want t ogo to the military now. I understand you meet new people and the pay for collage plus it's travel, but i don't know if i really want to do it.

I've come to realise that this was all a result of being blue and drinking the night it was posted. Yes i'm still not in the absolute best mental state, but im nowhere near as blue as i was that night. Os if this late information has inconvienced anyone, i am sorry for that.

Update: My parenst don't give 2 shits what i do anymore. Guessi broke the string for the final time. In all honestly, they brought it upon themselves. And no thats not a fucking excuse.