Serious Girl troubles

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Alright i am back once again with girl troubles :gasp:. well here is the Overview of my situation:

It has been happening about a month now, my current/ex girlfriend was cheating on me with my cousin, fucked up i know. Well she was like lying to me and my cousin, cause he thought he was the only one who was dating her, and same goes for me; I had no idea she was boinking the both of us, yeah i was hella pissed about this. And if it makes things better, my ex-gf was the one who told me, then of course i raged out of her house in large anger, but still.. my cousin had no idea, so i told him, and he went ballistic, and get this, he blamed me, he told me its my fault that they broke up, i was like "what the hell dude, you didn't know i was going with her, so why blame me for this shit." After i said that, he just turned away and hasn't spoken to me since, and btw this was like a week ago when i found out, and two days ago since he stopped talking to me.

While all this was going on, there was another problem just starting, I am/was falling for my best friends' girlfriend. Yeah i know it is a bit weird, but i just did. However, i didn't want to fall for my Best Friends' girl, trust me that is the last thing i wanted to do, but it just kinda happened, y'know, it just occurred without any warning, i couldn't control it, nor could i prevent it; this is the ultimate shitfest, if you ask me. Oh and to make things even worse, my best friend, you know the one who is dating the girl i fell for, he i actually giving me permission to "friendly flirt" with his girl, oh and stupid me, i thought htis would make things better, i told my homie's girl how i felt, and she said be happy and crap; i didn't even understand why she said that.

So what i need help with is what the hell am i suppose to do about my ex, should i at least give her my friendship, and a possible hurtfest again, or should i just set her aside to the curve like the tramp she is. Also what should i do about my best-friends girl, should i just act like nothing has happened(which they haven't) or should i try to work it out between my friend and his girl?

Please help, i am in a deep crisis, and i am in need of some good help
 
Well, speaking from a woman's angle, you did right by telling her how you felt. Although, I didn't understand this ", i told my homie's girl how i felt, and she said be happy and crap; i didn't even understand why she said that." does that mean she likes you too or she was just glad more people liked her? Did she say anything else?

I think you should give your ex a friendship; if it ends badly, than it wasn't meant to be and you should just leave her alone and if she doesn't something extremely mean when you ask if she wants to be friends, than she is the big slut you described her to be.

This being said, you should just tell her you wanna be friends (if you want too) and see how it goes. For your friend's girlfriend, try to get a clear answer from her.
 
Well, when I was your age, I was cheated on by my girlfriend too. It was with a friend of mine though, not my cousin. If a girl is really going to do something as deviant as telling you and your cousin that she is commited to just that person, she's bad news. You said it yourself, she's a tramp, you have no need for her. She managed to not only hurt you, but your cousin as well. Then on top of that, this situation turned your cousin against you. She's bad news, forget about her. Sounds brash I know, but this is a really bothersome situation in my eyes.

Now, the other situation is a little more delicate. Considering you haven't actually acted on your feelings, you're safe. This is something I have no experience with, so I'll make my assessment on the situation based on how I see it. I think the important thing to do would be to tell your best friend. Make sure to stress that you never have acted on your feelings, but you do feel it. He may be upset with it, but not as upset as he would be if you did make a move. You may also get lucky too. He may say that he really doesn't feel anything for her and step aside, but I have a feeling that won't happen. You could also tell her about it, and she may break-up with your friend as a result, but that will definitely upset him, so that's probably not a good idea anyway. Telling him would be the only action I'd make. If that fails, then I'd say bite your tongue and bury your feelings. There is always time, they may be together for a few more months, then break-up, then this can work for you. So being patient is a good idea too, it may pay off big in the end.

