Serious Is there really such thing as love

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Oblivion_XIII

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I refuse to date anyone, because i believe that there is no such thing as love, its just a trick of the mind that makes you think its love. Love is something that lasts forever, something that never goes away. Is it real, or fake?
 
It's completely conceptual and emotional. Love is only as real as you make it. If you don't believe in it, that's alright. But you can't say that what millions of people feel for other people isn't "real".
 
I believe in variations of it. I love things/certain people,because of bonds built more than anything else or because these things bring me pleasure and I find them pleasing but I dont realy believe in the validity of people falling in love. Its all chemical reactions in the brain to me and sooner or later it wears off.
I personaly have never encountered this undying passionate love people tolerate anything for.
But I wouldnt say dont date people because you dont believe in love if anything thats how the process is sopposed to start one will never know if one dosent try.
Just because I dont believe in the premise of romantic love dosent mean I dont date people I just dont go in to it blinded by a false sence of what I believe it to be
 
If you know what the feeling many interpret to be love as but wouldn't describe it as love, what would you describe it as, then?

As I said, love is only as real as you make it. Love is what you make or believe it to be. People might interpret love to be different things. Everyone always says that to truly understand love, you need to experience it. It can't be described.

Plus, there are different kinds of love. I love spaghetti and hamburgers. I would eat spaghetti and hamburgers every day, in an ideal world. But I imagine my grandparents love each other in a different way, and my mom loves me in another different way. "Love" itself is such a vague term--it encompasses many things. You don't think any of them are real?
 
Since you hate love,then it doesnt exist for you,you once told me about your life at school,and relationship with boys an girls,such as school.However,its not me that knows the truth,you could change anytime,everyone evoles at times.imo there is such thing as love,but at school u may barely find it,the love is always in the family,friends could betray u or could use u. They could pretend to be your friend but their actually not.
 
But, I dont even know if i love my family like everyone else does. My families great and all, but its just that love doesn't make sense to me, and it never will. The reasons I think it doesnt exist, is because in my eyes, what people "see" as love never lasts, and from what i've read about love, it is something that lasts forever and never goes away

and basically, i think love is just a term for a strong passion the way we use it now
 
Oblivion_XIII said:
But, I dont even know if i love my family like everyone else does. My families great and all, but its just that love doesn't make sense to me, and it never will. The reasons I think it doesnt exist, is because in my eyes, what people "see" as love never lasts, and from what i've read about love, it is something that lasts forever and never goes away

and basically, i think love is just a term for a strong passion the way we use it now
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maybe u grew up to never understand love,was your family always strict with you??? you have to hang on,wait until your 18 and you could start a new life alone,get a job somewhere far from your house and make new friends and start a family,maybe if u have enough money,u could move to another country.
 
Love is a feeling,multiple feelings in fact and it depends on what form of love you have for whomever or whatever. No ones love is the same as another persons since we all have different feelings towards different things/people.
Devotion,loyalty,faith ect are all consepts of love the bonds thet bind peopl/things so your feelings will naterally be different from lets say mine in regards to family but it is a form of love even if you wouldnt go to outlandish langths for that love
 
It all really depends on the person. You can lust someone and think your in love-- but that's a different story.

But, i think i haveta agree with West though.


There's different views on this subject but in order to say weather or not you believe in it you have to go through it.

You can love food-- things you do--family-friends so yes, even if you don't have a 'partner' you can still love.
 
I'm not trying to be offensive or mean. But from some of the stuff you say, oblivion, you're pretty weird. So it's not surprising you haven't dated or felt love. But then again, there really is no such thing as "love" in high school. Most of the time the relationships are based off looks. Which is why they last about as long as a fart in the wind.

But eventually you're going to run into one girl/guy that's going to turn your world upside down. Someone that you're going to want to be with all the time and would do anything for. You might not believe it, but it's true.

But there's a lot of lust out there for some people. Since you're a guy, I'll tell you what a wise man once told me. If you find yourself liking a girl, that night, jack off and think about her. Afterwards, ask yourself if you'd still want to date her. It's a good little trick and it works.
 
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Love is patient, love is kind and is not jealous;
love does not brag and is not arrogant, does not act unbecomingly;
it does not seek its own, is not provoked, does not take into account a wrong suffered,
does not rejoice in unrighteousness, but rejoices with the truth;
bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.
Love never fails...But now faith, hope, love, abide these three; but the greatest of these is love.

