Serious Siblings not treated equally

[Kandy-Sugar]

Okay this has been annoying me for the past year or so now.

Now I'm the first child of my mum and dad.

When I was living at home I was given a curfew of 10pm that eventually went up to 12am.

I was not allowed to be in the car with any of my friends or boyfriends when they were driving.

I was not allowed to drink alcohol even at home. Not even on my 18th birthday or well after that. Still to this day my mum will tell me off for it.

I always got questioned about my whereabouts. My parents ALWAYS called me every two hours or so to see where I was with my friends or boyfriends.

I couldn't even leave the house in my own car that I paid for, when I wanted to, so that I could just go visit a friend.

I was never allowed to drive my parents cars if I was desperate, if my car was dead or something. I was not even allowed to drive their cars when they sat in the car with me!

Now the real annoying thing is this:

My brother gets away with all of the above things I just mentioned.

He has been allowed to drink alcohol before he was 18 and even have friends over to do the same.

He is allowed to piss off to his girlfriends (who's still in highschool) in my mum and dads car and not come home till he 'feels like it'.

He has no curfew. He's never had one.

He's always just jumped into his mates cars and pissed off and they never questioned him about it.

My mum and dad LEAVE him the car when they know he'll be home and want to drive around and such, because he doesn't have one yet.

I WASN'T EVEN ALLOWED TO DRIVE THEIR CAR WITH THEM IN IT, AND I COULDN'T EVEN PISS OFF IN MY OWN CAR, LET ALONE THEIR'S!

They never check up on him either.

I don't know whether it's because I broke the ice being the first born and I was the freakin' guinea pig and then they just went 'Oh we didn't need to be that strict, so we'll just let her brother do whatever the hell he wants.'

Or whether it's because he's a boy. <_<

Does anyone else have this problem with their siblings?

It's so unfair that parents should treat their children differently. It's bound to cause arguments.

Though I'm not that annoyed for the most part. I live out of home now and if I get annoyed with my parents when I'm visiting I just leave and know that I can go back to MY HOME! And they can't tell me to do anything anymore. <_<

 

[Bambi]

Im the eldest too, and my brother gets away with murder considering what I got when I was his age/younger

If I even so much as scribbled too loudly on a peice of paper when she was in bed Id be getting yelled at whereas he's oud as fuck on his Xbrick

I think they just mellow with age tbh, I know my mums alot more mellow than when I was younger anyway, Im not sure about curfews though, I know i had mine that gradually went up...but I had more freedom in that sense, my brother has loads of mates but just chooses not to stay out all night, so Ive no idea what his curfews ever were.

That's theone area I always had the freedom to come and go as I leased as long as I was home on time or rang to say I was either going to be late for whatever reason or to say I was staying out. Ive always been independent though and I think she gave up trying to control that early on.

But yeah, I hear you on the getting away with murder in other areas part though. If I spoke to my mum the way he does sometimes Id of got a clout round the ear hole ¬_¬

I'm glad she's mellowed though, it's easier on us all even if I do get the odd bout of resentment xD

Ah he always got his own way when we were kids as well, if we argued it'd be me gettingin trouble not him 'I should know better' etc. That used to drive me barmy

 

[Kandy-Sugar]

I wish my mum was a member so she could read all that. XD

Seriously though, I remember her telling me that my brother threw up on their lounge from getting drunk. <_<

I had to resist the urge of getting into fight about how she never even let me have one drink at my 18th whereas he is now staining her couches with puke. <_<

I think he gets away with most of it by punching walls. They don't want to anger him by denying anything he wants in case he chucks another pussy hissy fit. <_<

If I punched a hole in the wall I'd have my car taken off me and told to break up with my boyfriend at the time.

They punched my car once for no good reason. I'd hate to see what they'd do if I actually did something bad. <_<

I got called a slut once for being out till 9:30 with friends. Because apparently you can't wear a nice outfit and hang out with friends until that time at night unless you are one.

Stupid shit like that.

She was lucky I wasn't actually being one. I was actually a good girl back then. <_<

 

[Bambi]

You never know whether its worth addressing I find. My mum was never that bad thankfully, but sometimes I just sit there and think That puking story is givingme a flashback of somethiong *thinks*

OH my best friends brother, he was arseholed got ARRESSTED and he wasnt even so much as yelled at, but if she went home drunk and was loud, she'd get ear ache for it for weeks

Its mental...I wonder if its because we're girls we get all the shit? xD

 

[Gabranth]

With me it's the opposite. My brother who's younger isn't allowed to do as much as I am when I was the same age. I was never really given much rules. My dad doesn't even bother questioning me if I turn up stinking of smoke, booze etc. ...maybe you girls get all the shit?

