Is flirting sincere, ok...

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Ok now, I am not here to start a fight ,to come across as if I am a know it all...or any other insane accusation I have gotten in the past. I am sometimes a hard person to understand, and I apologize for that.

With that said please be considerate of me in this thread and everywhere else on the forum because rest assured I am making an effort to be considerate of you ,and I am asking for your input. Showing that I care about your opinions, and that I respect them. If you can not respect me then do not post in this thread. This thread is about flirting and not really me, but every thread I make I become the topic....please.....do not do it again.

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Is flirting a natural thing, is it a normal reaction, when you like something that you see in a woman, is it natural to express it. Do you believe that there are tell tale signs to flirting, natural habits that surface. I mean if you have gf or bf but end up flirting with another person is that necessarily cheating, beyond a doubt or can flirting have any innocence? Is it a natural reaction to someone.

I mean naturally if someone is beautiful is it natural to act comfortable around them, smile , be friendly . If someone is flattered by you is it ok to show that you are flattered by that or is it some form of cheating to flirt?

Of course this could go much deeper , and their are factors but I am just starting a thread, the rest is up to all of you guys and girls.

Provide life examples or just discuss the morale implications, whatever. Hope you enjoy this thread, if you do not think you will then do the mature thing please and do not pick fights with me and give me a hard time for trying to share a bit of myself with the crowd.

I just want someone to talk to , it is not a crime .

Thougths about the topic?

Is it ok to flirt (nothing else suggested, its the topic not sex or anything) if you are in another relationship?
 
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we can not count flirting as cheating becuse we don't know what is going on inside the person who is flirting.
 
old snake said:
we can not count flirting as cheating becuse we don't know what is going on inside the person who is flirting.
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I think it's fine. It's commonplace to flirt with girls anyway, it's absolutely natural if you share a mutual attraction. Flirting isn't cheating, it's just a form of communication! (that's my excuse)
 
Flirting is perfectly natural. Well, I think so anyway. I'm a naturally flirty person, but Im like that with males OR females. It's not like Im trying to come on to them, and people that know me, know Im just being...me :wacky:

It has got me into one or 2 odd situations with people I don't know all thta well, but, well, it's just something people do

I think it's more down to the indivdual than actually wether you flirt because you see someone you like. If I really like someone I might actually tone myself down because I go all shy hahaha.
 
Flirting is not cheating at all. There are times when a person flirts to gain the interest in the opposite yes but many (such as myself nine times out of ten) do it for good fun, abit of a laugh to lighten the mood maybe. Personally I feel its ok to flirt in a relationship but not too much incase the natural urges kick in and you end up cheating by accident. That would be bad and does happen, especially drunken fueled nights. I've never actually done it myself but I can't say it hasn't nearly happened once or twice in the past.
Then you have the fact your already attached to someone. Some except the fact your gonna flirt abit and thats fine, others down right don't like it. One has to take into consideration of the others feelings and if they don't like the idea of their man/woman flirting then its general consideration that you lay off it, at least whilst they are around. You don't want green-eyed monsters breathing down your neck after all.
 
Ruud van Nistelrooy said:
PMS?
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what do you mean by that?

Ruud van Nistelrooy said:
I think it's fine. It's commonplace to flirt with girls anyway, it's absolutely natural if you share a mutual attraction. Flirting isn't cheating, it's just a form of communication! (that's my excuse)
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maybe it is fine to you but what about the others people or BF\GF what will thay think if thay saw you while you are flirting. most of them will say you are tring to cheat.
 
Moonie is quite right. I cba quoting him though:wacky:

Flirting is perfectly natural between two people. It is fun, and I find it much more enjoyable than a regular conversation. That being said, flirting is not something I do consciously or with the intent of pulling a chick.
It's just more fun to drop 'You have beautiful eyes', into a conversation then something about the whether.

It's not cheating, but it's not so good if you are very serious about it.
It's also a good way to tell if someone is attracted to you, so it's arguably a reason of the perpetuation of humanity so far.
 
Iago said:
Flirting is perfectly natural between two people. It is fun, and I find it much more enjoyable than a regular conversation. That being said, flirting is not something I do consciously or with the intent of pulling a chick. .
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Im so poor at explaining myself, but that's what I was attempting getting at xD
Altho, Iv never told a bloke he has beautiful eyes though, maybe fondled his muscles or demanded he shows me his tattoo's/ peircings etc :wacky:

But again, there is never anything in it, even in a relationship, I will do that, when I was with my ex he'd just laugh at my daftness. I guess alot of it (relationship wise) is down to trust. I could have been accused of trying to cheat many times, when, infact that was never my intention.
 
old snake said:
we can not count flirting as cheating becuse we don't know what is going on inside the person who is flirting.
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lolwut?


the nameless army said:
i agree with old snake, i would feel horible if i found my gf flirting with another guy...
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I'm inclined to agree with you. Giving compliments is fine and dandy, but if you're flirting in a relationship....well, it's not cheating persay. People are always going to look at someone and go "hawt damn" even if they're a relationship...but acting on those thoughts, even with simple flirting, has the possibility of leading to unfaithful thoughts or cheating. Even if that's not the case, it can still have bad effects. The person you're flirting with may be unaware that you're taken and might want to go out with you, etc.

