So I recently found out that I may have a son, from an old ex-girlfriend of mine that I literally ran into and fell on at a party a while back. From that day, she had a baby baking in her but I was unaware of it until a few weeks ago. The baby is already over three months old and she's inquiring whether it's mine or her current boyfriends.
Here's the thing: She isn't exactly a saint. In fact, my past relationship with her was probably the worst one I've ever been in, and nothing about her has really changed. She still always has some hidden agenda and is always making some bad, bad decision. her boyfriend hits her and treats the baby like crap. Thinking that the baby is his and being overly obsessed with her, it adds insult to injury to see her worship him. If the test results show I am the father, their relationship is going to come crashing down and it will be up to me care for the child, as she doesn't do anything with her life except live off of others and will have nowhere to go.
She is hesitating on the paternity thing because she knows this will happen just as well as I do. Her being the way she is, I have tried to avoid her for years, but fate is bringing me a brand new bag of shit. She's done everything a bad GF can do. It's absurd actually. The wrap sheet goes all the back to high school.
I'm not concerned about having a baby so much as I am having one with her. Not trying to sound emo or anything, but it sucks.
Accordingly, I've been smoking a lot of weed lately, which helps to keep me sane. I would ask for input, but there's only one way to go about it really, which makes the situation that much more condemning.
Hopefully, if the child is mine and all this comes into play, she'll get herself straight and the burden won't be completely on me.
I don't, however, want a relationship with her. If she comes to the conclusion that we have to, I'm not sure I will be willing to do so, for anybody's sake. The reason being is because I know how she is and some things never leave a person. She'll mess it up, in other words.
Oh well, I've gone on long enough lol. Anyone who has taken the time to get this far, thanx for hearing me out.
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Here's the thing: She isn't exactly a saint. In fact, my past relationship with her was probably the worst one I've ever been in, and nothing about her has really changed. She still always has some hidden agenda and is always making some bad, bad decision. her boyfriend hits her and treats the baby like crap. Thinking that the baby is his and being overly obsessed with her, it adds insult to injury to see her worship him. If the test results show I am the father, their relationship is going to come crashing down and it will be up to me care for the child, as she doesn't do anything with her life except live off of others and will have nowhere to go.
She is hesitating on the paternity thing because she knows this will happen just as well as I do. Her being the way she is, I have tried to avoid her for years, but fate is bringing me a brand new bag of shit. She's done everything a bad GF can do. It's absurd actually. The wrap sheet goes all the back to high school.
I'm not concerned about having a baby so much as I am having one with her. Not trying to sound emo or anything, but it sucks.
Accordingly, I've been smoking a lot of weed lately, which helps to keep me sane. I would ask for input, but there's only one way to go about it really, which makes the situation that much more condemning.
Hopefully, if the child is mine and all this comes into play, she'll get herself straight and the burden won't be completely on me.
I don't, however, want a relationship with her. If she comes to the conclusion that we have to, I'm not sure I will be willing to do so, for anybody's sake. The reason being is because I know how she is and some things never leave a person. She'll mess it up, in other words.
Oh well, I've gone on long enough lol. Anyone who has taken the time to get this far, thanx for hearing me out.
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