Serious Relationships That Change You

[Aztec Triogal]

I want to clarify this thread a bit. I put it in the Temple of Ancients but the relationship can be either friendship or romantic...

So the question is has your personality ever significantly changed during the course of a relationship or permanently changed after one?

It's a pretty simple question and one I think everyone can answer "yes" to. If you can, please post your experience. I'm too tired to make a big post right now but I'll be sure to post later about my own experiences, as I can say that I'm very affected by the people I surround myself with. Not to say that I'm weak in my beliefs or personality (because as most of you know, I have a rather strong personality) but being around different people definitely brings out certain parts of my personality more than others.

Just as a tag question to the main question, if your personality does change when you're around certain people or has changed since the end of a relationship, have you seen that others perceive your change in personality as false? or perhaps your previous personality as false? (Btw, I use personality loosely here)

 

[Bambi]

I don't really change when Im with different people, but I was in a relationship for a while that I think has affected the way I am now, and also a recent friendship that came to a sticky end which has affected how much I will choose to trust 'friends' in future

But I'd say the relationship affected me the most in terms of how much Ive changed. I've never been the romantic type or been one to talk about emotions and feelings or anything - but I think that might have been amplified after splitting up with nob head. I'm not particularily fond of getting close to people - i'd say I was a tad more agressive/harder (emotionally, I mean) becuase of it aswel.

 

[Kivist]

I would probably say that I've changed alot over the past few years with my failure in relationships. When it comes to love, I am not so emotionally tied down to the guy I was in love with like I use to be. I learn not to be open with my feelings anymore either because it just didn't help at all. When it comes to my friends, I am not immature and childish in a perverted way like I used to be with them. I have also learn to never go back to a fail relationship with a friend where you will get the same result as last time.

I would say that relationships had affect me in a more positive way by not making the same mistakes I had made in the past and to handle them in a more mature matter. I think they were good life lessons for me and I hope to experience more like this in the future but in a good way of course.

 

[Davey Gaga]

Temple of the Ancients is a forum more for problems, issues and members seeking advice to go along with them. As this is more of a discussion than an issue, I think this thread would be more suited to The Meeting Room.

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EDIT:
On second thought...

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[DKnight]

You could say my life has been changed by certain relationships. I started out as an over confident leader of the pack when I was a little kid, but my parents made sure to change that. they treated me like such crap growing up that I became a self loathing asshole. so i was a bit of a loner in junior high and half of high school. people liked me but i didn't really like them.
of course that has all changed since then due to a few relationships i have been in and a few friendships that I formed. I'd have to say that my Gf in high school really helped me o step out of my shell. I became much nicer to people while dating her. it was one of the largest changes that happened to me. All my classmates noticed how much i was different, but only a few knew why.
There is also one of my close friends now. She is a very good listener and genuinely cared. We had a sort of a thing going for a little while, but it didn't quite work out. I was able to get a lot of troubles off of my chest. Because of her I am much more trusting of people.

 

[Kandy-Sugar]

My personality has definitely changed and it wasn't in a good way either really.

I had a few relationships with some of the most evil men ever created and I am so lucky that I allowed myself to try and find someone after that.

I am now so much more paranoid and stressed and think every day "What if I go home today and he's gone?"

Considering we've been together for over a year now I'm slowly getting rid of the voices in my head but it's still hard.

Before my very first boyfriend I was so happy and carefree because I had never been in a relationship with a guy at all and never really knew what it was like to have a broken heart.

I was told it was over in the most disgusting way a guy could tell a girl "It's over", and from that day on I fell into a state of depression and I don't think anything made me happy until the day my family bought a new puppy about 5 months after.

I got into another relationship they treated me worse than the first guy and that crushed me even more. I felt like a dead person walking and didn't want to exist anymore. I wasn't suicidal or anything. Just broken.

I couldn't believe that I had changed so much in the span of a year and all because of a couple of boys. My personality has definitely changed permanently after those relationships. I now rarely trust anyone and stress about everything it seems, which puts my current partner off alot. But he's amazing for dealing with it and I need to control it.



I also find that when I'm with my best friend I change as well. I seem to have to dumb myself down in order for her to understand me. She doesn't seem to know what 'big words' are and therefore I sound just as immature at times and it does get on my nerves a little.

Then I have my intelligent uni friends who I can converse with such ease and it's then I find that my true-self comes out most of the time.

It doesn't seem that anyone really sees that I change when I'm around them because I'm only hanging out with one group at a time.

Smartass Friends at work =P
Then my dopey best friend on weekends =P
Partner at home

My personality has significantly and permanently changed and not necessarily for the better =/

 

[Valkyrur]

I'm not into romance yet, so I'll discuss Friendship.

Yep, i think it did... In a positive way, to me at least.

I used to be introverted, with what psychiatrist would call 'Stranger Anxiety', the fear of meeting new people. Normal children usually experience that too, but get out of it when they grow older. It stuck with me later than usual.

It was only when i started making friends. That's the turning point. Interacting with them, talking to them, playing with them.. Those helped make me more open, able to talk with strangers without fearing them... And all.

I think that probably helped a little of my relationship with my family. I can see that I get into conversations too sometimes. I could even start a conversation with them now, more easily too.

Nonetheless. I think my Friendships has helped me develop to be more extroverted, which is good, to me.