Honesty --- The Best Policy?

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Is honesty really the best policy?
I mean, for one, being honest can gain you respect with the right people, but then again, being honest can get you in trouble much more easily.

Imagine it when you honestly say something and people don't believe you because they believe that you are lying.

Imagine it when you say something truthfully and it gets you in trouble because you revealed something that you promised not to impart.

I'll post more of my thoughts later.
 
Some people need to be lied to. You know how some people just can't handle the truth? E.g. "Yes, you do look fat in that dress"; and then they flip out and never talk to you again because you "betrayed" them?
In other words...ignorant people should be fed lies for breakfast, lunch, and dinner.

I on the other hand admire someone who is honest.
 
True, it is noble to be honest, but sometimes it just gets you into all sorts of trouble.
A little lie is worth it sometimes, I mean, it sounds immoral {does it?} but it's sort of necessary --- a testament to how mean this world really can be.

But then again, telling truths and not lies also plants the seeds for change.

And yeh, it's quite hypocritical, in my opinion, that people ask for your own opinion and then disregard it or even get offended by it.
How mean!
 
If someone asks for your opinion and then disregards it, then it's obvious that they were only fishing for attention. Someone who is offended by a requested opinion is egotistical.

Only idiots need to be lied to.
 
I agree with you both. A little lie wouldn't hurt every now and then. It's necessary sometimes...it can't be helped. But if it's something big and important, then honesty is definitely the way to go, no matter how bad the outcome might be for you (for instance, getting in trouble.)

And then of course, there's the "boy who cried wolf!" story. Good lesson to be learned there.

Honesty is all about trust. If you want to be trusted, then try to avoid lying. I know it's part of humanity, but we shouldn't make that as an excuse for our choices.

Hmm, then there's the harmless lying where it usually consists of joking around with friends. But that's another story. xD
 
Mitsuki said:


Hmm, then there's the harmless lying where it usually consists of joking around with friends. But that's another story. xD
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That, that I have heard from a lot lately xD

But true, no matter what the outcome, telling the truth can only make it better. Even if you do get punished for it, you for one, get something off your chest, and then, it eventually heals itself.
It would be much, much worse, if you lied in a serious situation.

But then again, like most things, there are ways around that.
People succumb so easily to pressure and torture that it's easy to blurt out the truth and get in so much more trouble.
Lying would often get you killed.
 
Some called me the father of lies, but I've found if you really want to manipulate or hurt someone, you tell them the dead truth.

Then again, I would have to say that the best lies are half-truths.
 
Lucifer Morningstar said:
Some called me the father of lies, but I've found if you really want to manipulate or hurt someone, you tell them the dead truth.

Then again, I would have to say that the best lies are half-truths.
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What exactly do you mean?
You mean little white lies can harm no one? Is there even such a thing as a good lie?

Well, I guess, I suppose I have my heart set in there as well.
I've been hurt by truth as well, after all, the truth is the truth, and it is a more powerful force than lying is.
It makes people go face to face to what their lives are all about.
 
Some people cant handle the truth... Sometimes I tell people the truth and they get pissed, then they start trying to tell me why my "truth" is wrong... so I give up with those types of people and just tell them a white lie next time
 
I don't think there's a such thing as a good lie or a bad lie. A lie is a lie. It all depends on how stubborn the person is that you're telling it to. Some people WANT to be lied to.
 
Nephany said:
I don't think there's a such thing as a good lie or a bad lie. A lie is a lie. It all depends on how stubborn the person is that you're telling it to. Some people WANT to be lied to.
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I find that both a truth and a sad thing. I guess it's only because people want to find comfort in things, no matter how far from the truth it is. =\
 
Oh, I don't mean little white lies.

I mean if you're really going to become good at lying, you learn to mix just enough truth in with the lies in order to make them believable.

Starting out, go with about an 80%/20% ratio of truth to fallacy, but as you get better at it, cut back on the truth more and more.

At this point, I feel my best work is done at about 10/90. Just enough truth to use as bate, the rest, pure fabrication.
 
I mean if you're really going to become good at lying, you learn to mix just enough truth in with the lies in order to make them believable.
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I know exactly what you mean. Just yesterday I had to 'lie' intentionally, although I mixed some truth in it. T'was part of my job as a mystery shopper, and so I had to create a little scenario that's believable enough - hence a lie nonetheless. But as I said my story, some truth just came out naturally. For instance, I told the BA at Chanel that I was interested in a skincare lotion, and even though I was not planning on buying it in the first place - truth of the matter is, I WAS interested. I would love to know what would make my skin look more vibrant or whatever. I told him it was also for my grandma (a lie) and if I can acquire his business card (which was needed for me to complete the job) so I can give it to her.

