Would you beat your kids as a disciplinary action?

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The question is if you as a parent would be capable to smack your kids to teach them some discipline? I’m not talking about child abuse; I’m talking about a physical disciplinary action. An alternative punishment from just ground them by sending them to their room where they have a lot of toys and video games or leaving them without dinner one night.

If they do something that is really wrong and you just talk with them using a calm and weak voice they may not get the message that whatever they did was wrong. Or when they start to respond you with something like “I can do _____ if I want to” in this cases maybe the best way to teach them respect be by beating them.

Remember that in the old days this kind of disciplinary action was common place, perhaps your parents were beat by your grandparents when they screwed up and they are perfectly fine now.
 
I wouldn't beat them - maybe a smack, or a good telling off, or just get them sat down and talk to them. It all depends on the severity of an action. But don't overdo it - even if a child makes a small mistake, an innocent mistake, don't go stark raving bonkers, hit them/give them verbal abuse.

I have been told many things recently about something similar to this - except that it was verbal actions more then anything that were out of order. Never use verbal/physical disciplinary action for anything insignificant.
 
OK, I'm not saying to hit them every time for every little mistake they make, but a parent shouldn't be afraid to do what he/she has to do
 
Well, I would smack my children if they did something wrong, yes. Not hard though, just light but firm enough so that they get the message that what they did is wrong. Verbal abuse isn't my thing. If I do smack my children, I would have a firm tone of voice, so that they know I'm serious. Growing up, my mom and dad used to hit me and my brother with a belt (sometimes using even the buckle) whenever we did something wrong. That was part of our disciplinary.

Even to this day, I never viewed it as child abuse. I came from a country where physical disciplinary is accepted...in fact, it's encouraged. My mom would say after that she did that to us because she loves us and didn't want us to stray in the wrong direction of life. My dad never really liked to hit us though...it was my mom who was really strict. Yet, to this day, my brother and I are closest to her and respect her more. My dad used verbal abuse while we were growing up, so that is why our respect towards him isn't that high.

I would not, however, ever use a belt on my children. The times back then were different than what it is now. Although I appreciated the way my mom disciplined us, I could never hurt my children that way. My mom had a different way of teaching us a lesson...and I have my own style. But I will try and make sure that the outcome is the same and that my children will have the same respect towards me.
 
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I think we should be allowed to. There is nothing wrong with a little slap if your child is being a complete brat. And kids are so spoiled and out of control now a days that they seriously need some physical discipline. I mean, when my parents were younger they had corporal punishment and their generation turned out ok.

Now beating the living hell out of them is not ok.
 
There are ways to get a kid to pay attention that don't involve hitting. I was not hit at all. My parents were beaten to crap and vowed never to hit me, as it deeply affected them.
 
oh my no.

id be much craftier.

Depending upon the severity of the thing they did, if it was only a little thing id probably give them a time-out or a glare (my glares are evil) or send them to their room or something.

But the worst thing id do would be to send them to their room and take everything out of their room - tvs books - EVERYTHING - for at least a week, so as soon as they got in from school theyd have to go to their room and stay thier - well after food and such - and yes theyd be allowed to go to the loo lol.

granted id only do that if the thing the child did was really really bad.

Im not mean normally - thats why i could never hit or even smack any of my children.
 
You say "not child abuse" in the description, but the word "beat" ususally implies such. I wouldn't "slap" my children, as again, that word seems to bring images of slapping someone across the face. Now spanking, when warrented, yes, is ok in my opinion, in moderation.
 
As a child I was smacked on an often occasion due to my constant bad behaviour. I was never abused or thrown around.

I believe I have the experience of looking after a child and using disciplinary action. Although my experince is nothing more than looking after a new born upto the age of two (My old flat mates daughter, I looked after her while she worked).

She was naughty sometimes, and she understood that a tap on her hand meant that she was doing wrong, and proceeded to do other activities, as children do.

The stern look is also a fantastic way to tell a child they're wrong.

I believe it work's to an extent, as long as your not putting fear and hatred into the child and making them understand the reason behind the punishment.
 
