Drama free or Drama filled?

[Shu]

I'm putting this into the debate thread because I know it will escalate into one.

So the real question is are you the type of person that likes to dodge the drama or the type of person who lives and loves the drama?

For me, I'm the type of person who likes to live life without the least hint of drama. I guess it's because I don't entirely understand why people like it to occur in the first place. There will always be rumors, there will always be talking behind peoples back, it's unavoidable. The thing is though, why do people like to see other people suffer because of it? I'm the type of person that is a mediator half the damn time because of these situations. I'm put on the spot and sought to choose a side of an argument brought on because of drama. It especially erks me when my girlfriend puts me on the spot, because I know I have to choose her side, unless I want her to go silent for 2 days.

There are also the people that will tell lies also in order to see what will happen to the victim. I guess people get bored, and like to spice up life with getting people upset. There is also the stuff that is soooooooo trivial that you ever wonder why it becomes blown up out of proportion in the first place. It's like instilling a healthy case of paranoia in a person. You say one thing out of context and the next thing you know you have your good friend calling you up and bitching you out.

When people come to me with a problem of any kind though, I try to see it from both angles. I don't immediately jump to their side, and push for them to retaliate. It's senseless in order to do so, and for some odd reason I always get thrown into the mix. So then I have to explain my damn take on it to the other person.. and that's when the mediating begins.

I know some people out there are addicted to the drama, and I guess that's fine, because it's your thing. Honestly though, every time I feel the pressure of it, I feel as if someone is pulling at my stomach in a veeeerry uncomfortable way.

So I like to live drama free yo!

 

[Kandy-Sugar]

I am the kind of person who loves living in peace and who tries to avoid drama all the time.

Some people live for it and I don't understand why. I see it as those kind of people obviously have nothing good going for them in their lives and so they try to cause problems in order to have something to do.

That's not good for people like me who wish to be left alone.

Just recently there was 4 months worth of drama that was not going to go away at all at my old workplace. There was a couple of girls who were obviously jealous that I was so happy and so they bullied me for months. Therefore I quit as soon as I found other work. I hate drama that much that I would even quit my job.

I remember when my partner and I first moved in together. We were so carefree and every weekend was a private party together in which we just enjoyed each others company and nothing or no one could ruin that.

As of late though we have had a few problems with moving house and I've had trouble with a soon to be ex-friend of mine who is actually trying to sabotage my relationship with Steve. It's caused nothing bad to happen between me and Steve though, however we've found that we aren't as relaxed. We're having to run around all the time tying up loose ends with everything.

I wish for nothing more than for the drama to all go away so that we can go back to our relaxing lifestyle once more. Drama is for people who love the limelight and love sharing all the latest goss on who's sleeping with who and whatnot.

I hate attention and I hate talking bullshit. It's a waste of time in which you could have been doing something useful.

 

[Mitsuki]

This is going to be one roller coaster post.

I try to stay away from drama if possible, but sometimes I get involved anyway. That's just the way it works, and yes I hate it that it's unavoidable. I must admit though, drama could be entertaining if it's not all that serious (depends on how one looks at it and if they're one who's not that bothered with any serious issues), but real drama can get extremely ugly, to a point that you feel sick to your stomach.

Drama tend to stress me out to a point that sometimes I just go quiet for days and wouldn't speak to anyone. And although I don't like drama, little do I know that I'm already in one and sometimes I would be the one who's actually created the 'issue' and it just leaves me more than frustrated, especially my husband. It's not that I live for it - it just happens. It's part of relationships/marriage and naturally you'd expect drama. Don't get me wrong though - no it's not that type where we'd yell at each at the top of our lungs. xD That's actually never happened before, nor would it happen at all. We're both pretty level-headed people, but the occasional drama will always pop up every now and then.

As for rumors and gossips, oh yeah, there's those little suckers too. I mean I'm not an angel here. I've done it plenty of times - it's natural and part of us having our own opinions and voicing them out. You just have to watch how you do it and make sure it's not very condescending. Not everyone who gossip will say extremely mean things about others. Sometimes it's just their way of 'ranting' and trying to get things out of their system. Doesn't have to be a bad thing, but in most cases, yes it can get very ugly real quick and that's what you want to avoid. The drama that unfolds right before your eyes knowing you might have something to do to contribute to it even just a little is something that leaves you feeling like you just want to wrestle with a pillow.

 

[Sylvanius]

I would love to avoid drama but sadly in my school that's pretty much impossible unless you socially outcast yourself. I go to a small boarding highschool and even though I am a day student since I am a prefect as well I am there on an average....15-16 hours out of my day..and on the weekends a lot too. Basically I live in an enviroment of 200 7th-12th graders. There is no way to avoid drama there, if you try to extract yourself from issues you get slammed for not 'taking an interest in your friends' and if you involve yourself you are 'taking sides'. There is absolutely no win.

