Is it okay for a man to ever hit a woman?

[The Witch]

"Don't hit Women!" Opinions?

I'm sure if you're a guy you've been tolded "don't hit women!"

Do you follow by this thought or do you think they're fair game? Why or why not?

I believe it's wrong to hit a woman if you're a man.
Women(most of the time)can't defend themselves against the stronger, bigger sex that is male. People might see that as sexist, but it's true, most women are smaller than men and are weaker. It's just how our bodies are built. People who try tro deny that are going against science.

I think this answers it pretty well, actually.

On average men are physically stronger than women because the average man is larger, more robust and has a greater proportion of muscle mass than the average women. Having longer limbs means you have a longer lever to exert force with, having larger muscle mass (controlled by testosterone) means there is more pushing force at the end of the lever. Men are generally more robust meaning their bone structure is larger than that of women, this is needed to cope with the extra forces exerted by the increased muscle. If the bones weren't thickened they would fracture more easily. Women carry a greater proportion of body fat than men and have trimmed back on muscle tissue, it has been suggested that these are adaptions to make them more fit to carry babies to term and produce milk when food is scarce. Muscle tissue uses a lot of energy even at rest, getting rid of some muscle and replacing it with fat reserves would be a wise plan if food was hard to come by and you had the extra energy demands imposed by pregnancy and nursing.

I use the phrase "on average" as clearly not all men are stronger than all women. Most men would struggle to out lift a female weightlifter for example.

Interestingly on average women have a higher pain threshold than men and on average women commit suicide less than men. Thus giving the impression that the average woman is better able to cope with physical injury and stress than the average man.

So no, of course it's not okay to hit women. I mean, a guy can hit a woman if he wants...but he'll look like a total douche bag doing it and I'm pretty sure most guys will think of said woman hitter as shit...least that's why my guy friends say.

Opinions?

 

[Rydia]

No a man should never hit a woman, and NEITHER should a woman ever hit a man. I am so tired of woman on man abuse being funny, because, often the guy can't do anything about it. If he hits her back, he goes to jail, if he calls the cops and reports it, he gets made fun of (at least where I live this is the case). Not only that, but it's a bit degrading to women when we are supposed to laugh at the idea that a woman could hit a man so hard that it hurts. (lolz, he got hurt from being punched by a girl, girls aren't supposed to be strong)

So really, no one should hit anyone, unless it's out of self defense and the other person is intending to hurt you.

 

[The Witch]

I agree. Hitting shouldn't ever be the answer. It hurts both and degrades both.

 

[Dionysos]

I'm against hitting people in general really, but I'm especially against hitting women. It does however present a few problems... For example if a man is a attacked by a woman, what does he do to defend himself?

Hitting women would not feel right for most men I can imagine. From a very young age I was told that hitting a girl was the lowest of the low. While I have never hit a girl just imagining it feels wrong because of this.

Back to the problem it creates... When someone does hit a woman, even in retaliation or if the woman deserved it (not that anyone deserves to be hit) for being cruel to him or even being physically aggressive herself he is presented as an asshole that everyone else in the room wants to beat the crap out of. In a way this is logical as men are physically stronger and then we are also brought up to never hit girls if you are a boy. However if the woman was a man but the situation was the same then people would be shouting "go on son! Kick his ass!" instead.

Basically if a girl attacks a man he can either stand there and take it (and suffer pain - which could be humiliating if it actually does hurt a lot and tears form ), or turn around and run away (where he'll be called a cry baby anyway, a coward and will be laughed at for having been beaten by a girl). The only other alternative is to either restrain her (which can get violent as it is) or hope that someone else intervenes, or another girl jumps in and intervenes. It's quite crazy and silly really... It's lose lose for men if attacked by girls.

I'm not saying I've seen instances like this played out before, as I haven't. I'm just imagining "what if" scenarios in my head, and I have done this quite a few times. Yes... I've often wondered what I would have to do if attacked by a female as there are quite a lot of aggressive females out there and you can't really fight back. It's unlikely to happen, but if it does you're screwed.

 

[Valvalis]

I agree 100% with Rydia--no one should hit anyone, regardless of gender. If you're being attacked that's different, because I do think people have the right to self-defense, but in terms of abuse it is not acceptable on either side of the fence in my book.