You know something...speaking from experience, I'd have to say that if I wasn't beat on certain occasions as a child, I wouldn't have realized the harshness of the situations I was in.
The last time I recieved a beating was when I was 14 years old; for hanging out with a boy I liked who (I didn't know) happened to be a druggie. I went to school black and blue the next day. I was embarrased, I was in pain, but to this day, I still remember what I got beat for. And you know something, in my own opinion, I'm an all around normal person. I don't have really show any signs of neglect or deppresion.

As a child, I also got beat once for riding my bicycle in the street, and you know what? To this day I still haven't done it since. :)

Some people spoil their kids rotten.
It's not always right to beat your children, but in some situations it's necissary to make them understand that they've done something wrong. Unless a child is thouroughly abused, it's not like they'll grow up miserable and depressed.
 
Smacking has been allowed for decades and only now has it become illegal and even then only because a few people turn a smack into a beating, smacking should be allowed. When my parents smacked me they didnt do it hard, but hard enough for me to know not to do it again. I think it helped looking back ... and now that parents cant smack their kids in the eyes of the law, so many kids are getting out of hand. There never used to be groups of teens smoking and drinking and mugging/fighting/stabbing people when I grew up, but we see it everywhere now :(
 
I think a parent should be allowed to -smack- a child to teach him not do something. My mom was a social worker so she never touched me and I turned out ok. If I did something wrong she'd take my allowance away for a couple of months. Ive never had a problem with authority and come from a place where you respect your parents above all else so I've never been much of a problem maker.
 
Beating/striking/slapping my children - no.

Spanking them when neccessary when they're little - yes. I was only spanked once and it taught me good, but I was much more prone to listening to Mom because she yelled. Not verbally abusive whatsoever, but boy was she scary when she yelled or glared when I did something bad XD Prolonged spanking is not something I would do...a few sound spanks would do if my kids aren't listening to me.

I'm totally with Aeris Gainsborough on page 1 of this thread. I'd be sooooo much craftier in my punishments and make sure that the discipline got through to my kids. Spanking doesn't always do so *looks at her extremely spoiled nieces and nephew, then looks at her never-been-disciplined-in-any-sort-of-way 10 year old niece...shudders*.
 
I think it is ridiculous now a days that you can hardly discipline your kids with out getting arrested. Sometimes just yelling at your kids in a grocery story because they are acting up will have people walking over and telling you how abusive you are and threatenting to call the cops. And I bet those people do not have any kids of their own.

God kids are so out of control now a days.
 
Smacking, just for discipline? It's a nice way of saying "Bashing morality into them."

In this day and age, it's utterly pointless to harm your child. Watch these programmes, like Supernanny, and they PROVE that children can be disciplined -without- physical abuse. Aye, abuse, that's what it is - like it or lump it. If you were in a bar and someone was giving you grief, would you punch him? Most likely. But then what? YOU are the one to be given a fine. Why is it any different for children?

It's not.
 
Riku said:
Smacking, just for discipline? It's a nice way of saying "Bashing morality into them."

In this day and age, it's utterly pointless to harm your child. Watch these programmes, like Supernanny, and they PROVE that children can be disciplined -without- physical abuse. Aye, abuse, that's what it is - like it or lump it. If you were in a bar and someone was giving you grief, would you punch him? Most likely. But then what? YOU are the one to be given a fine. Why is it any different for children?

It's not.
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Not necessarily "bashing morality into them". Sometimes parents smack their kids because they are doing something dangerous like getting into the light socket or running out into the street with out looking. It's a good way to deterr any of that.

And not all children respond to other types of discipline.
 
Rydia said:
Not necessarily "bashing morality into them". Sometimes parents smack their kids because they are doing something dangerous like getting into the light socket or running out into the street with out looking. It's a good way to deterr any of that.

And not all children respond to other types of discipline.
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Thanks for reinforcing my point xD Morality deals with what is right and wrong - it would be wrong to stick a pencil in a socket when it is turned on. So, by smacking the child, because the act is wrong, you're bashing the facts of right and wrong into them - bashing morality into them.

Wordplay rules :P
 
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