Internet Dating

Shou said:
Have you heard of a girl who suicided because her e-partner dumped her.And she was only 13.Her e-parnter never existed,it was a bad joke of some kids who disliked her and of of her ex-friends.

These are the consiquences of e-dating.
But if you want more then ok.

I personally have tried,it was ended up bad(except some times)I believe I was too immature now that I remember it.I'd never tried that again.I had gottan so obsessed that my grades were so low and I was all day lurning on MSN.I also got e-cheated once xDD,which made me so furious and sad.I was stupid takin these things so seriously.


Now generally it can lead to a change of behaviour,it can also make you a sl*t.That's the worse and it can destroy your future.
Not knowing who your dating is a pretty serious issue,how about if he's a pervert 80year-old pedo or a criminal or some guy/girl from your school who wants to embarrasses you?
I believe that those who rely on e-dating have a low self-esteem or high insecurance or too desperate cause they can't have a real date.
Even if it looks like something fun and stupid someone might get hurt or cause him lots of problems.

And any case you meet the person you're dating I'm pretty sure you'll get vey disappointed cause it's not the same talking to him/her face to face and talking him through internet.
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You can't just use one bad experience to totally write it off as a bad thing and that the ONLY possible outcome is suicide, depression or any of the other outcomes you've given. One plane crash-landed christ-knows-how-long ago so flying is stupid. A man died of alcohol poisoning last year so there's nothing good about alcohol. Quick examples, yes, but the method of thinking there is the same. "These are the consequences of e-dating." The others being happiness and a true relationship? Some of them. Everything's got good or bad consequences and, for this, it's just down to you if you want to take the risk or not. I suppose I'm in the bracket of people who've met their online friends and actually had an AMAZING time. We plan on making visits a regular thing. I don't feel obsessed and neither does she.
 
I'm opposed to online dating IF there is no intention of ever meeting. It's pointless and, yes, a waste of time. However, if two people intend to meet or have met, but simply found one another on the internet, it's no different to a long distance relationship.

I see it like this. An internet realtionship is where you meet someone on the internet, talk to them on the internet, hug/cuddle/kiss etc them on the internet. It gets a little more like a long distance relationship when you talk on the phone. When you meet, it does become a long distance realtionship. Internet realtionships are different to relationships (long distance or not) with people you met online...

I'm not going to claim that you can be in love with someone you've never met. Wanna know why? It's like saying being with them will be no better than just talking to them over a messaging client. It's like saying being apart is just as good as being together. If you're in love with someone you've never even held, it's like saying that physical side doesn't matter at all. Kissing, cuddling and hugging (etc) is all part of love. You can't have love without it easily. Things are so much more meaningful when you can feel their warmth, sit by their side and cuddle them, when you can see and hear them laugh before hugging them!

I currently really like, and love (love and being in love are different), someone I met online. We could have met today (yes, today) but my parents said it wasn't possible since they're at work the other two days he would've been here. However, they say he can come and stay soon.

There's something different about a realtionship with someone you meet online. Something better (although that doesn't mean it's better overall). See, you can say they might lie or might be a pervert. You can throw all these comments at the idea, but until you are in one, until you end up liking/loving someone online you have no idea what it's like. You get to know someone from the inside out. You know who they are inside, if they don't lie, before you know what they look like in person. First impressions aren't based on appearances or clothes. They're based on words. Sure, they might be lies, but when two people like one another, have told the truth, meet... even though they found one another online... it can be better than the average "normal" relationship.
 
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I think that dating on the internet is a bad idea. That's why I never do it.

You may see the pic of that guy/girl but it could be a completely different person. He/she maybe saying that he/she is 19 or something but their real age could be 40 or whatever.
I don't suggest you do anything so stupid
 
That is absolutely true... Any picture on the internet is at anyone's disposal that has internet... For example, I was part of a Starcraft clan, and one of the leaders was supposedly a girl around 18 years old. Then some of the clan members found the picture elsewhere on the internet and found out it was a 15-year-old guy. What's funny was some of the other clan members were hitting on him as he was 'disguised' as a girl. xD
 
Riku said:
You can't just use one bad experience to totally write it off as a bad thing and that the ONLY possible outcome is suicide, depression or any of the other outcomes you've given. One plane crash-landed christ-knows-how-long ago so flying is stupid. A man died of alcohol poisoning last year so there's nothing good about alcohol. Quick examples, yes, but the method of thinking there is the same. "These are the consequences of e-dating." The others being happiness and a true relationship? Some of them. Everything's got good or bad consequences and, for this, it's just down to you if you want to take the risk or not. I suppose I'm in the bracket of people who've met their online friends and actually had an AMAZING time. We plan on making visits a regular thing. I don't feel obsessed and neither does she.
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Well I believe that before quoting me you should had read my other posts.
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I did and none of them are relevant to my post. Besides, if they were and made my post irrelevant to what you actually believe, then you're essentially contradicting yourself.
 
Ive been asked out online and the guy wanted to internet date. I personally seen no point in it as IMO its nothing compared to an actual relationship.

If its someone you have met off the internet, then go about it. I did it, but he went to the same college as me and its almost a year weve been together and we are very much in love.
 
