Serious Stop hiding behind your monitors.

[Dolores Haze]

Why the fuck do people find stuff easier to say on the computer? People find it so much easier to insult people or have arguments over the computer, which imo is stupid because that's easy to record.

When I was in about year 5, I was away a lot. I'm away alot anyway, but.
Anyway, we were picking partners for our Science groups, a day when I was away. My close friend IMed me and told me, and I asked if I got put into her group, and she said "No, but it's not surprising no-one picked you." She and I then had an argument, and the next day I was still irritated. She asked why, and I said because she was an arse to me on MSN. She just said, "Oh, I didn't mean it, but it's true."

Mum said it was just because it's less confronting, you're just typing, you don't need to look at the person or even think about who you're talking to.

Now lately, I've been upset, and my friends ambushed me and screamed at me to tell them what was wrong before pushing me to the one friend who didn't invade my feelings, and I told her. No-one else. Now my friend (an ambusher) is guilt-tripping me for not telling her. Then she kept Walling crap on my Facebook, to the point where I wanted to never speak to her again. She kept saying she tries to help and people tell her to piss off, and no-one listens to her.

Well, she was the most popular of our group last year imo it's more about me and my two other friends (who i adore <3), and so she and her friend have begun their little "I'll make insulting puns and hit people because it's funny! " thing. And it's not my fault if I don't tell her things, she's not a close friend of mine.

Riight.
/bitchybigheadedrant.

Funny how I use 'friends' alot in my irritated rant

It just pisses me off

 

[King Sean]

i know exactly how you feel.people are chickens for cursing you out online...but we meet them face to face,it is so different.i knew this guy who needed a serious beatdown and he would curse me out online so i went to his school nd beat him down.never heard from him again

 

[Sir Kenneth]

The thing about the internet, is that you can say pretty much anything without worrying about physical repercussions. Things that would probably earn you a well deserved arse kicking in real life, or at the very least make you a social pariah, are for some reason completely acceptable in some circles online. I've never thought that the internet was any excuse to disregard good manners, so I tend to view forums and other social sites as I would someone else's house. If I was invited to someone's house in real life, I would never dream of intentionally insulting my host or the other guests, so I don't see why I should act any different online. I won't pretend to be a saint though, and some times I do end up being a bit of an arse. Just like in the outside world.

 

[bitteroldman]

Something in your brain doesn't get triggered when you're online; the part that tells you you're actually communicating, which means someone reads what you write. In your mind, it's like an interactive diary. Or a videogame. The hind parts of your silly human brain doesn't connect words on a screen to human beings.

 

[Big Casino]

Its easy to insult people online. Someone can have a go at you without worrying about u grabbing them by the neck. They have the comfort of knowing they can insult you without any physical consequences. And i guess its easier to talk to someone as ur really just respondin to words on a screen. You cant see the emotion in someones face over a chat box, just letters.

 

[Zen]

Just don't talk to people about serious shit on the internet. Make it your policy. Tell your friends if they want to talk about whatever, they can do it next time you see them.

 

[Sohryuden666]

People find it easier to trash talk on the internet because they're sure they won't get hurt physically. It's possible that normally silent people have big mouths on the internet 'cause they can say what they want without consequence. They're afraid to speak out face to face due to fear. I don't see the point, really. Insulting people will get you nowhere. Debating about a certain subject is all right as long as people make valid arguments, but when someone calls you out (or vice-versa) just because they feel butthurt about your opinion is just plain childish.

 

[Caedus]

No that doesn't apply to me at all.

Edit: Caedus, please put more effort into your posts. Cuz this couldn't possibly emphasize everything everyone's said in volumes packed in a tiny sentence. You're not witty enough for that.

 

[Six]

Eh... I've known alot of people who were like that.

It's just a matter of internet people who you can trust. I know this is only wether you wanna believe it or not, but alot of people act like alot more, than they actually are.

I've always liked being honest about things, both in real life and on the computer. I don't feel the need to act tougher, or bigger over a computer, and be a total bitch to other people. I hate people who do that, and simply refuse shit like that.

I've had alot of friends who were like that to. They acted nice in your face, and then on the computer, on MSN they started bitching you out over something that didn't fall into the right place with them that day. Well geez, could've told me right there, couldn't you?

Eh... I don't talk to a whole lot of people from back then anymore. I do my own shit, I can't stand people who try acting like more then they are. Be yourself, that's confusing enough.




...Meh.

