Being left out

When I moved I had to go to to a different school. At first I felt left out but there were nice people so I was okay. That was about three years ago now I'm among the cool ones :P :cool:
 
~SapphireStar~ said:
Have you ever been left out of something? Like a social gathering with friends or family?

Ive experinced it alot lately and yes it does get you down. At the moment Im missing out on meeting my friends from a Muse forum and the Muse at Wembley concert. On the forum and MySpace all they talk about is where theyre meeting and how great the concerts going to be. Yes, Im jealous, upset and angry about the fact that I was not allowed to go cause I couldnt afford it and because its in London, I was not allowed to go alone.

Happened last Friday aswell. I was home early and my boyfriend had the day off work, so I thought we would be meeting up, but sadly no. He went on to tell me how he went swimming with his friends, went for something to eat, then went back to one of their homes and watched DVDs together. Of course I was upset and angry as he had asked me what I was doing that day and I said I was doing nothing. Surely he would have thought to invite me along.

Its happened alot of times at university, I think I made a thread about it. How when one of my so called friends replaced me with 6 men!

I guess it can be seen as childish getting upset over something so trivial, but you must have experinced a time when you were left out and basically got annoyed. What do you do to get over it? Do you confront the people who left you out? Or do you go on and not say anything?
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Yes, I know what you mean. In my case, it happens most of the time because they mostly call me when they need help. There's a big difference between knowing people and calling them friends. I know a lot of people, but not all of them are friends that call me when they are going somewhere. I feel bad sometimes, but then a realize they aren't worth my time. If they want to go out without me, fine for them, but let's see who's the one who laughs last :dry:
 
I know the feeling of being left out all too well, so have learnt to get over it.. =/

Like at school for some reason i always seem to have groups of friends with odd numbers, so when it comes to pairing off for something I am always the odd one left on my lonesome...
Ach well, I guess I'll just have to get used to always being second-best to someone else, seeing as it's in my nature or something.. :dry:
 
Has happen to me, not often but still it has happened. It pisses me of especially if it's people that I respect. I'm not the kind of guy to get angry though, I'd be mad at them for like 15 mins and then just be my old self again.

Sometimes there is a good reason, like all girls out or a conversation that doesn't concern me or I wouldn't like, in which case I am ok with.
 
I actually do my own thing, so I'm the one rejecting my friends' proposals on doing things. I do still spend time with them, but not on a personal level (if that makes sense).

I've had some dodgy experiences with friends in the past, so I've sort of become independent, which isn't a bad thing as long as I've got a few trusty friends.

By the way princess A, I've had similar experiences in the past, but it'll be much better in the future (trust me). For a start, things like pairing up with your friends won't be a neccessity in the future, it'll be much more professional and mature mind. And don't take it to heart, because in every new step in your life, there will be new people/friends who you can trust, and being left out will be a thing of the past.

If you still don't agree, get stuck in and choose your partner before someone else does!
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I hate when my friends make up a 'secret handshake' with each other. Even though that's so kid stuff I still feel left out. Hate it. So I just walk away
(if I stayed it wouldn't be a sectret handshake now would it XD)
 
My problems kinda the opposite way round today.....it's my birthday on monday so im going out tonight and altho iv invited a load of people (and i gave the cheeky gits PLENTY of notice) they blow me out at the 11th hour - too skint etc

Still, my 2 bestest friends and a couple others are out - so i'm still looking forward to it!

Its just the certain people that have changed their minds im hacked off at
 
Yeah, and what makes things worst is when they pull out lame excuses to try to convince you that they really wanted you (us in our case) to go with them but that they couldn't invite you. Youth comes along in most cases with hypocrisy and lies. So now I just ignore them, after all who says we need people to feel important. If we realize the amount of time we lose paying attention to their stupidity we would then find out we could use that lost time for more important things.
 
Well in order to avoid jealousy from driving me mad, mostly angry, I tend to distract my mind by doing stuff like writing essays, or doing some exercise, or maybe reading a good book. It actually works, but then the feelings of being left out attack you as soon as I get a chance to sit and think about it.
 
I think everyone feels like they are alone at some point. I know that I have those feelings alot lately. And sometimes it seems to go futher then just friends.

Like I'm at work and I see everyone has a girfriend or boyfriend. And they all seem really happy. But I'm not apart of that group. And sometimes it seems to go to the point where I hate those people.

I know that sounds messed up but I wanna be part of that happy group as well. And sometimes I feel more alone then most other times. Especially when I'm at the movies and stuff.

