I hate talking to people face to face about my feelings... But if people really care about me IRL, they tend to coax the facts outta me, but only if I feel that they're genuine, which I normally decide throw slow, careful examination of their mannerisms and how they generally act around me.
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I feel the same way. It's hard to talk face-to-face. But I think that's what makes a physical relationship better than internet; it's something you really have to invest yourself into, something that's scarier but eventually more satisfying.
Exactly... With an online relationship, all you have is words. And you have to feel you actually trust those words. You can't talk to someone face-to-face, and you can't read their actions as easily. It's extremely hard to know anyone's intentions.
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To each his own I suppose. But I do think that internet relationships should eventually culminate in physical meetings. I'll buy long-distance relationships, but I'm apprehensive at the thought of a web-cam marriage.
Oh yeah definately, I don't see the point otherwise.......but I think I will just stick to RL boyfriends and just not tell them anything personal lol....
Gawd and I wonder why I'm single xD
Have you heard of a girl who suicided because her e-partner dumped her.And she was only 13.Her e-parnter never existed,it was a bad joke of some kids who disliked her and of of her ex-friends.
These are the consiquences of e-dating.
But if you want more then ok.
I personally have tried,it was ended up bad(except some times)I believe I was too immature now that I remember it.I'd never tried that again.I had gottan so obsessed that my grades were so low and I was all day lurning on MSN.I also got e-cheated once xDD,which made me so furious and sad.I was stupid takin these things so seriously.
Now generally it can lead to a change of behaviour,it can also make you a sl*t.That's the worse and it can destroy your future.
Not knowing who your dating is a pretty serious issue,how about if he's a pervert 80year-old pedo or a criminal or some guy/girl from your school who wants to embarrasses you?
I believe that those who rely on e-dating have a low self-esteem or high insecurance or too desperate cause they can't have a real date.
Even if it looks like something fun and stupid someone might get hurt or cause him lots of problems.
And any case you meet the person you're dating I'm pretty sure you'll get vey disappointed cause it's not the same talking to him/her face to face and talking him through internet.
These are the consiquences of e-dating.
But if you want more then ok.
I personally have tried,it was ended up bad(except some times)I believe I was too immature now that I remember it.I'd never tried that again.I had gottan so obsessed that my grades were so low and I was all day lurning on MSN.I also got e-cheated once xDD,which made me so furious and sad.I was stupid takin these things so seriously.
Now generally it can lead to a change of behaviour,it can also make you a sl*t.That's the worse and it can destroy your future.
Not knowing who your dating is a pretty serious issue,how about if he's a pervert 80year-old pedo or a criminal or some guy/girl from your school who wants to embarrasses you?
I believe that those who rely on e-dating have a low self-esteem or high insecurance or too desperate cause they can't have a real date.
Even if it looks like something fun and stupid someone might get hurt or cause him lots of problems.
And any case you meet the person you're dating I'm pretty sure you'll get vey disappointed cause it's not the same talking to him/her face to face and talking him through internet.
Too dangerous. You'd have to have some concrete method for determining exactly who it is you're communicating with.
All that can be true for having a relationship with someone not over the internet though. People have committed suicide over break ups, people have ended up being with weirdos. It happens all the time.
About the suicide is true.
A girl killed herself over fake myspace e-bf.
I'll give you a link if you don't believe me.
Read:http://edition.cnn.com/2007/US/11/17/internet.suicide.ap/index.html
A girl killed herself over fake myspace e-bf.
I'll give you a link if you don't believe me.
Read:http://edition.cnn.com/2007/US/11/17/internet.suicide.ap/index.html
Never said I don't believe you, but that happens irl all the time too.
You cannot really know since there are over 6 bil. people around the world and no one can know who has psycological problems.
Just TV isn't showing them doesn't mean that things like this don't happen often.
Just TV isn't showing them doesn't mean that things like this don't happen often.
I think you're missing my point entirely. I'm agreeing with you, but also pointing out that it happens all the time with normal relationships too. You can't use that as an argument against it really. I've seen plenty work out.
I never mentioned that this doesn't happen in real relationships as well.
And I agree that it happens more often.
But not knowing a person and having a relationship with them can get someone to death.
Whether they suicide or the one who thy're dating has problems.
You have the wrong idea of someone over the internet and no matter how careful you are you don't know him.
In real life though your the one who chooses him/her knowing his true self and it's your own responsibility if you choose a jerk that is also notorius and you're already aware of that.
But there have been relationships who have succeded and both of them are happy with each other.
And I agree that it happens more often.
But not knowing a person and having a relationship with them can get someone to death.
Whether they suicide or the one who thy're dating has problems.
You have the wrong idea of someone over the internet and no matter how careful you are you don't know him.
In real life though your the one who chooses him/her knowing his true self and it's your own responsibility if you choose a jerk that is also notorius and you're already aware of that.
But there have been relationships who have succeded and both of them are happy with each other.
What's to say that you really know whoever it is you're with irl though? It's just as easy to pretend to be someone you're not offline as it is on.
Judging from your answers you must be e-dating.
Have you met your e-gf?
You might not like her or vice versa.
I once talked to a friend ,who I first had met in real life,who had just created a MSN account and added me.
But through the internet she gave me a very different opinion,maybe I misunderstood her.She looked so odd in the internet when in real life I really admire her.
But you can't also read someone's feeling in the lines he writing to you.
You just don't have to take what I believe so seriously.Cause really,it doesn't concern you.I'm talking for specific people,if that's the right word to use.
Have you met your e-gf?
You might not like her or vice versa.
I once talked to a friend ,who I first had met in real life,who had just created a MSN account and added me.
But through the internet she gave me a very different opinion,maybe I misunderstood her.She looked so odd in the internet when in real life I really admire her.
But you can't also read someone's feeling in the lines he writing to you.
You just don't have to take what I believe so seriously.Cause really,it doesn't concern you.I'm talking for specific people,if that's the right word to use.
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Yes, I am. And I understand that whole "they might be a different person really" thing, but I trust her a lot.
However, I've never noticed a difference
in my rl friends when they're online. At all. Maybe it's just you.
However, I've never noticed a difference
in my rl friends when they're online. At all. Maybe it's just you.
You CAN tell a difference... But only if you actually pay attention IRL. Listen to someone carefully, examine their actions, examine their reactions. You can tell what a person feels in real life by just being there and taking it all in. You can't do that with an online relationship.
See?This guy gots a point and i agree with him.
I also don't think you answered my question,have you met any of your girls you've dated online in real life?
And I'm not talking about seeing a pic of them.
I also don't think you answered my question,have you met any of your girls you've dated online in real life?
And I'm not talking about seeing a pic of them.
Not yet I haven't. Give it two weeks though.
And you guys obviously just have no trust in anyone. Not everyone on the internet is a crazy stalker rapist murderer.
And you guys obviously just have no trust in anyone. Not everyone on the internet is a crazy stalker rapist murderer.
Not yet I haven't. Give it two weeks though.
And you guys obviously just have no trust in anyone. Not everyone on the internet is a crazy stalker rapist murderer.
That's why there is the right of free speech,cause no one judges things the same way as the others.
And I believe that nowdays I shouldn't trust not even my own shadow.
And I believe that nowdays I shouldn't trust not even my own shadow.
No they arn't, but many are.Not yet I haven't. Give it two weeks though.
And you guys obviously just have no trust in anyone. Not everyone on the internet is a crazy stalker rapist murderer.
Internet dating is a big no no. It's pointless really and kinda sad.