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Sexy Beast

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Alright so I got this situation, i have been going out with my girlfriend for the past two months and everything has been going so well. We have been moving on in our relationship pretty well, like everything our connection between the two of us has been doing so well, and nothing could get better, but then this little problem came along.

About i say two weeks ago she has been acting a bit weird, like she was hiding something, i had no idea what it was until just recently, my best friend. She has been seeing my best friend behind my back, and i am not too happy about that. Like i love her to death, I would die, kill, and do anything humanly possible for her, but she is seeing my best friend behind my f***ing back, what the hell am i suppose to do about that. I have no f***ing clue where to turn to, i am so hurt and f***ing pissed at her. I feel like crying my goddamm eyes out, my insides feel like they are going to explode. Like come on my best friend with my GF that is the worse thing a guy can go through.

I don't know what to f***ing do, i love her, but i just feel so hurt, and betrayed. So what should i do. Should i dump her and move on or should i find someway to work it out with her.

I am not mad at my best friend cause he is the one who told me, and he is really sorry, so i am not mad at him, but i am mad at him for not telling me right away, but i guess it had to be hard for him to tell me, so I cant be real mad at him, but yeah My GF cheating on me with my own best friend, this doesnt spell good things does it, so please can someone tell me what to fucking do, i am at a deep end, and i feel like i wanna kill myself, or worse.

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How can't you be mad at your Best friend? He has been your friend longer than she your girl friend, why would he do it in the first place? Just because he told you doesn't excuse it. It takes 2 to tango or so they say, and I wouldn't lay all the blame on her, he's no saint either

They are both as bad as each other. And if you have only been with her 2 months, cut your losses, move on and don't introduce your so called 'friend' to any potential girl friends in future

I suppose it depends on you as a person, if it were me, I'd just cut my loses and lose the bint, she can grovel for forgiveness all she wants, but once the trust is gone... a relationship can't work without trust.
 
dude,tell her its over,and your best friend is ok because he was with her for a while THEN told you,dude,get your head straight,there are plenty of other apples in a tree,and alot of guys who can replace that asshat of a best friend
 
Spike said:
How can't you be mad at your Best friend? He has been your friend longer than she your girl friend, why would he do it in the first place? Just because he told you doesn't excuse it. It takes 2 to tango or so they say, and I wouldn't lay all the blame on her, he's no saint either
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Yeah, Spike pretty much said it here. I do respect the fact that he actually made an effort to tell you, and being 18 years old (what your profile says), I do understand that someone of that age may feel a little excited about a girl liking him and not telling you right away. I guess my feelings about this are mixed, but he should NOT have went out with her either way. And even though he did come clean with you, his not telling you when she first proposed this idea was wrong.

Again, being the age you are, and only being with this girl for 2 months makes the decision easy. I know you say you'd love her and do anything for her, but it's only been 2 months. Seeing as how she cheated on you as well, you gotta let her go. I know it may seem heartbreaking for now, but I promise you that you'll get over and that you'll find someone else who WON'T cheat on you. So yeah, Spike was blunt about what she said, but she's definitely right.
 
Do not i repeat DO NOT, be friends with them any longer. They have decided to take you for granted and do this behind your back. IF they valued you at all they wouldn't even contemplate doing such a thing. And no, I'm not pissed off and venting, i'm being dead serious. Fuck them. I wouldn't even bother talking to them or settling anything. Long story short, I'd tell her to not speak to you again, and I 'd do the same to your best friend. Really. He's your BEST FREIEND for shits sake. If he really was what he says he is he would not have done waht he did.

Tell them to be happy fucking liers and move on. They are not worth your time and definetly not worth your effort.
 
Spike said:
How can't you be mad at your Best friend? He has been your friend longer than she your girl friend, why would he do it in the first place? Just because he told you doesn't excuse it. It takes 2 to tango or so they say, and I wouldn't lay all the blame on her, he's no saint either

They are both as bad as each other. And if you have only been with her 2 months, cut your losses, move on and don't introduce your so called 'friend' to any potential girl friends in future

I suppose it depends on you as a person, if it were me, I'd just cut my loses and lose the bint, she can grovel for forgiveness all she wants, but once the trust is gone... a relationship can't work without trust.
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How cant i be mad at my best friend, well cause i learned that even people make mistakes, and it takes a real friend to tell me what has been going down. So that is why i cant be mad at him. Honestly, how can i not introduce my best friend to my GF, its absurd. And your not me, so don't say that i should just dump her, after just one little mistake, i am a forgiving person, so i am not gonna dump her just because of this.