I guess my level of being left out goes deeper then alot of others.
 
Yes, people are born with the necessity of feeling part of something. At first I didn't wanted to admit that I too felt that way, but as time passed I realized I too wanted to be part of something. I constantly debate with my conscience about why should I bother if I am left out, but then another part of me comes saying that I should try to socialize.

Loneliness can drive us mad you know...
 
Yeah, my friends leave me out a lot. I'm always the person that can't get a word in edgewise in any conversation with my friends at school. I'll start talking to my friend and suddenly they'll start talking to someone else. I just shut up and keep my head down. Ususally a person would notice when thier friend isn't saying anything, but not for me. But, if you don't talk to them, then there's no way they could just ignore you talking in the first place.

I get fed up with it pretty quick. I get to be a real bitch in a few days. Then the weekend hits and it all starts over again the next week.

But with my other group of friends, the ones that've already graduated, it's not like that at all. But, I hardly see them. go figure.


But that's just my friends. What REALLY gets me frosted is Gym class. :mad: I hate it when you're playing some retarded little sport with a million little effing rules and all you're other 'wonderful' asshole teamates treat you with this condescending attitude, like you're dog shit they're letting stay on their shoe. And I'm freaking sorry volleyball isn't my damn forte, assholes, so stay stfu. I know there isn't any academic pursuit you'd be from the dumb-shit way to look at me when I call you a rectal orifice. HA! I laugh at their stupidity.


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okay, I'm done know. :whistle2:
 
Sure, I've been left out before.

I remember being excluded from training sessions from my time on the school baseball team merely because the coaches felt that I wasn't putting forth enough effort. They thought isolating me would push me.

Interesting, really. It wasn't that I wasn't trying. I just didn't play with the same intensity of some players. At any rate, it was not fun being left out.
 
Yeah, I do get left out sometimes, but I usually choose to be left out without actually saying it. It's kind of a vibe people get from me, y'know. I like that I don't have to tell someone that I don't want to do something with them without actually saying it; it's quite convenient, really. It makes it easier for me that way so I don't have to feel like I'm stepping on anyone's toes.

But if someone continuously leaves me out of things without telling me what's up and it's something I probably wanted to do, I just stop talking to them. If I'm not one of the first people that comes to your mind to do things with, you're obviously no friend of mine, but rather an acquaintance.

But it's really not a big deal for me, I get over it in a couple of days. :monster:
 
I hate bein left out.... Especially by my close friends. Sometimes I start to think they deliberately ignore me (even though they're probably not). I usually just try to join in their conversation anyway. Say something funny. Do something funny. And if that fails....then I leave them be...
 
~SapphireStar~ said:
I guess it can be seen as childish getting upset over something so trivial
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On the contrary, I do not find it trivial. It can be very hurtful, to have people sort of... push you away, or act like they don't want to be with you.

As for being left out, I'm kinda used to it. For school, for example, I'm usually in the corner, just by myself reading or listening to music... or talking to myself. :P People tend not to talk to me, because I'm quiet, and none of them seem to have the patience to really get to know me. And though I'm patient, I don't have much imagination for small talk, so to keep a conversation going.... not that easy. People tend to give up on my quietness, oddness, and such. :P

Sometimes though.... it can really hurt when my closest people just... leave me out.
 
Yeah it happens to me all the time. And when i ask them why didn't you told me? There answer is : you didn't ask>
 
May this thread be given life! I'm gonna be the Phoenix Down that brings this back to life XD

I've had a close friend that I've known since 4th grade make plans with me, then for whatever reason he'd go without me. It'd always piss me off too because I'd look forward to going on a roadtrip with my best friends and being in the car, windows down, radio blaring, and be on the highway. I'd get ready and be ready to go and he'd always forget about me. As a matter of fact, its happened 4 times to my count. It's irritating too because I had a family trip when we all went to Tennessee and I took him with us. Yet he always forgot about me.
I just learned to let it brush off my shoulders and not worry about it. I grew immune to the feeling of him leaving without me.
I still love the dude to death and consider him family. Despite him constantly forgetting about me :hmph:
 
General Beatrix

Ouch, that must smart from time to time! Still, I like your attitude towards it, you make it almost sound like a silly idiosyncrasy on your friend's part. :lew: It would be easy to get bogged down and miserable over something like that (I know I probably would) but you kind of seem to take it in your stride. Kudos!
 
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