 

[The Witch]

I'm against hitting people in general really, but I'm especially against hitting women. It does however present a few problems... For example if a man is a attacked by a woman, what does he do to defend himself?

Hitting women would not feel right for most men I can imagine. From a very young age I was told that hitting a girl was the lowest of the low. While I have never hit a girl just imagining it feels wrong because of this.

Back to the problem it creates... When someone does hit a woman, even in retaliation or if the woman deserved it (not that anyone deserves to be hit) for being cruel to him or even being physically aggressive herself he is presented as an asshole that everyone else in the room wants to beat the crap out of. In a way this is logical as men are physically stronger and then we are also brought up to never hit girls if you are a boy. However if the woman was a man but the situation was the same then people would be shouting "go on son! Kick his ass!" instead.

Basically if a girl attacks a man he can either stand there and take it (and suffer pain - which could be humiliating if it actually does hurt a lot and tears form ), or turn around and run away (where he'll be called a cry baby anyway, a coward and will be laughed at for having been beaten by a girl). The only other alternative is to either restrain her (which can get violent as it is) or hope that someone else intervenes, or another girl jumps in and intervenes. It's quite crazy and silly really... It's lose lose for men if attacked by girls.

I'm not saying I've seen instances like this played out before, as I haven't. I'm just imagining "what if" scenarios in my head, and I have done this quite a few times. Yes... I've often wondered what I would have to do if attacked by a female as there are quite a lot of aggressive females out there and you can't really fight back. It's unlikely to happen, but if it does you're screwed.

Well said! If a man HAS to defend himself I hope and prefer the man to restrain her by holding her hands or arms. It's better than punching her in the face, because a light hit from a guy could leave a lot of damage on a girl.

Yeah some women hit first...I would hit back fo sho, depends on how much of a hoe she is, seriously Good girls I would never hurt physically but I tell ya some girls deserve a smack or two !!

Narf, so you'll smack a hoe? What definds a "hoe" in your mind exactly?

 

[Shu]

If this is a very straight laced question, then No. Never okay, no matter what.

You can joke and kid all you want about the subject but I know for instance a lot of folks who are abused by the opposite sex, both men and women who are very afraid for themselves.

It usually is related to alcohol which is the sad part. I know for instance I have had restrain both male and female for going ballistic on folks while drunk. When they start throwing stuff that can do definite damage it comes to having to hold them down till either a cop is present or they can be tempered, which never usually is the case.

No offense, but physical nature both man and woman, it is never okay to hit your significant other. I know I have a mechanism inside me whether it be guy or girl hits me with something in the face, I have a half second time to react and cool down or else something bad can happen. It's not something I like admitting but being hit in the face pisses my body off. So instead of turning towards somebody with fist, I usually wrestle them to the ground/wall and chill them out along with myself before I do something stupid. I learned not to use my fist.. or objects.. but I'm sorry if you are hit first.. it's very hard to just shake it off.

Hitting a woman for a man is especially weak though. If you do, you better expect guilt right after. If you don't, then you don't believe in a relationship and you need consultation.

Also I want to make this aware to women. If your dude has muscles, and not just the chissled kind, be aware he usually has emotional instability. Performance enhancing drugs, no matter if it's anabolic or metabolic mess with hormones often times. If they get angry.. expect fireworks.

 

[Æon Flux]

hmmm well I dont believe in violence but i personally believe if someone ANYONE of any gender hits anyone first they are fair game to be whacked back.
I am female and was raised in a familly where I was taught if your hit hit back and that went for the male members of my familly to.
I also plan to raise my child,if ever I get one, to abide by this as well regardless if its male or female. If a chick hits someone they should be whacked back.
I was also raised in a long line of military people so perhaps that makes me look at it differently. I was also exspected to hit harder than a man.....I was expected to take on anyone who raises a hand to me and fight back.
I suppose it depend on context to. I dont believe in wife beating ect...But if a female hits a man she deserves a whack back in turn. I dont think woman should feel they can do anything and not expect to get it back in turn thats just rediculious.
I would also expect to be hit byy a man if i somehow worked up the effort to hit him first...id expect no less if it came to that

 

[The Witch]

Good answer Shu. I agree that people should just hold the woman down if she's threatening you. It's really the best option.

