Serious Grrr

[Bambi]

Im doing this more to let off steam than ask for advice seeing as I don't really need any, in just venting

So like, 10 miniutes ago, the bf wandered back in, his car won't start and it was about 100 yards down the road so he wanted me to give him a hand moving it. I gets in the car and he wants me to steer it toward the curb, so I turn the wheel, stupid wheel locks, then he decides to call me fucking useless and tells me Iturned the wheel the wrong way

I CANT FUCKING DRIVE, I turned the wheel the direction the curb was in. How the fuck was I supposed to know, Ive never drove a car in fucking reverse before

So I stormed off, telling him to move it his fucking self then, I was only trying to help

So then he stomps back in, tells me Im a fucking dick and he's sick of me, to get his shit together for when he leaves work because it's over. I swore bck at him

And now Im just fucking fuming, last time I fucking try to help anyone

 

[Aztec Triogal]

Ah that sucks. Things said but never meant when tensions are high can still be very hard to overcome. People feel insulted that the other person could even say something so terrible to them, even if they were just upset. Truth is you both said bad things... and when you cool down... the only way to survive something like that is to swallow your own pride.

I'm giving my 2 cents regardless, sorry. Hope it works out well whenever you cool down. Until then, sorry you're upset. If it makes you feel better, you can yell at me in this thread. Certainly you have some misdirected anger to give me.

 

[Shu]

Holy crap, not a good start of a day for you. I don't think anyone needs to critique you, but I will say one thing, the dude needs learn to f-ing chill instead of taking it out on you. Just because his damn car got shut down, doesn't mean he has the right to act like a baby about it. Real responsible of him, in my opinion.. not!

I don't think you should throw in the towel, unless this is just a daily fawking thing ya'll go through. Seems like somethings brewing under the surface still though, take care of yourself! Hurts to be in that situation, been there and done it.

Walk it off..

 

[Kandy-Sugar]

Man that really sucks.

I know what it's like. When my boyfriend 'can't understand' when I don't know how to do something, he gets so effing annoyed and calls me an idiot.

We actually just had an incident with a spider and me having arachnophobia... well I didn't exactly want to help him get rid of the monster sized thing.

Therefore I was called a stupid child and told that he felt like he was babysitting me all the time. He got the shits and left me downstairs with the spider

When they say shit like that to you, well you don't exactly feel like helping them again with anything the next time around.

/end rant

How long have you and your boyfriend been together by the way if you don't mind me being nosy?

 

[Bambi]

Ohhh he just came back and asked me if I was ready to appologise ME! Never mind HIM calling me useless, if he wants an aplogy from me, then he can appologise to me for yelling at me when I was only trying to help. Well, he can bog off. I wonder how he'd react If I asked him for help and called him hopeless? Muppet

I do have a short fuse, Il admit that, but then, so does he, if he had done that to me Kandy, I'd of ended up throwing summat at him, Id of also scramed some abuse then cried about it for abit after >_>

 

[Kandy-Sugar]

He actually threw something at me Well not at me...at the spider so that it would go further downstairs and into my vicinity, the meanie.

I crouched down in the kitchen, hiding from the spider for another hour until Steve apologised and finally got rid of it. >_>

It's the stupidest little things that set me off.

 

[Bambi]

Why do we bloody bother, I'd be better off single, less bleeding hassle.

If he thinks his bags won't be packed and ready, he has another think coming >>

 

[Shu]

If I were you, I would have gone inside the house, drawn a bucket of water and then waited on him. When the time came, I would have made a smart ass remark saying "cool off" then thrown the water in his face.

 

[Prince Oberyn Martel]

Savage stuff Bam. To be honest I've got a short fuse, probably up there with the worst offenders, but I'd always chill out and make the effort after. Not "are you ready to apologize yet?", that's fucking lame. Something seriously bad would have to happen to warrant that. But then again its a heat of the moment thang, and it's probably left a gert grey storm cloud over his head for a few hours. Once he's calmed down it'll be fine and he'll probably apologize and give you epic sex.....if not then why the hell not?! Open a can of whoop-arse on his camo wearing arse I say

 

[Aztec Triogal]

If you don't mind me saying so, I call you useless all the time and you've never even run my car into the curb

Doesn't he look much better by comparison now? /fail at cheerup

 

[Bambi]

Yeah but, you've never actually said it with malice, and Im prety sure I did snap at you recently somewhere

 

[The Illusive Man]

Wow hun sorry to hear that, Some men can be real dickheads in some situations, and if on one argument over something as menial as his car when he full well knows you cant drive and decides to throw the "its over" card in your face...what does the future hold for you both?

If when he comes back he still wants to carry the argument on and hasnt cooled off, IMHO opinion your probably better off without, as he will be constantly using the "IT's over" card as emotional blackmail to get what he wants...

Chances are if he has any sense or dignity about himself, when he gets back from work he will be carrying a bunch of flowers and dragging his heels. Afterall its a man's perogative to make the first move to settle unsteady waters, Especially since you have a child, it would be an extremely dumb thing indeed to carry on being a dick esp if the child is around.

I hope this situation sorts itself out for you hun, not used to seeing you pissed off/down, If I were there I'd slap him in the face and make him go appologise afterall...

Men are always in the wrong, even if there not the one in the wrong, its still the mans fault!

but in this case, its definatley his fault

 

[TheMixedHerb]

Men are always in the wrong, even if there not the one in the wrong, its still the mans fault!

but in this case, its definatley his fault

Is it odd I agree with this?
Anyways, by the sounds of it he overreacted, I mean, you don't know how to drive so how the fuck would know what you're doing? I mean, seriously.
Anyways this'll probably be one of them times when you have a huge rant at each other and then be fine not too long after, also, as you said on MSN it's like a clash of personalities.
And I don't really know what i'm on about now so imma shut up 8D