 

[Stannis]

Haha i love your rants about things

people's personaltys can when there on a computer because they can get away wth it
it's suprising how many people fake personalitys on the internet some people just act over confident though. Sometimes i find myself not thinking what i type when am online then when i say something to someone on MSN am like SHIT did i just say that.

 

[.Tifa]

Guess the internet gives them more confidence to be a different person and usually speak their mind. The net gives people more of a chance to say things that they are thinking of. Where in real life, fate would kick in and something will happen to stop something being said or change a event completely.

But if somebody is too much of a wuss to say something right to your face.
Then they are a total wussy chicken and don't take them seriously.

A true backstabber/ enemy would give you a proper challenge and not using Facebook to cover up their mighty low shame. >_>

But more importantly - guess this Facebook thing isn't that bad. Because you can see a person's true colours. A true friend would love you in real life and on Facebook. With Facebook you can find out who is true or who is jacking it.

But if somebody does jack you on Facebook, just ignore them. Because as said they are just a coward, and don't let their wussy-ness ruin your life.

Hope this is the right advice, <* Did have a little bit of coffee * > ^^''

 

[Gingerbread Lesbian]

I'm on FFF and stuff exactly what I'm like in real life

All it is, is that people use the internet to say stuff the wouldn't have the bottle to do in real life, because as mentioned, there's no consequence of doing (apart from the possible banning), the problem with the internet is that it can be just as bad if not worse than real life when people say stuff, yes you can block them and stuff but they'll always have a way of getting to you, and say someone is settled here at FFF and feel uncomfortable with someone, it's not as easy to join a different forum as it sounds etc.
Whereas, in real life if someone is annoying you or verbally abusing you, you could go over and kick their arse or tell the police or someone who'll intervene.

Simply put, abusing someone over the internet has less restrictions and easier to do than in real life, which is why people who are like that, choose the internet over real life.

 

[Lockhart]

i think its normal that people are not the same in real life as they are on the internet. i think its true that because you dont have to look at people when you talk to them and because theyre so far away and you can think more about what youre saying its easier to be "different". sometimes i think its just because people arent as scared to say what they want or be who they are as in real life. sometimes i say things or are in a way that i wouldnt say or be in real life, but i still think im being myself.

i dont like people who are really wierd online. i havent seen many people that are like you talk about but something that happens to me sometimes is that a guy online begins to ask me things and say things that no one says in real life. i think most girls who are on the internet alot know what im talking about

but i think im myself here too. i try to talk with people online like i do in real life and i try to not hide behind the internet. but sometimes its nice that you can hide because some people are just so wierd and they wouldnt be like that in real life and if they would then i would just walk away from them.

 

[Royal]

People such as myself.

My excuse is I am just an asshole online, 'behind my monitor' simply because it's so easy to get a reaction out of people. It's like fishing wish fucking dynamite.

It's awesome!

 

[blakstang98]

Yeah, I totally agree with you Brit, if your friends want to talk about you, they should do it to your face. I'll admit that I too am more talkative behind my monitor, but I'll flame more in real life than on the internet because people feel a lot mightier behind their monitors. I have a lot of patience, so random internet banter doesn't get me down.

Impersonal is a lot easier than personal. People naturally find it easier to talk shit about someone behind their monitor. Why is this? If I go up to some badass guy in real life and tell him where he can go, he'll beat me to hell. If I do it impersonally (on the internet or by phone), the threat of getting hurt is a lot less severe. I'm giving a physical example, but the same happens emotionally.

Ok, story time! A long time ago when I was in high school, I was dating this girl. It was a relationship that only lasted about 6 months. We had made some plans on my birthday and such, then at some time (after we were having issues and my feelings for her had went away), I told her I just wanted to be alone on my birthday because I didn't want to deal with the drama. Of course, she treats it like a random angry rant by me and just goes about it figuring I would cave in to her. After never caving, she called me on my birthday and I stuck with my plan to be alone. The conversation led to a break-up over the phone. I felt that it was too impersonal and wanted to close the relationship personally, so I tried to get together with her (I told her it was a compromise, but it was going to be an ultimatum). When the day came to meet up with her, I called her and she picked-up and hung up immediately. For many years, I couldn't deal with this because I felt like it didn't have proper closure (I moved on but it felt like it was done wrong). Why is this? Because I couldn't tell her in person that I wanted nothing to do with her anymore.

The moral of the story is that she didn't want to close this personally when I did. Due to her being cowardly and not wanting to face me, it annoyed me for a long time. Personally is always the better way to go, totally agree with you Brit!

 

[Seed]

Some idiots think they can say anything just because they have anonymity.
They don't care if it bothers someone else or anything like that.