Also I want to make this aware to women. If your dude has muscles, and not just the chissled kind, be aware he usually has emotional instability. Performance enhancing drugs, no matter if it's anabolic or metabolic mess with hormones often times. If they get angry.. expect fireworks

Really? That bad? >.<

hmmm well I dont believe in violence but i personally believe if someone ANYONE of any gender hits anyone first they are fair game to be whacked back.
I am female and was raised in a familly where I was taught if your hit hit back and that went for the male members of my familly to.
I also plan to raise my child,if ever I get one, to abide by this as well regardless if its male or female. If a chick hits someone they should be whacked back.
I was also raised in a long line of military people so perhaps that makes me look at it differently. I was also exspected to hit harder than a man.....I was expected to take on anyone who raises a hand to me and fight back.
I suppose it depend on context to. I dont believe in wife beating ect...But if a female hits a man she deserves a whack back in turn. I dont think woman should feel they can do anything and not expect to get it back in turn thats just rediculious.
I would also expect to be hit byy a man if i somehow worked up the effort to hit him first...id expect no less if it came to that

No, that only makes things worse.

Two wrongs do not make a right. If someone happens to hit me I won't be able to do anything(I'm five foot three, I won't be able to)so the fighting just shouldn't exist.

If I was in a relationship where my boyfriend hit me, I still wouldn't be able to do anything against him physically, so trying to hit him back would be useless and only anger said guy more. It's like throwing gas on a fire.

So my opinion is that it just shouldn't exist, no one should hit anyone.

 

[Ohri-Jin]

Yes I would hit a girl if she hits me first, however only if she is the type of girl that is highly promiscuous..Good girls I would never hit even when they slap me first.

My first post was serious intended and somehow they deleted it though , that is just too funny.

I agree with above posters - Self defence can occur against women (you will never know how you will react) Abusing is something I would never do.

 

[Æon Flux]

No, that only makes things worse.

Two wrongs do not make a right. If someone happens to hit me I won't be able to do anything(I'm five foot three, I won't be able to)so the fighting just shouldn't exist.

If I was in a relationship where my boyfriend hit me, I still wouldn't be able to do anything against him physically, so trying to hit him back would be useless and only anger said guy more. It's like throwing gas on a fire.

So my opinion is that it just shouldn't exist, no one should hit anyone.

I dissagree it does exsist and if he hits you and you dont feel you can win ofcourse back down but i wasnt raised with that beliefe im smaller than alot of men but im not scared of one smacking or punching me and if i get back up im goona kill the bitch with my bare hands because i have the ability to do so and was well trained to do so..... so all in all i dont fear any man or woman...I have no reason to.
Size in no way matters in my mind a small person can hit just as hard as a big one. So its not realy a valid excuse..its more or less a comfort level of your ability to fight back.
But all in all I agree with you. I dont fight simply because there are better remedies. I prefer a good debate rather than an actual fist fight but alot of people get overly ready to fist fight rather than talk it out wich is ignorant.
But in the even a chick hits her boyfriend over a stupid thing I believe he has the right to whack her back if he feels like it.
Im also a fair fight person if it gets to that point hit with the force you believe will take em down.

 

[The Witch]

Yes I would hit a girl if she hits me first, however only if she is the type of girl that is highly promiscuous..Good girls I would never hit even when they slap me first.

My first post was serious intended and somehow they deleted it though , that is just too funny.

I agree with above posters - Self defence can occur against women (you will never know how you will react) Abusing is something I would never do.

Your post was deleted because it was pretty damn sexists. A girl being promiscuous gives a man no reason to beat a woman. Lots of men sleep around and act like dogs, should that woman go beat him with a baseball bat? No.

You can't try and say you wouldn't abuse a woman, you already said you'd smack a hoe. Hit one type of woman you hit them all, buddy.

Size in no way matters in my mind a small person can hit just as hard as a big one. So its not realy a valid excuse..its more or less a comfort level of your ability to fight back.

It's not just size, I know that. But when you have little to no muscle strength combined with a small size, yes, that girl stands no chance against a man.

Even the weakest men can still over-power most women.