The idea of internet dating is rather weird from an outsider's point of view i suppose, and sure there are risks involved but everything has risks. And it is possible to trust somebody who you have met over the internet, sometimes you just know when they are being geniune. It's no different from trusting your RL friends really, except you have to believe that they are who they say they are aswell.

I don't think that people who internet date are desperate, not always anyway. This person could be perfect for you but they just happen to live 320849833 miles away. I'm not saying that this is always the case but the same thing applies with RL relationships.
 
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Lirael said:
I'm opposed to online dating IF there is no intention of ever meeting. It's pointless and, yes, a waste of time. However, if two people intend to meet or have met, but simply found one another on the internet, it's no different to a long distance relationship.

I see it like this. An internet realtionship is where you meet someone on the internet, talk to them on the internet, hug/cuddle/kiss etc them on the internet. It gets a little more like a long distance relationship when you talk on the phone. When you meet, it does become a long distance realtionship. Internet realtionships are different to relationships (long distance or not) with people you met online...

I'm not going to claim that you can be in love with someone you've never met. Wanna know why? It's like saying being with them will be no better than just talking to them over a messaging client. It's like saying being apart is just as good as being together. If you're in love with someone you've never even held, it's like saying that physical side doesn't matter at all. Kissing, cuddling and hugging (etc) is all part of love. You can't have love without it easily. Things are so much more meaningful when you can feel their warmth, sit by their side and cuddle them, when you can see and hear them laugh before hugging them!

I currently really like, and love (love and being in love are different), someone I met online. We could have met today (yes, today) but my parents said it wasn't possible since they're at work the other two days he would've been here. However, they say he can come and stay soon.

There's something different about a realtionship with someone you meet online. Something better (although that doesn't mean it's better overall). See, you can say they might lie or might be a pervert. You can throw all these comments at the idea, but until you are in one, until you end up liking/loving someone online you have no idea what it's like. You get to know someone from the inside out. You know who they are inside, if they don't lie, before you know what they look like in person. First impressions aren't based on appearances or clothes. They're based on words. Sure, they might be lies, but when two people like one another, have told the truth, meet... even though they found one another online... it can be better than the average "normal" relationship.
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At least someone isn't being narrow-minded about it. It seems to me that everyone has got caught up on only the negatives of pretty much just knowing people on the internet. Yes, they may be lying, and may actually be some 40 year old stalker type.
But you can have a true and honest relationship with someone online just the same as irl. There are people you can trust online just as much, or more so than irl.
And yeah, that thing about you actually get to know the person before seeing, or at least meeting them. It's a big plus about the whole thing over a regular relationship.
But all that said, I wouldn't do a really long distance relationship online. Like, a different country. That's too far really. =/
 
Relationships, like everything, need work to grow. I find it silly that people think that online relationships aren't meaningful and aren't real. They are both. Even if it's one-sided, even if it's a sham for one, it's likely not for both. And while it's easy to meet someone who's jerking you around, it's just as easy to meet someone who's not.

Honestly, if you're a liar online, you're probably a liar in real life. And so, it's really not much different. I totally agree that *kiss* is not the same as a real kiss and indeed some people act differently than they would than in real life, but in the end, we're really who we are, deep down, online or off.
 
Matt Bellamy said:
But all that said, I wouldn't do a really long distance relationship online. Like, a different country. That's too far really. =/
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Ooh, I don't think I could ever manage it if someone was in a different country! I think when it comes to different countries, you need to stay friends until you meet or one person is even able to live in the other country. The problem with being with someone from another country is even worse; who's going to leave their home, their friends and their family? Who is it that has to make that huge sacrifice? Who is it that will be unable to see their family more than a couple of times a year, if that? It's illogical when it comes to different countries if neither wants to leave their family. People will only end up blaming one another in the end. Too much pressure. That's not to say it can't be done. I just, personally, couldn't hack it.
 
I could easily move to another country. It becomes a little bit different when you get older since everyone else get established/get jobs and moving to other parts of the country. So I would could it a question of age. (and that you have an education/job making you capable of working anywhere)
 
Heh, I know someone who now has a very successful relationship because of internet dating! They met online through WOW, and eventually he moved to her town. ^_^ It was all very cute.

Anyway, I think internet dating is fine. Well, I think meeting people online is fine. Dating strictly online seems sort of...immature, in a way. It really lacks the intimacy of dating in real life. A large part of dating someone is the physical aspect of the relationship. Admittedly, some relationships can exist without any sexual aspect but....those are rare, I think. If there is no physical part of the relationship, how is it anything more than a friendship? I mean, I suppose there are romantic feelings, but it's difficult to say if you truly have romantic feelings for someone if you've never actually met them in person. People can be completely different online and in person. I think it's great that the internet connects people who would otherwise never interact, but it's also sort of unrealistic for two people who live hundreds/thousands of miles away from each other to date. In a way, they're sort of just teasing and tormenting themselves.
 
If you can't meet them on a regular basis i think it would be more worth while trying to find some you can meet on a regular basis. I tried it once but having to see somebody only a few times a year is just not worth it.
 
That all depends on how much you care for someone, and how much you love them. It can be very much worth it if you only have to wait a year or so 'til you can be fully together. It's hard, but the best things are worth fighting for; the best things are worth waiting for.
 
I would happily move to be with someone who lives far away, I would have to have known them long enough though (however long that is), but I plan on moving around when I'm older anyway so...
 
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