Noctis Lucis Caelum said:
dude,tell her its over,and your best friend is ok because he was with her for a while THEN told you,dude,get your head straight,there are plenty of other apples in a tree,and alot of guys who can replace that asshat of a best friend
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Like i am saying, why should i break it off with her?
blakstang98 said:
Yeah, Spike pretty much said it here. I do respect the fact that he actually made an effort to tell you, and being 18 years old (what your profile says), I do understand that someone of that age may feel a little excited about a girl liking him and not telling you right away. I guess my feelings about this are mixed, but he should NOT have went out with her either way. And even though he did come clean with you, his not telling you when she first proposed this idea was wrong.

Again, being the age you are, and only being with this girl for 2 months makes the decision easy. I know you say you'd love her and do anything for her, but it's only been 2 months. Seeing as how she cheated on you as well, you gotta let her go. I know it may seem heartbreaking for now, but I promise you that you'll get over and that you'll find someone else who WON'T cheat on you. So yeah, Spike was blunt about what she said, but she's definitely right.
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Why should i let her go, i just cant do that to her.
Shotaro Kaneda said:
Do not i repeat DO NOT, be friends with them any longer. They have decided to take you for granted and do this behind your back. IF they valued you at all they wouldn't even contemplate doing such a thing. And no, I'm not pissed off and venting, i'm being dead serious. Fuck them. I wouldn't even bother talking to them or settling anything. Long story short, I'd tell her to not speak to you again, and I 'd do the same to your best friend. Really. He's your BEST FREIEND for shits sake. If he really was what he says he is he would not have done waht he did.

Tell them to be happy fucking liers and move on. They are not worth your time and definetly not worth your effort.
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You dont know me, and you have no fucking place saying i shouldn't be friends with them. I ask for help, not freaking insults >_>
 
Sexy Beast said:
How cant i be mad at my best friend, well cause i learned that even people make mistakes, and it takes a real friend to tell me what has been going down. So that is why i cant be mad at him. Honestly, how can i not introduce my best friend to my GF, its absurd. And your not me, so don't say that i should just dump her, after just one little mistake, i am a forgiving person, so i am not gonna dump her just because of this.



Like i am saying, why should i break it off with her?


Why should i let her go, i just cant do that to her.


You dont know me, and you have no fucking place saying i shouldn't be friends with them. I ask for help, not freaking insults >_>
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I wasn't insulting you. Wasn't the intention at all. Was my advice. That's how my advice can come. Yes it seems harsh but the words i speak are true.

Take a step back and examine the "insult" (as you call it) fro ma different perspective. And yes i don't know you, that's why i made it so blunt and harsh.

The whole "shouldn't be friends with them" thing is just common logic. Most people wouldn't be friends with them after what they did. Considering , as you stated, i don't know you, I went with the way most people would think about it.

Next time you tell someone their insulting you, make sure you know for a FACT that;s what their doing.

HAve a nice day.
 
Sexy Beast said:
How cant i be mad at my best friend, well cause i learned that even people make mistakes, and it takes a real friend to tell me what has been going down. So that is why i cant be mad at him. Honestly, how can i not introduce my best friend to my GF, its absurd. And your not me, so don't say that i should just dump her, after just one little mistake, i am a forgiving person, so i am not gonna dump her just because of this
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A real friend wouldn't have done it in the FIRST place

Sexy Beast said:
You dont know me, and you have no fucking place saying i shouldn't be friends with them. I ask for help, not freaking insults >_>
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Drop the attitude

If you can't handle the comments, then you shouldn't have made the thread asking for help, that is all we are doing, we don't KNOW you, we are giving this advise from an unbiased perspective
 
Sexy Beast said:
How cant i be mad at my best friend, well cause i learned that even people make mistakes, and it takes a real friend to tell me what has been going down.
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It doesn't take much of a friend to respect your relationship. If he can't keep his hands off your girl, he's not your friend. Yeah, he gets a couple of points back for owning up to it, but he's still about 48,000 in the hole.

Sexy Beast said:
And your not me, so don't say that i should just dump her, after just one little mistake, i am a forgiving person, so i am not gonna dump her just because of this.



