Betrayal

Sephire

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Betrayal is something a lot of humans feel throughout their life at least once, if not more. I don't want to bring up any past memories for you, but if you're comfortable in sharing your experiences then please post it up here.
What do you do when you're betrayed? How do you react? In what ways do you cope? Discuss here, and remember, repsect other views and opinions.
 
I have known betrayel though only once. It was when I was much younger and to be frank it did not effect me too much but has left me with a nagging doubt about the loyalty of all my friends.

When I was in junior school I had a friend who shall remain nameless lest I go psycho and start destroying my comp in rage. We used to hang out a lot and we got along vey well. However that changed when we moved into senior school.
I have always been bullied at school, both junior and senior. My friend sruck by me at junior school but in senior school he joined with those who made me suffer and seemed to take genuine pleasure in my suffering.
Worst of all was the fact he never even explained himself he just stoped talking to me and started bulliying me without even a goodbye.

Needless to say that pissed me off but thats what my entire life at school was like so I got over it soon enough. I just find it hard to trust any of my friends totally any more.
 
once,one of my two best friends i used to have betrayed my.
you know how?
she was having an argument with someone,i got in the way to defend her and i continued arguing with the other person.
and the only thing my friend did was that she left and let my argue for her.
we had been best friends with her for more than 5 years and i don't think i had ever done anything bad to her.
but now she's best friend with the person that was arguing that time.
is this the best she can do?well i got over it that she left us and became best friend with the other one that we used to argue for about 4 years,but i still to talk to her at school,even if we aren't in the same class.
 
Once I was with my girlfriend, we were at my house when her mom wanted her to come home. My girlfriend asked if I could come to and her mom said yes. So I went over to her house and I was playing Final Fantasy X and she was just talking to me. Then she noticed that her cat had supposedly left her house and run off. Now I didn't know her neighborhood at all but I agreed to go if she didn't let me get lost, She agreed. So we were outside in about 25 degree weather look for this black cat, We looked for about 30 minutes, finally she found the cat. The cat ran away and she chased it, I called out to tell her to stop because I was lost. She just kept running, officially she ditched me and went back to her house. Now I'm stuck out here in 25 degree weather 3:30 in the morning. I went to sleep under a tree and found my way home when it was light enough to see...
 
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I know betrayal all too well. When i was 17 i was dating a girl i had been in love with since the age of 9. It took me all that time to build up the courage to tell her how i felt. We were together for about 9 months or so when one fateful afternoon i decided to have a bunch of friends over. So it was me her my best friend at the time and like 15 other poeple i used to associate with. About 4 hours after the get together got started i got a call from my dad saying my little brother was sick. Obviously i went to go check on him. He was at my dads house and he had a fever of like 102 or sumthing i dont really remember. BUt i was there for about a half an hour or so. I put my brother to bed and returned to my house to find my girlfriend in bed with my then best friend. Apparently they had been seeing each other since almost the same time me and her started going out. And just about everyone that was at my house already knew about it. I was so everwhelmed with rage i put my hand through a window and a door. This sole event changed my outlook on life. I dont think i will EVER be able to trust anyone fully ever again.
 
My boyfriend (at the time) stole my SNES and several games (which I am only starting to recover now) and pawned them for drug money. He stole my bank card (I had told him the PIN before I knew he was a clepto) and deposited an empty envelope into the ATM saying there was $1000 in it, then proceeded to withdraw the money that was never there in the first place (for drugs again). And he cheated on me with a prostitute. An actual sleeps-with-men-for-money prostitute. Four times.

The end.


PS - Don't worry, I've been getting tested every six months for the past six years.... I'm clean.
 
Adamant said:
Your efforts to convince me to start a relationship are not succeeding. :)
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I know...stories like this are very disheartening....

I've known betrayal. So deep that I can't even bring myself to talk about it here. It really makes you question things and people in your life. But I must say that it has turned me into a stronger person. You just have to take your experiences in life and learn from them, turn around, and keep on going...It's the only way you'll survive.
 
Well, some people can be quite happy alone for their lives...

I'm really not being sarcastic... Really. Man, how do I turn the sarcasm off!?

Seriously though, it's live and learn. Through all the troubles I've had, I can only say that I've become a much stronger person. After all, I would rather be someone who is tough and wise, though emotionally scarred, than someone who is has lived a very easy life, but is naive and too trusting. I think a good level of cynicism is healthy.
 
In one sense I can understand why people become very closed in. I myself am very much like that and while I don't exactly what caused it I do know that some personal things probably contributed it, particularly the betrayal of someone close.

But in another sense becoming very closed in emotionally can hurt relationships and friendships. This has hurt a number of people dear to me when I refuse to be more open. By being so cyncial you can rob yourself of the enrichening and support of a true friendship.
 
