So, I'm a little worried about a situation I could possibly be in after getting married. Basically, I could have a very difficult mother-in-law.
Ok, my fiance's older brother is married to a girl their mother can not accept. And I do not understand why because she is a very girl and she tried her very best to please her mother in law.
Basically, my husband's mother can not let her children go. She still calls them by childish names. (Jeffy and Jay-Jay) she randomly volunteers them for tasks when they are way to busy during their day, she wanted her oldest son, who is thirty years old, to be a judge at her school's science fair (she is a fourth grade teacher), and she gets upset because the older brother and wife do not visit that often. They are also expecting their first child and she has shown virtually no interest in it. She never asks her daughter-in-law how she is feeling or has even gotten her any gifts. and you think she'd be happy to have her first grand child.
After talking to my boyfriend, he said that his parents did not want their kids to have any children because they were afraid that they would have to raise it. (Stupid thought because their KIDS would be raising their own children)
Also, she is very controlling. If her kids do not want to do something, she will say things like "don't you love me," "I had to carry you for nine months!"(Get over it lady that is your own damn fault) or "I had to raise you!"
Finally, she wants her daughter in law to attend every family gathering even though her husband is a nurse and often works on the holidays. Attending these family gatherings is often very awkward for her because it involves the entire extended family. And one year she wanted to attend her family's party that was taking place at the same time because relatives that she never sees were attending. Her husband's family threw a fit over this.
Last Christmas, she made it clear that she would not be attending a family christmas party because her husband would not be there and she was tired from her pregnancy. Even after that, her husband's family kept calling her during the party to asked if she was coming. She avoided answering for several hours. In fact, she and her husband both often don't answer the phone when his parents call.
Ok, so I'm worried about this happening when I finally marry my fiance. He has already made it clear that he does not care for his mother that much and would not mind cutting ties with his family altogether, but I do not want him to do that. I just get the feeling that she thinks that me and her daughter in law are stealing her sons away from her. Though so far, I get the impression that she likes me, unless that is just an act.
Blah had to get that off my chest! Anyone else have difficult relatives? Any advice on how to deal with difficult in laws?
Ok, my fiance's older brother is married to a girl their mother can not accept. And I do not understand why because she is a very girl and she tried her very best to please her mother in law.
Basically, my husband's mother can not let her children go. She still calls them by childish names. (Jeffy and Jay-Jay) she randomly volunteers them for tasks when they are way to busy during their day, she wanted her oldest son, who is thirty years old, to be a judge at her school's science fair (she is a fourth grade teacher), and she gets upset because the older brother and wife do not visit that often. They are also expecting their first child and she has shown virtually no interest in it. She never asks her daughter-in-law how she is feeling or has even gotten her any gifts. and you think she'd be happy to have her first grand child.
After talking to my boyfriend, he said that his parents did not want their kids to have any children because they were afraid that they would have to raise it. (Stupid thought because their KIDS would be raising their own children)
Also, she is very controlling. If her kids do not want to do something, she will say things like "don't you love me," "I had to carry you for nine months!"(Get over it lady that is your own damn fault) or "I had to raise you!"
Finally, she wants her daughter in law to attend every family gathering even though her husband is a nurse and often works on the holidays. Attending these family gatherings is often very awkward for her because it involves the entire extended family. And one year she wanted to attend her family's party that was taking place at the same time because relatives that she never sees were attending. Her husband's family threw a fit over this.
Last Christmas, she made it clear that she would not be attending a family christmas party because her husband would not be there and she was tired from her pregnancy. Even after that, her husband's family kept calling her during the party to asked if she was coming. She avoided answering for several hours. In fact, she and her husband both often don't answer the phone when his parents call.
Ok, so I'm worried about this happening when I finally marry my fiance. He has already made it clear that he does not care for his mother that much and would not mind cutting ties with his family altogether, but I do not want him to do that. I just get the feeling that she thinks that me and her daughter in law are stealing her sons away from her. Though so far, I get the impression that she likes me, unless that is just an act.
Blah had to get that off my chest! Anyone else have difficult relatives? Any advice on how to deal with difficult in laws?
They made me feel better.