I can't even describe the last two years of my life in the amount of drama that has gone on in my circle of friends. Lat year for instance on of my friends would just ignore people for no reason for up to weeks at a time until THEY apologized. Once she did it to me because I went to see another friend during a free period. In that situation everyone would bug me to 'go see what's wrong because she is obviously hurting' and when I would she would yell at me and call me a bitch if I asked what was wrong..and then everyone else would say 'well, you really SHOULD have just apologized'. That's basically a sample of life at my school....and it's gotten really...twisted...since last year.

 

[FallenAngel]

I don't live for drama and i don't like drama period.
I think people who start drama are just plain stupid and they need to get a life. Drama is always around us but we have the choice to step in or not get involved.
I hate drama because it doesn't make people happy it makes them feel miserable (the victim) and the person who starts it just don't really give a damn and that's the sad part :/
I just think things would be more peacefully and not as stressful i think things would be better off with a whole lot less of drama so people can live y'know? (i hope that made sense)

 

[Apolyonn]

I'm pretty sure everyone here is going to say they don't live for drama whether they do or not.

I don't set my self up to be in a dramatic situations. My friends don't cause drama and when they do I'm not there. My life revolves around the backwaters of social norms. The most drama I ever get is between my girlfriend, and usually it happens because of a misunderstanding, or if I get jealous or something.

Well actually, I get caught under a lot of conflicts at home. My parents both yell, because it makes them feel good I guess. So mom uses her sales tactics while screaming to make me look like Satan himself, and dad just goes along with it because he's too stupid to think for himself. Of course, nothing I say ever matters, but then when I shut up they scream more because I look apathetic or bottle up.

That said, there's not much reason to get into drama outside of the house, so I don't set myself up for it and avoid it as much as possible.

 

[strifehart]

i used to live a life filled with drama, back in high school. but after coming to college, my friend circle became a lot smaller, and I cut out a lot of that drama. i liked it at first, cuz it made things easier and i spent more time studying and what not. but now, i sorta miss it. i want that drama. makes things somewhat exciting in this boring town.

 

[Bun]

I'm pretty sure everyone here is going to say they don't live for drama whether they do or not.

True that. Nearly everyone is going to say that they either don't live a life filled with drama or at least try to avoid it, but somehow they manage to get swept away when it does happen.

As for myself, well, it's kind of hard to be around drama when you don't have friends and you live alone. XD My parents and I get along and me and my brothers are pretty tight. Actually, last night I went to dinner with my little brother and he was telling me how much he hates girls who just talk about the same crap that's always some kind of drama. He knows I'm the exact opposite. I'd rather live a life filled with other concerns (video gaming, finishing school, etc) than to waste my time getting involved in pointless situations that usually end up having gone no where.

I told him, "you need to find a girl who's a loser who doesn't have any friends so there's no possible way she can HAVE drama." XD

But yeah, there are different ways that drama can come about, not just through friends. I'm lucky that I have the guts enough to tell someone to just shut the hell up and go on my merry way if it does rear its ugly head.

 

[Shu]

Well maybe I should have phrased it this way. Are you a magnet for drama? Or are you pretty good at staying out of it?

I didn't exactly mean.. do you love it, I mean who's going to admit that. It's like saying I love to tell lies (in which I don't).

My life I have done my best to stay out of it, I'm not a borring person, far from it, but I still manage to keep away from the she said he said BS.

I mean Life comes at you so fast, so outsiders opinions will always be there, but yours will always be the last resort.

You think you are done with it as soon as you get out of high school, well keep dreaming. Once you get out of high school you have job competition, people size you up based on your job position and/or major all the time where I am. So people start shit, because they give their opinion where it generally isn't needed. Hince.. Are you a drama magnet or do you do pretty good at veering away from it.

 

[Bun]

I'm very good at being able to stay away from drama. Unlike a lot of people I know who let it affect them, I can turn and look the other way. I think being able to not care about what's happening is the trick, but some people just apparently can't not care. *shrug* It's easy for me.

 

[Vladislak]

Well, I'd like to live my life drama free of course. That's often not how my life goes, but I'd like to avoid it whenever possible.

That's not to say I don't deal with drama when it comes my way, but if given the choice I'd like to live peacefully with the people I love.

I wish I could say more with this post, but that's really all there is to say for me.

 

[CidHighwind1993]

I tend to live my life fairly drama free as it is much simpler that way but sometimes I wish there was a bit more drama every now and then to create a bit more action when things are dull.

 

[Fusilli]

I hardly have any drama in my life and I prefer it that way. People around me are always talking about stuff that's happened with other people but I really don't pay attention to it at all, and if I get dragged into the conversation I just tend to tune out without realising because I really don't care about what drama is going on in people I barely know's lives.

 

[SABR]

It would appear we mostly agree that life is better when it's free of silly, sentimental drama. I see the stuff that goes on (especially amongst the girls) at school and on the interwebs (bah, myspace), and I just think it's ridiculous. Having a sister who gets involved sometimes really opens your eyes to high school stupidity. It's she-said-this-about-me this, I-want-that-boy-she-stole-from-me that. It's all pointless. I've seen a couple of catfights and even a court case! Why can't people just hang out, be cool, and do a little homework for a change?