 

[Kandy-Sugar]

Girls get all the shit happen to them. XD

It's so not fair.

But I know I've come out far better then he will. At least I have morals. <_<

Maybe one day when he has his own house and his kids punch holes in his walls and puke on his lounge he'll realise what an ass he was to my parents.

He's lucky they are good enough to let him stay at the house. Not like he pays board.

Another thing people!

I paid board! He doesn't.

We're only two years apart too by the way. <_<

 

[Bambi]

Omfg, I paid board to, he never once has done ever

Though, I cant really complain, once I moved out the mother chucked money at me all the time, she paid what was left of my credit card off as well, and shes giving me 20 quid toward glasgow next week

I think both me and my brother play the S/HE GETS MORE THAN ME CARD tbf xD

Theres 7 years between us, and growing up I hated him so much, as Im entering the awkward teenage stage, hes like a 7 year old little shit driving me barmy xD

He IS good lad though, he wouldnt dream of doing what your brother does, he'd be out on his arse, he just gets away with more than I ever di d xD

 

[Daenerys]

I think both me and my brother play the S/HE GETS MORE THAN ME CARD tbf xD

Me and my brother play that card with each other all the time.

However, I think it's the opposite way around with me and my brother, I get away with murder while he gets told off all the time.

Although, when I was his age (he's four years younger than me) I wasn't anywhere near as bad as he was. I was relatively mood-free, while he's a little shit. I really hate the way he speaks to my mother at times, there's NO need for that at all.

I think that might be why I get the easier deal, I really do try to behave in a polite and respectful way to my parents, and always have done, while my brother acts like a huge spoiled brat - throws tantrums, slams doors, yells at my parents over the slightest thing.

I only ever got told off if I didn't tell my parents when I was coming in and came in after midnight, but if I told them when I should be coming in, they didn't care, even if I was late, cause I actually told them. With my brother, if he's not in when he's told to, he gets told off.

So, I think it's the difference in our attitudes that gets us treat in different ways. While I generally behave and I'm polite and that to my parents, my brother just acts like a little shit, and he can be very unreasonable.

In your case Kandy, I think it'll be because you're the first child. I know loads of parents who were like, super-strict with their first child, but then really cool with their second child.

Or it could just be a boy/girl thing, I don't know. xD

 

[Shu]

Nah my brother was a fuck up, so I got away with stuff, but then again I was very sneaky not to let my parents in on it. My brother though totaled two cars (older model beamer and a nisan maxima), my parents also found a bong in the back of his car and he had been arrested for two separate occasions of a DUI.

So I was pretty much seen as a saint, because I never let my parents in on what goes on, on the weekends back in the day. Never had the stupidity of getting a DUI and I assume lucky in most cases.

The weird part is, my brother is like the prodigal son, he can mess up as much as he wants but he is always regarded as good in my parents eyes. Though these days he is a married and has a daughter... so he is legit =P.

 

[Oliver Queen]

My brother gets away with everything. He has no curfew, can take the vehicle and go pretty much wherever he wants, and does what he wants to.

I'm the youngest in the family, and I don't get away with anything. It just pisses me off sometimes.

 

[10th Doctor]

I'm the middle child in my family... My rother gets away with everything he has ever done. He smokes pot, goes to parties all the time, and even though he has a curfew, he ignores it and doesn't get into any trouble. I get none of these advantages. (Even though i really have no desire to smoke pot OR party, but my mom doesn't know that.

He is only, luckily my half brother, and I dont live with him, so that isn't as irritating as what I have to go through with my even more irritating sister. She has the most horrible grades in the world. And my dad gives her a clean slate EVERY time. But I get into so much trouble everytime I brought even a semi-bad PROGRESS report I would get into so much trouble. Grounded, yelled at, the whole she-bang. And its because I'M the older one. I SHOULD know better. ARGH. I was once her age, she should know better by know too!

It sucks being stuck in the middle. On one side, I'm treated like a baby, and on the other, I'm stuck with the 'i should know better speech.' *sigh*