I know betrayal, perhaps too well for I am one of its cold victims. Both my ex-girlfriend and my ex-best friend betrayed me. That aroused my anger and unleashed a dormant part of my old self, one who enjoyed revenge. I spent one week trying to break their relationship, turning them against each other. I succeeded, but felt guilty, as if I realized that I have lost all sense of empathy. I looked for an answer, I failed and now I can't find that thing that makes someone happy.

My old friend called me a monster, and I don't really care at all, he betrayed me and he deserved a punishment. Now I barely trust people who are under 16 years old.
 
You shouldn't trust anyone unless they give you a reason.

And they did deserve a punishment. If you don't punish them, how else will they learn?
 
That's...really...just...:(

I'm also one to be familiar with betrayal. It seems my life has been filled with this hurtful feeling. Some events are too hurtful to remember, and some are just insignificant when it comes to today.

Everytime I've been betrayed, I've always gone through the same span of emotions. First, it's shock. I usually struggle to comprehend that such an event has happened. The question is always: "Why? Why me?" Then comes the tears. The hurt that usually follows the numbness of shock takes over threatens to spill, before anger usually kicks in and revenge grasps the mind. After that, I tend to just think: "You know what? If you keep dwelling in this, you'll be stuck. Just move on."

That's pretty much what I do. It's a struggle 'to get over' things but it's a move you have to make in order for wounds to heal.
 
Same 'ere.

First it's pissed off with myself for some reason, then the other person, then me, then them, then bitterness towards all mankind, and then I just don't care anymore.

My friend was pretty lucky I was in Scotland at the time or I'd be opening up a can of Whoop bottom, heh.
 
Sephire said:
That's...really...just...:(

I'm also one to be familiar with betrayal. It seems my life has been filled with this hurtful feeling. Some events are too hurtful to remember, and some are just insignificant when it comes to today.

Everytime I've been betrayed, I've always gone through the same span of emotions. First, it's shock. I usually struggle to comprehend that such an event has happened. The question is always: "Why? Why me?" Then comes the tears. The hurt that usually follows the numbness of shock takes over threatens to spill, before anger usually kicks in and revenge grasps the mind. After that, I tend to just think: "You know what? If you keep dwelling in this, you'll be stuck. Just move on."

That's pretty much what I do. It's a struggle 'to get over' things but it's a move you have to make in order for wounds to heal.
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You don't have to deal with such things on your own, you know. You have good friends *points frantically to self* that would do anything in their power to help you through that time.
 
His friend, presumably.

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You don't have to deal with such things on your own, you know. You have good friends *points frantically to self* that would do anything in their power to help you through that time.
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Awww. ^_^ *Hugs tightly* But the thing is, when you've been betrayed by someone close to you, you lose a lot of faith/trust in others. At least, I do anyway. You think to yourself: "Well if so-and-so did that to me, the person I thought I could trust the most in the world, who's to say that someone else wont hurt me?"

That's what I think. But the thing is, you can't let yourself think like that. I normally snap out of it after a while. Just because one person close to you has betrayed your trust, doesn't mean the other people around you will.

It's just hard, after the initial betrayal, to open up. But you start talking eventually. Just, a long while after the event. [As you would know, Dave, because I've told you a lot of things -after- they occur].

You just need some time to yourself to comprehend and get a grip again.
 
Sephire said:
Awww. ^_^ *Hugs tightly* But the thing is, when you've been betrayed by someone close to you, you lose a lot of faith/trust in others. At least, I do anyway. You think to yourself: "Well if so-and-so did that to me, the person I thought I could trust the most in the world, who's to say that someone else wont hurt me?"
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That's understandable. All I can say is that you have to trust your instincts - don't be too suspicious, but don't be too close either. Although I can assure you right now, I'm all fine and good :P

That's what I think. But the thing is, you can't let yourself think like that. I normally snap out of it after a while. Just because one person close to you has betrayed your trust, doesn't mean the other people around you will.
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There're some stinkers in the word. There're some sweet-smellers. You're totally right about some people, you know ^ :P

It's just hard, after the initial betrayal, to open up. But you start talking eventually. Just, a long while after the event. [As you would know, Dave, because I've told you a lot of things -after- they occur].
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Just try not to bottle it up too much ;)

You just need some time to yourself to comprehend and get a grip again.[/quote]
 
I'm a bit too trusting of people...as much as I may hate to say it I probably do have a little bit of faith and trust in people.
But slowly just not caring anymore, and eventually someone's just gonna take it too far and I'll just give up.
If that's the way things always go, I don't think I'll give a shit anymore.

That's my two cents.


(So much for the resolution of being less bitter huh?)
 
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