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Wasn't sure where to post this, so feel free to move if this isn't the right place...


OK, well what do you all think of internet dating? and by that I mean 2 people talking via internet, and deciding to 'go out', but never meeting or communicating apart from via internet?

Personally, I see this as a waste of time... It's kinda silly. It's fine to be friends via the internet, but what is the point in dating?
 
Yeah... the point of dating is to get to know one another, both the good and the bad sides, to see if you still like the person as a whole; but over the internet, you only see the good side (perhaps a completely fabricated good side, which doesn't exist).
 
Exactly! Plus there isn;t much difference than just being friends if your e-dating... Apart from maybe telling eachother you love eachother - which again is something that I feel is stupid for the reasons you just said as well as the fact that that phrase has been said too much, and so has lost its meaning and significance
 
*nods* Yeah... I never liked this idea either... And for several reasons... One would have to be it just wouldn't work... What you're trying to do is put all your trust and attention into a person you've never even met, and, for all you know, they've already got 10+ girlfriends or boyfriends (or both) online in addition to maybe like one or two people in real life. It's hard to trust that...

Plus that possibly a child molester thing...
 
I don't see the problem really. If you care enough for one another, then do whatever you damn well want. It's no different to all other forms of long-distance relationships really. Plus it isn't just the internet, cause you've also got phones and other means of communication. A relationship doesn't have to be based on physical presence at all.
That, and I'm currently in one. :monster:
 
OK, well out of curiosity, can you tell me how your (or any internet relationship) relationship is different to just being friends? :)
 
Okay well...I personally don't give care if two people are online dating. There have been successful relationships from two people meeting each other online. We just don't really accept it because it's a new forum of communication, and the internet is a new forum of socializing. Yeah sure there is the risk of meeting a crazy person who will stab you if you meet them. It's just you have to have better judgment, and truly know the person.

As for actual online dating such as: "Oh lady Mary let's us go to the Beaches of Ashenvale and have a date on our Night Elfs!" That's a little iffy to me....

As for online friends, well, that's a while other story.
 
Matt Bellamy said:
I don't see the problem really. If you care enough for one another, then do whatever you damn well want. It's no different to all other forms of long-distance relationships really. Plus it isn't just the internet, cause you've also got phones and other means of communication. A relationship doesn't have to be based on physical presence at all.
That, and I'm currently in one. :monster:
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Good for you, but I think of all long-distance relationships the same way. Successful ones aren't impossible, but they're the exception to the rule, which means you're lucky. I just think most people aren't willing to bare themselves enough online due to the lure of hiding behind anonymity.
 
I was hoping to be involved in one a while ago. With programmes like MSN and whatnot these days, it's much more easy to become close with someone over the internet. I actually did meet up with said person; I flew down to the bottom of England to meet her for the weekend. We'd spoken on the phone. I felt like this person was just my real life friends, whom I spoke to on MSN after school, only we missed out going to school together.

I'm not really against it as such.
 
I'd prefer to have a level of physical contact with the person I choose to have a relationship, however two people meeting over the internet doesn't automatically dictate they can't or won't see eachother at any given point away from the computer screen.

I wouldn't regard it as pointless either, nor say "might as well just be friends". Although situations vary amongst people, most gain a deep emotional connection with the other, be it mutual or otherwise - something which most folk tend not to indulge in around general 'friends'. The only thing which revokes an aspect of a relationship is the potentiality that it's long distance, but even so, a relationship isn't determined by physicalities.
 
I'm not against people who get to know eachother online and then decide to meet up THEN start dating, but I'm not sure about people deciding to date online without having met eachother, or spoken on the phone etc... If it works for other people, then its fine, but I just don't see the appeal.
 
Yeah... This is about relationships that are ONLY online, like having never met the person at all, just deciding to date because you like similar things.
 
Cerridwen said:
Okay well...I personally don't give care if two people are online dating. There have been successful relationships from two people meeting each other online. We just don't really accept it because it's a new forum of communication, and the internet is a new forum of socializing. Yeah sure there is the risk of meeting a crazy person who will stab you if you meet them. It's just you have to have better judgment, and truly know the person.
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I know a situation like that. I know someone who met a girl online, and they've gone on to have a baby. I suppose it helps that they lived in the same city and stuff, but the principal is the same.
 
If you connect with someone on an emotional level then that can't be bad can it? I'm way more open about my feelings online than I am off, but thats mostly because Im rubbish at talking about feelings and stuff. Its way more easier for me to type that im upset than say it......so I can see why people do it.....But I don't really know if I could ever embark on an online RS, i'm abit wary of it myself. I don't think i'd ever completely rule it out but if I knew I was never gunna meet the person then I wouldn't want to get involved, I need physical contact too much

I really don't know if that makes sense to anyone lol but i think it does xD
 
I'm more open about my feelings online as well, but still... Not everyone is like that. Some people can lie their way into you liking them. Which is one of the reasons I steer clear of actual relationships online. I'll be honest and speak my mind, but that doesn't mean I'm going to take everyone seriously when they get emotional on me.
 
bambi said:
If you connect with someone on an emotional level then that can't be bad can it? I'm way more open about my feelings online than I am off, but thats mostly because Im rubbish at talking about feelings and stuff. Its way more easier for me to type that im upset than say it......so I can see why people do it...
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I dunno... is it really that it's easier for you to type out your feelings or rather that it's easier for you to do when you're not looking at the other person face-to-face? I think anonymity is crucial to this debate, though it's quite difficult to gauge its possible ramifications.
 
I prefer to talk about serious things with someone face to face.... I think I find it easier too, oddly.
 
Oh, I suck at face to face....id have to know the person i was talking to online for a good while before I talked about personal stuff tho
But in RL i tend to just bottle things up, even my best friend struggles to get things out of me haha. I find it easier to just deal with stuff on my own - less hassle lol. However I do have the tendancy to explode in a humongous temper tantrum now and then xD
 
bambi said:
Oh, I suck at face to face....id have to know the person i was talking to online for a good while before I talked about personal stuff tho
But in RL i tend to just bottle things up, even my best friend struggles to get things out of me haha. I find it easier to just deal with stuff on my own - less hassle lol. However I do have the tendancy to explode in a humongous temper tantrum now and then xD
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To each his own I suppose. But I do think that internet relationships should eventually culminate in physical meetings. I'll buy long-distance relationships, but I'm apprehensive at the thought of a web-cam marriage.
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