Like i am saying, why should i break it off with her?


Why should i let her go, i just cant do that to her.
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Because if she's done it once, she'll do it again. There are 3 billion females in the world. Find one that won't cheat on you.
 
I would like to take this time to say to Sexy Beast, that while our advice doesn't seem the best from your standpoint ,again, we don't know you. Yes i understand that my advice in it's self set off some triggers that may have pissed you off. Normal people might say sorry, I won't. For the main reason that you asked for advice and I answered your call. Is it the best advice available? No, I'm sure i could have said what i meant in a much nicer tune then i did. But given the points that, A. I don't know anything at all about you and B. This is MY personal advice and the best i could think of at the moment, i stated what i did, in the manner i did. I am not sorry for the way it sounded, BUT i am sorry for the reactions that came from both you and Spike because of it. Weather they be intentional or not.

Weather you remain angry or calm down is not my concern, but leave this thread with a general knowledge of what we are saying. Do we ask for you to accept our advice and use it? No, we are simply replying to what you asked. Do not take any of this as and attack, insult, ect ect. This is just a general explanation of what I, Spike, CassionChips, and everyone else meant when they opened this thread,

Have a good day, and may your decision be the right one, whichever it may be.
 
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So you ask, why should you leave this girl? A fair question, and I'll be as civil as I can be about it.

I was cheated on by my girlfriend a while back. We had been dating for 6 months, and low and behold 1 day, she decided she wanted to get with a friend of mine. And another fun fact, I was also 18 years old when this happened. To think that when I started to understand what had developed here (like your experience with something being different), I knew she was now cheating on me, or at least trying. It was an awful feeling indeed, and I wanted to do everything I could to make it right and continue the relationship. But I came to a realization that she had an interest in this guy and no longer had an interest in me. No matter what I could have possibly done, there was no way it would work again. So I decided it was time to call it quits with her. Once I accepted what had happened, it wasn't too difficult to get over it. The only difference with our stories is that my relationship was longer than yours and my friend was not a long time friend. As for my friend, I never spoke to him or saw him ever again.

I am being civil about this, but the brash thing I'll say is that it will just happen again if you do win her over, then you'll be back at square one. She's no good, I don't know you, but I know for a fact that you could do better. Young girls like to play games, and quite frankly, it's not worth the effort to put up with. Dump her and move on with your life.
 
Shotaro Kaneda said:
I would like to take this time to say to Sexy Beast, that while our advice doesn't seem the best from your standpoint ,again, we don't know you. Yes i understand that my advice in it's self set off some triggers that may have pissed you off. Normal people might say sorry, I won't. For the main reason that you asked for advice and I answered your call. Is it the best advice available? No, I'm sure i could have said what i meant in a much nicer tune then i did. But given the points that, A. I don't know anything at all about you and B. This is MY personal advice and the best i could think of at the moment, i stated what i did, in the manner i did. I am not sorry for the way it sounded, BUT i am sorry for the reactions that came from both you and Spike because of it. Weather they be intentional or not.

Weather you remain angry or calm down is not my concern, but leave this thread with a general knowledge of what we are saying. Do we ask for you to accept our advice and use it? No, we are simply replying to what you asked. Do not take any of this as and attack, insult, ect ect. This is just a general explanation of what I, Spike, CassionChips, and everyone else meant when they opened this thread,

Have a good day, and may your decision be the right one, whichever it may be.
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I will admit, I did overreact a bit, and i apologize for that. I understand that you just had to say what there was meant to be said, and that i thank you. So maybe i overreacted just a bit, but hey wouldn't you if you were in my position. I just am going through a tough time, so i might be a bit edgy about how the advice is given, but I do appreciate your advice.

blakstang98 said:
So you ask, why should you leave this girl? A fair question, and I'll be as civil as I can be about it.

I was cheated on by my girlfriend a while back. We had been dating for 6 months, and low and behold 1 day, she decided she wanted to get with a friend of mine. And another fun fact, I was also 18 years old when this happened. To think that when I started to understand what had developed here (like your experience with something being different), I knew she was now cheating on me, or at least trying. It was an awful feeling indeed, and I wanted to do everything I could to make it right and continue the relationship. But I came to a realization that she had an interest in this guy and no longer had an interest in me. No matter what I could have possibly done, there was no way it would work again. So I decided it was time to call it quits with her. Once I accepted what had happened, it wasn't too difficult to get over it. The only difference with our stories is that my relationship was longer than yours and my friend was not a long time friend. As for my friend, I never spoke to him or saw him ever again.