Now if you're single, on the other hand, flirting is great fun :neomon:
 
Flirting is honest fun. You can look at whichever way you want rather you're in a relationship or not. Flirting is a way just to get people to liven up and stop with the small talk crap.

I've been in a relationship for 3 years now and my better half thinks it's hilarious when I flirt with other people. I flirt with my guy friends same as I do with gal friends. Always fun to make people uncomfortable.

And a relationship should have a foundation of trust, there's always boundaries you have in a relationship that you may think to be bad, and others not care too much about.

Personally my Mrs. can flirt with whoever she wants to, I know she gets hit on a lot as a bar back, but fact is I'm the one who gets to be with her day in and out. I wouldn't put it past any guy to try to steal her away from me, but I know for a fact she is someone I can trust and wouldn't do anything to hurt me.

So pretty much if someone is insecure about it, then you may have a bit of a trust problem. Or low self esteem, whichever comes first. All in all, flirting is flirting. And it always stops there for me at least.
 
Flirting while in a relationship? I consider flirting to be relatively harmless, personally. It's more of a way of acting friendly towards other people. I've been accused of flirting without realizing that I was doing it. Just being pleasant and chatting, really.

So yeah, I think it's okay to flirt while in a relationship...as long as it doesn't go any further. It's up to you to be loyal.
 
Flirting may not be cheating to some people, but to others it is. I don't think that flirting is bad, but at the same time I don't want to see my girlfriend flirting with another guy.

For me it is a double standard. I don't know what could be going on in my girlfriend's head at the time she is flirting. That is why I would not be happy with that. If I were flirting with someone though I know what I am thinking so I know if it is innocent or not.

It is all about perspective. We can't read each other's minds(at least I don't think we can).
 
Rasengod7 said:
Flirting may not be cheating to some people, but to others it is. I don't think that flirting is bad, but at the same time I don't want to see my girlfriend flirting with another guy.

For me it is a double standard. I don't know what could be going on in my girlfriend's head at the time she is flirting. That is why I would not be happy with that. If I were flirting with someone though I know what I am thinking so I know if it is innocent or not.

It is all about perspective. We can't read each other's minds(at least I don't think we can).
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But if you're flirting SHE mght not like it. What's good for the goose is good for the gander an' all that. If I had a bf and he was flirting with people yet he pulled his face if I was, I'd show him the door.

It's all about trust, and if you say 'you don't know what's going on in her head' you obviously don't trust her. Flirting is harmless as long as you don't take it too far
 
Rasengod7 said:
Flirting may not be cheating to some people, but to others it is. I don't think that flirting is bad, but at the same time I don't want to see my girlfriend flirting with another guy.

For me it is a double standard. I don't know what could be going on in my girlfriend's head at the time she is flirting. That is why I would not be happy with that. If I were flirting with someone though I know what I am thinking so I know if it is innocent or not.

It is all about perspective. We can't read each other's minds(at least I don't think we can).
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A strong man doesn't need to read others people mind. becuse he knows that there is no point from it
 
Meeeh. When some people flirt, they actually have some sort of feelings for their target, so in that case it kinda would be uncool to flirt. But some people (like me) just naturally flirt, because that's how they are. In that case it would be fine since it's indeed "harmless", but I know it might be hard to differentiate between the two types of flirting. That's why a lot of people consider it "cheating"; they can't tell if their significant other actually has feelings for this other person or not.
 
old snake said:
A strong man doesn't need to read others people mind. becuse he knows that there is no point from it
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I'm going to be honest now. That is just fucking stupid.

Bambi is right, it's probably what I'd have written if i could be bothered.

Relationships(healthy ones anyway) are supposed to be equal and based on trust, uou just showed that yours' has neither.
It's extremely hypocritical to say to your gf 'hey you can't flirt cuz i ant trust yuuu ololololol but it r fine for me cuz i can read my own mind'
I wouldn't be supprised if you got hit for suggesting something as demeaning that
 
Iago said:
I'm going to be honest now. That is just fucking stupid.
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and why is that stupid? i mean why should i read the peoples mind to no if they are flirting or not there is a limit for each of us and we can not cross that limit
 
Rosengod7 said:
For me it is a double standard. I don't know what could be going on in my girlfriend's head at the time she is flirting. That is why I would not be happy with that. If I were flirting with someone though I know what I am thinking so I know if it is innocent or not.
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I suppose it all comes down to trust. If there's a high level of trust between two people, then they probably wouldn't care if the other person engaged in some friendly, innocent flirting.

old snake said:
A strong man doesn't need to read others people mind. becuse he knows that there is no point from it
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...how insightful. lololol
 
Well flirting can be harmless as long as the limits are not overstepped and taken too far. I consider that flirting is natural, since we are beings of flesh and blood, and we tend to let our instincts decide for us in certain situations. In a relationship, it all depends on how much trust is developed by the couple, meaning that if one of the parts feels offended, the one flirting should consider avoiding it. This also has to do with respect, if you are in a very serious relationship and you respect your couple, then you will try to avoid taking actions and making comments that might upset him/her. Flirting when we are young is hard to avoid, and since most serious aren't actually serious, flirting could be considered as harmless and of little importance.

For example, if I were to be with my ex-girlfriend again, I would prefer her to flirt in my presence than during my absence, and of course, I would flirt as well with another girl (not with one of her friends though, that would be low...).

If she cans, then I can as well :neomon:

In love and war, anything is valid!
 
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