But yeah, with that kind of thing, those can be actually pretty fun.
 
It depends on what type of lie it is, a little white lie doesn't hurt anyone and can actually be quite good fun, and normally it's amusing if that person finds out. However, the major difficulty between honesty and lying is when it's something serious that could literally break them, I've known people at parties we have (normally it's the same group of around 15-20) and one time some lass we knew a bit but not alot got off with someone's ex that had literally only just stopped going out with her, however, he also got off with her that night. So I saw him getting off with this lass that normally doesn't come and his ex that he got off with asked me if I'd seen them get off and although I really didn't want to tell the truth I found myself in the situation that I had to otherwise it would make the situation. So I did and she proper booted hitting him then wanting to hit her, then right outside screaming, ran back in looking to hit her then started saying suicidal shit.

Albeit, that was a difficult situation both to be in and describe so it's not the best example. However, the point in my opinion is that honesty is always the best way, lying just builds someone up and leads them into a false stance only to be hurt twice as much when they found out the truth than what they would be if they found out the truth in the first place.

I don't think that made any sense whatsoever :wacky:
 
People can't expect to be perfect every chance they can get. I don't like being lied to nor do I like telling lies, but sometimes if it's with certain people I would rather give a white lie sometimes. Say you have a girlfriend, cough, and and she cuts her hair just like her sister (real short) and you really like long hair on her, well you are forced to keep her feelings in mind and give her some B.S. for that amount of time. It will grow back.. lol.

I mean being to honest "all the time" to people is like being blunt all the time. If someone asks you for your opinion even though they are asking it, they don't always want the straight up honest truth. I don't believe you would have any friends in that way. Some people want to hear a certain answer even before they ask you, so indulge them for the time being. I know when I'm being set up, to say the least.

If it's something serious though, never I mean never tell lies. Also never tell lies in relationships, they will be destroyed like a matasticizing tumor of cancer. Slowly and surely, I've seen people go through some f-ed up relationships because of it, I myself try to stay completely honest at all times, even if it gets the girl pissed off. Women can be tricky! If they are excited about a certain top and they turn to you and say.. "do you like it?" What do you do? Take away their spark by telling them the truth or do you give them the answer they want to hear in the first place? Hell I have no fashion sense, so I could be wrong if I told the truth, she hasn't tried it on yet!

Overall I think honesty is very important for the most part, but a white lie here and there is probably in order to "keep" order.
 
Lying is something im not good at nor do I enjoy doing, so for me I always have to be honest with someone...

Yes being honest can often lead to arguments and possibly fall outs and someone or several people not speaking to you for the duration of the day, but what would lying have gotten you?

Im as blunt as I can be when im telling someone an honest opinion, I dont believe in "sugar-coating" or even white lies, because its not being true to who you are and it isnt doing the person you lied to any favors either, as the truth always comes out in the end...

For instance, if a friend of mine brings his new girlfriend out with us one night, and shes been flirting outrageously with other people than him all night, most people in that situation would lie to him saying "Yea shes alright mate".....personally your not doing your friend any favors as he will eventually find out the hard way, when he finds her in bed with another man, so I will always say "I dont like her mate, she seems to be more interested in messing about with other men than she is with you, get rid"

Sure my friend will either reject or accept what I've said to them, they may even fall out with me for a time, but in the end when it turns out I was only trying to help by telling him the truth, he will respect me a lot more for it than if I would have lied my ass off and told him some rubbish that he wanted to hear...
 
I only lie about little things. and sometimes, not even the little things.

I could probably lie in a major situation, but I think a good deal of the time I'd probably be thinking why bother? I'm going to get busted sooner or later anyway, because it's hard for me to be a dishonest person.

unless ofc, it was someone else's secret that they asked me to keep from anyone else. You wouldn't even be able to pry that from my dead fingers :awesome:
 
I try to be honest all the time. It's just so much harder to get yourself out of a bad situation when you've told different people different stories and then you have to work out a whole other story to explain the reasons why you've been deceitful in the first place.

*breathes*

I do tell white lies occasionally in order to keep someone from getting hurt, or I just don't tell them if they don't ask. =|

If they don't ask, then you never told and therefore never had the chance to lie or tell the truth. >_<

However, if it was a serious situation in which I knew for a fact that my best friends boyfriend was cheating on her or something, I would definitely get involved.

Honesty is only good if you use it the right way.
 
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