I am being civil about this, but the brash thing I'll say is that it will just happen again if you do win her over, then you'll be back at square one. She's no good, I don't know you, but I know for a fact that you could do better. Young girls like to play games, and quite frankly, it's not worth the effort to put up with. Dump her and move on with your life.
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actually my situation is like yours, but just the other way around. while you were going out with your ex at that time for 6 months,a nd as you said you were friends with this Ex-friend for a short time, i have actually been friends with my friend(the one who went behind my back)for over 3 years, and that is why it's so hard to drop the friendship with him. And i know some of you are thinking "What an idiot." Well that may be, but the fact and matter is that i love my GF, and i value my the friendship i have with my friend, but i just hate to lose either of them, but i know i must make some sort of decision.
 
Real friends would help beat the crap out of the guy she's cheating on you with,but why you should leave her,she's no good to you,sure she can say she saw her faults,but what's saying she wouldn't do it again,I mean,if it wasn't for your best friend,you wouldve never known,I understand why you don't see a fault in your friend,he did the right hing and told you,but if she still hasn't said anything,that should give enough reason to break it off right there man
 
Sexy Beast said:
I will admit, I did overreact a bit, and i apologize for that. I understand that you just had to say what there was meant to be said, and that i thank you. So maybe i overreacted just a bit, but hey wouldn't you if you were in my position. I just am going through a tough time, so i might be a bit edgy about how the advice is given, but I do appreciate your advice.
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I can't say i understand, because I haven't been cheated on (not bragging) but i can see why you'd be upset. Thanks are not needed. I'm just doing my part as a forum member. I'm just glad this got settled before anything got out of hand.
 
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In my opinion, 2 months isn't enough to love someone, and maybe the emotional investment is clouding your judgement. People make mistakes, but the trust between you two will never come back to where it was before. Start over, and rebuild with someone who cares about you.
 
I wouldn't stay with the girl, tbh. Like other people have said, it's likely that she'll just cheat on you again.

Your friend, though, I think you should be at least a little pissed off at him. I could understand if you want to stay friends with him, but you shouldn't just let the issue slide so easily. You should lay down some ground rules. Just walk up to him and say, "Look, man, you're my friend, but if you ever fuck my girl again, I'll kick your ass." and mean it.
 
A relationship based on cheats and lies is not a true relationship. That goes for your girlfriend as well as your supposed best friend.

If you cannot trust your girlfriend to stay loyal to your relationship then she is simply not worth wasting your time on. Cheating after such a short period of time should be an immediate warning sign to get away. Think of it this way; At least your not 3 years down the road here.

As for your best friend, he's not much of one. Sure, he finally fessed up, but he shouldn't have done it in the first place. No true friend will get romantically involved with someone you are with. I know that if my best friend went ahead and tried to get with my Husband, that friend would be done for. There's no true friendship if there is no respect. Your friend obviously doesn't respect you enough to not hook up with someone your dating.

There is a word for this. C**k Blocking. You don't want to have a friend that is blocking you from not only getting your share of goodies but also from managing a stable relationship.

You're young. I met my Husband when I was 18.. I was dating someone else at the time though. My Husband and I were just good friends. After my previous relationship fell apart, my now Husband and I began to move towards being more than just friends. I'd no idea that I would find myself marrying my good friend. I'd no idea that we'd ever develop feelings for one another. Before I had even ended things with my ex, I had no feelings other than just friendship for my Husband. Odd things happen. If you continue holding on to a relationship that is doomed you may find that you will pass up some fantastic opportunities. And hey, who knows, perhaps this girl your dating will grow up a bit and in a few years you two may give it another go.

Whatever you decide, I wish you luck. Don't let something like this tear your life in two though. But try and keep in mind that the whole "once a cheater, always a cheater" line does have some relevance. Sure, some will come around and realize that cheating isn't a good way to keep a stable relationship, but if you let it brush by once be prepared to pay for possible consequences.

I'm certainly not trying to tell you what to do. I'm giving you my point of view, which is a femine view mind you. Protect your heart for now.
 
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