Serious Going to Australia

[SapphireStar]

K, my dad and his family have lived in Perth for 5 years now. My step mums family go over twice a year, no one goes to see my dad. So he has offered to pay for my ticket to go over!

Im happy, but at the same time I cant go. I have a 30 hour job here and cant jet off for a month, they wont allow it. Plus my grans here, I know Id come back, but I would miss her. Plus my boyfriend. Both of them want me to go, maybe even apply for a citizenship and live there. My boyfriend said I cant stay here for other people. Its like he wants me to leave.

My gran said something that really touched me and tha was she wanted me to see the world and not regret it later. But there are alot of things to consider. Im on the Pill, so Im sure that will be affected, I hate long flights lol and again my job.

I do so want to go as its a great chance to see my dad, but Im scared of leaving my life behind if I decide to stay for good.

 

[Bambi]

You never know when the chance is gunna arise again, if at all, you can always get another job. Have you even spoke to them about it? Maybe take a month off unpaid, see if they will keep the job open

A month isnt all that long anyway, so its not like you willl never see your gran/BF again

It's an opportunity that might not come up again so take it, you WILL regret it in the future if you don't. Just view it as an extended holiday

Talk to your doctor about the pill, Im sure it won't affect i t that much though, if, at all

It sounds like you're trying to make excuses to not go, but I really think you should

 

[Kandy-Sugar]

Oooh wow I have family in Perth. =D Though I'm in Queensland on the opposite side of the country and don't really get to see them.

I wonder if you're dad is related to my family some how. Make it a small world indeed if it were. XD

This sounds like an awesome opportunity to travel in my opinion and also to catch up with your father.

If it were me and I was given the opportunity I would take it. You may never have the chance to go overseas again and to pass this up would see you regretting it in the near future I'm sure.

You may not be too sure about it right now, but I'm sure you'll thank yourself for it later. Nerves will get in the way, but it's no reason to push this away.

I would definitely say go for it!

 

[Sir Kenneth]

K, my dad and his family have lived in Perth for 5 years now. My step mums family go over twice a year, no one goes to see my dad. So he has offered to pay for my ticket to go over!

Im happy, but at the same time I cant go. I have a 30 hour job here and cant jet off for a month, they wont allow it. Plus my grans here, I know Id come back, but I would miss her. Plus my boyfriend. Both of them want me to go, maybe even apply for a citizenship and live there. My boyfriend said I cant stay here for other people. Its like he wants me to leave.

My gran said something that really touched me and tha was she wanted me to see the world and not regret it later. But there are alot of things to consider. Im on the Pill, so Im sure that will be affected, I hate long flights lol and again my job.

I do so want to go as its a great chance to see my dad, but Im scared of leaving my life behind if I decide to stay for good.

Why don't you go visit, see how you like it there, then go back and decide whether you'd be into moving permanently.

I moved to Australia from Denmark in January to live with my Australian girlfriend, so I can sort of relate to some of the ambivalent feelings you're having about it. I adore my grandparents and they are some of the nicest people in the world and very important to me. They aren't getting any younger though, and the thought that I might never see them again weighed heavily on my mind when I made my decision. I've also always been a bit socially awkward and only have 2 or 3 people that I truly consider my friends. Leaving those guys behind was tough as hell. It was a hard choice, but I know that I would never have made it, had I not spent some time in Australia before hand.

 

[Bun]

Your grams has a point. Maybe all of the reasons you just stated are merely an excuse to convince yourself that going to Australia is not a good idea? I mean, I could possibly understand the work issue, but everything else just sounds like you're trying to justify why you shouldn't go and enjoy an entirely different continent, new culture, beautiful environment and, I'm sure, much, much more.

There are times when I really wish I could just go see my dad as I don't have the chance to either. I love and miss the hell out of him and if I could jump on a plane and see him, I would. Sounds like you're in the same boat, too, but you've got the chance now. I think it would be a great idea if you ceased this opportunity by going to Australia to cherish the time you have with the people you love. Who knows, you may end up regretting not going when that time has passed.

 

[blakstang98]

Well, I must say that this is a pretty unique situation, and I'm not totally sure how to go about it. I think the simplest way to come to grips with the situation is to figure out the pros and cons (sounds nerdy I know, but it may help). And I suppose you'd have to figure which pros and cons are more powerful than others.

The first thing you could do is talk to your boss from work to see if it is possible to take a leave of absence. If you give them all the information, they may understand and let you take the time off. If this ends up being the case, then the choice is simple, and you're off to Australia!

If for some reason your boss doesn't understand and won't let you take the time off, now you'll have to decide what's more important, your job or your family. With the economy being the way it is, it scares a lot of people when it comes to jobs, which is probably what makes this decision harder for you. I personally, feel that family is more important in every way. You haven't seen your father in a while, and now that the opportunity to see him has arose, would you really feel like it's not a good idea to visit? Jobs will come and go for your whole life, but you only have 1 father. You'll certainly land another job if you have to quit this one, even if it may take a little while.

I'll stray off topic momentarily. I don't want you to feel like your boyfriend is trying to send you away to get you out of his life. I do agree that a certain person, or people, shouldn't keep you in 1 place. Some people are special, in this case your gran. If you were to move to Australia for good, and your boyfriend loves you and cares about you, he'd want to come with you, and it would be your choice to accept if he comes with you or not. It's like the saying, "if you set a bird free, and it comes back, then it wanted to stay with you", or something to that effect.

Your gran is absolutely right, doing something like seeing the world while you can is a great idea. It's just that when you are married and have a family in the future, doing something like traveling the world becomes a lot harder to do. I personally have no interest in traveling the world, but the meaning is the same for whatever it is you can do while you're still young and single.

As for the pill deal, being a guy, I don't know a whole lot about that stuff, so I can't give you anything insightful about that. I think Kelly pretty much hit on all the points though, so I concur with her.

As for living there permanently, this is a dilemma you shouldn't worry yourself about now. Just think about whether or not you should make the trip to Australia or not first. If you do go, then this is something you can think about when you return. You may find comfort in your time in Australia, and a month should be enough time to recognize the culture setting there. But I do advise that you at least come back, then you can think more seriously about moving out the Australia for good.

Best of luck! Hope everything works out for ya Mariella!

 

[Shu]

I'll keep this as non-traditional as possible, and short and sweet.

Take your freakin chance now while you have it. Your Grandmother will always be there, and your boyfriend is an item for now. You might not readily have a job, but if people are willing to make sacrifices for you to move, then do it!

This is a chance to start again, if you truly want to. This is also one of the few times to take time for yourself. Take a chance! Do it for those who can not! (me namely =P).

Alright take care.