But anyways, best of luck to you sir, hope everything works out well. :ryan:
 
imho, totally leave the ex outta ur life, freinds with ex's never works

and about ur best friends girl, this happened to me, but i was the best friend. im basically the other side of that situation, so here's my advice. now in my situation my best friend liked my girl, she had told me. now here's where i tell u what NOT to do if u wann keep ur best friend. DO NOT keep telling the girl ur feelings, just the once is fine, trust me. and if they break up, like me and my girl did, AND IF U WISH TO KEEP UR FRIEND THIS IS THE MOST IMPORTANT, if u really are going to ask this girl out if they break up, confront ur friend first, if he says yes its fine, go for it, in he says no, dont, u will lose him. If he says yeah but not yet im hurtin, let the girl in on the situation, see what she says and ask him again a month later


thats my best advice hope it helps
 
I still think you should try and give your ex friendship. It can help with a lot of things.

But, as for your friend's girl, tell her and get a clear answer from her. Also, what Blackstang said is true. You should probably tell him first, in a sweet way if possible. That why, he won't be upset, as Blackstang said above.

But than again, if this all seems too risky for you, follow your heart. It may sound corny, but its your best chance.
 
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Is this the same girl that cheated on you with your best friend or another one....?
 
I'm not saying it is fake altogether.. but no offense, sounds like a made up story to me. You are throwing way to many inconsistencies out there.

Why? because you have posted a similar thread before saying your girlfriend was getting with your friend.

Anyway I'll throw out some good advice. You need to end it. Sounds like she likes to be a bit of a drama, or just a full on slut. Just treat her like one, don't get emotionally involved.
 
Shu said:
I'm not saying it is fake altogether.. but no offense, sounds like a made up story to me. You are throwing way to many inconsistencies out there.

Why? because you have posted a similar thread before saying your girlfriend was getting with your friend.

Anyway I'll throw out some good advice. You need to end it. Sounds like she likes to be a bit of a drama, or just a full on slut. Just treat her like one, don't get emotionally involved.
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:hmmm: A valid point, I didn't do the research, but I was thinking it was the same fellow.

Either way, my advice stands, and this goes back to the other thread as well.
 
Raging Tempest said:

So what i need help with is what the hell am i suppose to do about my ex, should i at least give her my friendship, and a possible hurtfest again, or should i just set her aside to the curve like the tramp she is.
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Leave her be, the last 5 or 6 words sum up why you shouldn't even bother trying to be friends with her, referring to someone as a "tramp" hardly promotes you're going to have a friendly relationship with someone. However, if you genuinely want to remain friends with her and she wants to remain friends with you, then by all means do so, you know how you truly feel about the whole thing so it's not a question anyone can answer for you.

Also what should i do about my best-friends girl, should i just act like nothing has happened(which they haven't) or should i try to work it out between my friend and his girl?
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Don't even begin to start flirting with her, even if you do have "permission", that will eventually come back on you and bite you in the arse, all flirting could do is lead to bigger things which would be far more problematic and lead you to falling out with your best friend, also, if she flirts back then what says she isn't going to do the same to someone else if you and her ended getting hooked up? If her boyfriend is giving you permission to "friendly" flirt, I don't care if it's "friendly", flirting is flirting, then it sounds like they don't exactly have a solid relationship so you may just be better off waiting it out and see if they stay together, just don't get involved in all this flirting shit otherwise you'll come out worse.
 
I like being blunt in these kinds of threads.

1. Don't be friends with the ex. She was a bitch and she (on many levels) fucked you over.

2. Your cousin is probably angry/hurt. Give him time and he'll be fine.

3. Get an STD/STI check. That ex of yours sounds like a bit of a slut.

4. Don't go near your friends girlfriend. You know how you felt with your ex screwed you over, you'd only be doing this to your friend.

5. Your friend's girlfriend sounds like she loves the attention. There's nothing wrong with harmless flirting, provided that it's just that. Harmless.

6. If you can't deal with the harmless flirting, then stop altogether.
 
Just do what you think is right and you'll get out of this "Sh*tfest", even though I'm in a worse posistion than you.

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Oh and everyone her's right,

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