But the thing with that is it wasn't just me she was saying it to, it was to other people too :/
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She was probably saying it to them for the same reasons.
Was she really going to tell you one thing and tell others another?
If she's in that position saying "I like you but I want to move on" chances are what she's really saying is "I don't like you anymore but I don't want to hurt your feelings" in a nice way.
If she says that to you she'll say it to the people you know. She'll only be brutal about it with her friends where she feels the information won't reach you.
Was she really going to tell you one thing and tell others another?
If she's in that position saying "I like you but I want to move on" chances are what she's really saying is "I don't like you anymore but I don't want to hurt your feelings" in a nice way.
If she says that to you she'll say it to the people you know. She'll only be brutal about it with her friends where she feels the information won't reach you.
The main problem is that it's not just me who's suffering from it, she's pretty much leading this other guy on too. I could understand the whole not telling me truthfully, but to come onto me as well. 
The problem with women is that they need to be tamed. She's clearly gone power mad.
She has a choice so she's exploiting the situation. If you eliminate yourself as a possibility she'll feel the loss and begin to gravitate towards you, whereas if you chase she'll likely keep you away and consider her options.
She has a choice so she's exploiting the situation. If you eliminate yourself as a possibility she'll feel the loss and begin to gravitate towards you, whereas if you chase she'll likely keep you away and consider her options.
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Hence giving her an indirect ultimatum. When you show that you are no longer an option, only then will the person see it as a complete loss. Think of it this way, as long as you are alive to some people, they still see you as an option unless of course you show them that you are completely off the list by some way. What I mean is, you are no longer subject to their emotional manipulation. You don't react, you treat them as a friend and start dating someone else. Trust me, killing them with kindness is such poison to some of these people. If they truly are good to you, then they will respect this, otherwise they'll do what they can to eff up your next relationship because they know you are trying to get on with your life.
It's not only women, but men do this to. Problem is Merc, not a single one of us can judge what you are going through, but only speculate. I don't know her, so I can't say to much about her. Women only can tame themselves. I know of 50 year olds just starting to go out to bars, karaoke, and one night stands. They went through 1/2 life divorces and are not seeing the upsides to being single, even if in general they are very lonely.
I can judge what he's going through, I been there before. 
Around the same sort of 18 month mark as he is now, me and the bf had reached a standing point where we didn't think it was going work, and started to move on. What we ended up doing through was trying to move on as fast as we could before the other one could. Trying to.. 'out-happy' them or something. Once we did, and then we saw the other catch up, we did everything we could to try and hurt the other.
MSN name's and one liners that allude to one night stands, forum survey answers became an interpersonal window into our bedrooms, calling out the last person we slept with or kissed... In the end we ended up doing more harm than good, but a couple months later... ended up getting back together as long as we promised never to talk about that time.
Who knows, you may be so lucky as to see each other through this rough period (if you want) and try to patch things up. But what you both need right now is to just stop, and step back and look at things. Really stop and look at them , is it worth fixing and saving? Could you ever get back to the way things were?
Around the same sort of 18 month mark as he is now, me and the bf had reached a standing point where we didn't think it was going work, and started to move on. What we ended up doing through was trying to move on as fast as we could before the other one could. Trying to.. 'out-happy' them or something. Once we did, and then we saw the other catch up, we did everything we could to try and hurt the other.
MSN name's and one liners that allude to one night stands, forum survey answers became an interpersonal window into our bedrooms, calling out the last person we slept with or kissed... In the end we ended up doing more harm than good, but a couple months later... ended up getting back together as long as we promised never to talk about that time.
Who knows, you may be so lucky as to see each other through this rough period (if you want) and try to patch things up. But what you both need right now is to just stop, and step back and look at things. Really stop and look at them , is it worth fixing and saving? Could you ever get back to the way things were?