Serious Don't poke the bear

[Channizard]

So y'all remember that wonderful ex bf of mine? The one that's batshit insane? Yeah that one. Well I'm lurking about on facebook and there's about.. 4 status updates, and he's ranting. Morbid curiosity strikes.. -clicks see more-

He's jobless. Which is funny, because last we spoke, I was working at McD's and he had something like two superly duperly awesome jobs and was rubbing it in my face. But now, he's married to some chick who's working and providing them their life... but she's also pregnant. So soon enough she's going to have to leave work, and they're going to have no income and have to move back with someone's folks.

It takes nearly every fiber of my being to just not... comment on this. I myself struck gold when I found a job on craigslist for an Old Folk's Home just as a dishwasher... but then I got promoted to prep cook within 3 days, and now I'm doing both jobs at 10$/hour with 15$/hour of overtime.. which at this point, has been 11 days in a row, and then again 10 days starting tomorrow.

It's the dramawhore in me that just wants to click and comment with some short and snide... instead, I posted my own status update about 15/$ OT over 10 days... I mean, he's always been there to just snap a rude comment at me, why shouldn't I do the same? I want to be better than that... =/

Anybody else been through this situation like? You see someone you hate so much have to deal with such misfortune, and you find it hard not to rub your own luck in their face to worsen the situation? It's hard because they're a pain in the ass, and you know they're only going to do it anyway later on... so why not? Are we better than that? Who isn't?

 

[Shu]

- Thread Moved to Temple of the Ancients -

This borders on the lines of real life problems I assume. More or less though since it is about folks willing to maintain self control in situations, where integrity comes into play than anything else.

To me, I've had to hold back many times, because there are a lot of.. well bad people out there. I mostly try to counter it by not caring or surprising them with kindness. Though the kindness thing can be played off as stupidity, so I make it known that I know what they are doing.

Some folks only feed off of anguish and take delight in making folks react in a manner, they'll push.. push till finally they get the desired reaction. (aka push the buttons). They live off it, like an adrenaline rush. I usually try to cut the steam, and make sure they lose their little thrill and move on to the next unsuspecting prey.

In your situation you could easily laugh now that they are down, but I think it's good character that you don't. Though I believe in Karma.. so if you don't then I guess it's a bit misunderstood.

 

[Channizard]

Yeah I wasn't sure if it'd be CDS or TotA. Either way, thanks.

I acknowledge karma, but I'm a firm hard believer.. I don't want to go about bragging in his face and taking the piss because that makes me worse than he is... I want to be a better person, but y'know I just love drama so much... It's just so hard to not... Not be as bad as he is, per say but just to give him a taste of his own medicine and what it's like to be a cunt and kick people when they're down, y'know? He was the first to jump in when I mentioned my bf went home and be an ass... so why shouldn't I when he's having financial issues?

I hate being a good person sometimes...

 

[chronotrigger]

I don't know, I cannot think of a time when I really wanted to do something like that. I have a tendency to feel bad for anyone, including enemies, that suffers hard times. I am usually in hard times, since most of my life has been chock-full of struggle and hardship, so I also don't get many chances to rub my "luck" in anybody's face. Most people would rather have a knife shoved into their eye than have my luck. I think that's because I am the epitomy of Murphy's Law. All this is aside the point, I just wanted to throw in my two cents. Personally, if my luck were better, however, I think I would want to rub it in somebody's face that they were lower than me if they were particularly unkind to me in the past.

 

[Dee]

Ehh, it's all just a matter of whether you want to be the bigger person. Go ahead and comment, rub it in his face and laugh at his situation if you want to. But if you don't want to stoop to his level, then you probably shouldn't say anything at all, or at least do it subtly like you're doing now mentioning your accomplishments.