 

[SapphireStar]

Any man who hits a woman is a coward. Ive seen my mum hit by my stepdad and Ive been headbutted by an ex. It shows a coward nature and someone who cant pick on someone his own size. Some women can hit back, others are terrified and take the abuse. And to be honest, good on the woman whom defends herself. No, its not right to hit a woman under any circustance, I dont care for excuses. There is no reason for it or a need to do so.

 

[The Witch]

Any man who hits a woman is a coward. Ive seen my mum hit by my stepdad and Ive been headbutted by an ex. It shows a coward nature and someone who cant pick on someone his own size. Some women can hit back, others are terrified and take the abuse. And to be honest, good on the woman whom defends herself. No, its not right to hit a woman under any circustance, I dont care for excuses. There is no reason for it or a need to do so.

Well said!

The woman's body is just smaller than the mans and it should never be done. It's like a man beating up an 11 year old boy and gloating about it.

And sorry that your ex hit you. It sucks when that happens. ): *hugs*

 

[Ohri-Jin]

Women are always stating to be treated equally etc. etc. "Some" girls are way beyond soul saving. Honestly I can say YEAH I would never hit a woman bla bla bla but that is nonsense.

There are women that are disgusting and if they have a big mouth like disrespecting me or physically touching me, I cant say I wouldnt hit her or not.

I have no idea it depends on the situation, but to be honest I probably would smack her , once though , I wouldnt beat her to a pulp..or how you phrase that sentence properly..

 

[Æon Flux]

Let me state I also in my own home came from a family where my dad was a wife/child beater so in that context I dont agree but If a woman hits first she should get hit back point blank she felt the need to whack so yeah she should suffer for it. Self defence is something else entierly as well as just plain beating a woman.
But as I said If the woman hits first she should get hit back

 

[Ohri-Jin]

Let me state I also in my own home came from a family where my dad was a wife/child beater so in that context I dont agree but If a woman hits first she should get hit back point blank she felt the need to whack so yeah she should suffer for it. Self defence is something else entierly as well as just plain beating a woman.
But as I said If the woman hits first she should get hit back

Exactly , however it also depends on HOW she would hit me for instance

Like if she gives me a "slap" I wouldnt do anything, but some Woman can assault too. Then the story changes offcourse. I agree with you.

 

[SapphireStar]

But as I said If the woman hits first she should get hit back

I can see where you are coming from. Ive seen girls on nights out batter their patners and they wont raise a hand to them. These women are the ones whom make me angry as they give all women a bad name. Like the ones wearing tarty outfits, get raped and claim they were asking for it, etc. Those women are the ones who need a good smack. But men wont hit women whom they know will hit back, they tend to go for the meek and mousey.

 

[The Witch]

Women are always stating to be treated equally etc. etc. "Some" girls are way beyond soul saving. Honestly I can say YEAH I would never hit a woman bla bla bla but that is nonsense.

There are women that are disgusting and if they have a big mouth like disrespecting me or physically touching me, I cant say I wouldnt hit her or not.

I have no idea it depends on the situation, but to be honest I probably would smack her , once though , I wouldnt beat her to a pulp..or how you phrase that sentence properly..

We want equal rights not some bigger being beating us to a frickin' pulp. Wanting the same pay doesn't mean that "Oh, since you get the same pay as a man, that means you also get hit like a man!" what kind of logic is that?

Do people get to beat men because they have all the rights? No. So don't use women wanting the same rights argument, it's crud.

Just because a woman is "disgusting" what ever that means, doesn't give YOU any right to beat the girl. What kind of disgusting is good enough for you to hit them?

If you hit a woman it just means you can't hit a man your size.

Exactly , however it also depends on HOW she would hit me for instance

Like if she gives me a "slap" I wouldnt do anything, but some Woman can assault too. Then the story changes offcourse. I agree with you.

So you won't hit a girl if she slaps you?

But men wont hit women whom they know will hit back, they tend to go for the meek and mousey.

Exactly.

 

[Ohri-Jin]

Well girls participating gangbangs, doing blowjobs too many times with too many individuals etc.. etc.. these are sexual acts what I believe are unacceptable.
Amongst those woman are ones that are highly arrogant and always having a big mouth and if those also try to physically hurt men , come one I would just smack her big if she touches me first.