Sorry to bring a bible verse in, but I think it applies. Does anyone in your life do this for you? Do they forgive and forget, and always stay with you no matter what? That's love. My parents, for example, love me very much. I've screwed up so many times in my life, but every single time they've forgiven me and helped me get back on my feet. A lot of my friends would stand by me no matter what, too. That's love. Love isn't the passionate, fleeting lust you feel when you kiss a girl/guy. Love is a lot deeper, and harder to reach. You know it when you see it, though. Love comes from within. Also, the English language doesn't quite get love right. There are three words for love in greek, and one is "Agape" which is the kind of love I'm talking about. And the kind of the love that is endless and will never pass away, the kind of love that will always forgive and always accept. It's true love.
 
all love as well as any other emotions are nothing but chemicals and hormons in your body which react and tells ya thing. Since humans have to name everything we name these feelings to hate love sad happy and so on. With the love feeling between two lovers, at first it will be very strong and so on, however over time the feeling will cool down, to keep it hot both of you will have to do things, and work hard to keep ya chemicals,hornoms telling you that you love each other. If you fail you will break up since you wont feel it any more. Love is not hard to understand at all, just study bio and some chem on the human body.

However Love is needed for every one since we evo as a pack animal, like all pack animal we will die if we alone.


sorry for bad eng
 
but, I have no intentions of having a family, getting married or any of that, and plus ever girl i meet thats actually my age, are just jackasses to me. Love really doesnt exist in my mind, it just seems to be one of the feeling I just cant feel, I cant feel other things as well (fear, hate, ect.) but since i cant feel love, i guess that explains why i cant feel hate, and ive wanted to hate many people, and vise-versa, I've wanted to love people, but i just cant.
 
lionheartcs said:
Love is patient, love is kind and is not jealous;
love does not brag and is not arrogant, does not act unbecomingly;
it does not seek its own, is not provoked, does not take into account a wrong suffered,
does not rejoice in unrighteousness, but rejoices with the truth;
bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.
Love never fails...But now faith, hope, love, abide these three; but the greatest of these is love.

Sorry to bring a bible verse in, but I think it applies. Does anyone in your life do this for you? Do they forgive and forget, and always stay with you no matter what? That's love. My parents, for example, love me very much. I've screwed up so many times in my life, but every single time they've forgiven me and helped me get back on my feet. A lot of my friends would stand by me no matter what, too. That's love. Love isn't the passionate, fleeting lust you feel when you kiss a girl/guy. Love is a lot deeper, and harder to reach. You know it when you see it, though. Love comes from within. Also, the English language doesn't quite get love right. There are three words for love in greek, and one is "Agape" which is the kind of love I'm talking about. And the kind of the love that is endless and will never pass away, the kind of love that will always forgive and always accept. It's true love.
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HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA god that is funny.
Love is not a happy one way thing.
Their multy difernt types of love.
However all types of love will cause pain at one point are another,
all types have their ugly side.
The main and most important type is between two lovers,
since this type is what allows human kind to keep going on, and
as well this type is where you care about them more then anything else in the world, more then any blood relative, and if you don't it wont last.
Of course this type have the most ugliest and painful sides to it as well.


sorry for my bad eng
 
Oblivion_XIII said:
but, I have no intentions of having a family, getting married or any of that, and plus ever girl i meet thats actually my age, are just jackasses to me. Love really doesnt exist in my mind, it just seems to be one of the feeling I just cant feel, I cant feel other things as well (fear, hate, ect.) but since i cant feel love, i guess that explains why i cant feel hate, and ive wanted to hate many people, and vise-versa, I've wanted to love people, but i just cant.
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Your what 14? sry if thats not the correct age but I know your a youngun' so juat like chill and enjoy being young even if its miserable. Your intentions for your future arent set in stone and things may change in the years to come things wont always be this way you know?
Just like...lighten up and enjoy the scenery of youth as horrid as it may be.
 
Love isn't really something you feel, in the sense that it isn't a "feeling" that can pass away (Ex: happy, sad, lonely, etc). Love is more like...an action. Your actions will prove whether you love someone or not, not your feelings.
 
lionheartcs said:
Love isn't really something you feel, in the sense that it isn't a "feeling" that can pass away (Ex: happy, sad, lonely, etc). Love is more like...an action. Your actions will prove whether you love someone or not, not your feelings.
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But dosent ones feeling spur their actions? Im fairly certain If it was my mom vs a stranger being shot id save her based on my affection
ah I think I wandered in to a tottaly different topic with this lol sry
 
lionheartcs said:
No one would blame you for saving your mom, that is a completely different thing. I'm saying if you have "agape" love, you'd give a guy the shirt off your back if he asked you for it.
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Ah the romantic love the type anyone would do anything for....ah i'll leave it to you then that "love" is not my forte and I can hardly make a claim to it one way or the other
 
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