Seeking Help From You Guys

WiL Des Gardius

WiL Des Gardius

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Seeking Help From You Guys {AN UPDATE}

I know I havent been here for that long and what not but I really do need help...

My Girlfriend thinks the only thing I care about is IBM - Its my work experience,ofcourseI am gonna talk about it
My Girlfriend is spending a hell of a lot of time with her Ex
My Ex is trying to get back with me after what she did
My Friend is trying to get me to cheat on my girlfriend
My Childhood friend is trying to get with me and she seems really content about it and says if she doesnt get with me before the end of the month she is gonna commit suicide.

Yeah I am pretty messed up at the moment.....
 
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Wow, aren't you a popular one?

right. okay, well heres what i'd suggest you do

1) talk about IBM all you want...just not with your Girlfriend, and maybe talk to her about her life and shizz.

2) Spend more time with your GF so she cant see her ex or tell her that it distubs you a bit that she sees him so much.

3) tell your ex that your not interested, and tell her to leave you alone if she cant just be your friend.

4) sounds like a great friend, tell him to stay out of it.

5) she sounds like an attention whore. ignore her. she sounds like the stalker type....
 
1. I dont talk about IBM much to her anyway
2.Thats kinda hard cause she lives like 30 Miles away from me
3. tried... failed
4. I didnt explain that well enough, My friend wants me to cheat on my girlfriend with her.
5. I hope so
6. She likes so set her msn display picture to a picture of her and her ex alot.
 
Wow, youre very popular as AG said.

Do try and see your girlfriend as much as possible. Personally Id ask her why she has to see her ex. Why do people believe they need to do that?

Keep telling your ex, its not going to happen and she is best mvoing on as you have.

This so called friend needs to be given the elbow. If she was really your friend, she wouldnt say or do such things, its ridic!

And this childhood friend, forget her. Seriously, if she isnt going to listen, then its her problem. Not trying to spound cruel, but shes using suicide as a childish way to get to you. Preying on your feelings. Hope some of our advice has helped in some way.
 
Thanks for the advice Sapphire and Aerith, at the moment you guys are the only people I have seeked for advice.
it means alot to me :)
 
Thats not a problem, thats what forums are alos for. Advice on anything and everything!

I still cant get over your friend, she is clearly no friend of yours and your girl should spend more time with you then her ex.
 
I know, some 'friend' she started off by, when she found out I was upset about the whole Kirsti thing, she phoned me up and made me come to the park to see her to make sure I was ok, trying to get close to me and try and kiss me and all that, which I shoved her off, and Kirsti... I dont know what is going through her head, I just hope I dont get hurt again like with my ex.
 
She was trying to take advantage of you from sounds of it. And go you for pushing her away, most guys probably wouldnt. And it shows you value your relationship with her and your girlfriend.
 
I just wish I knew why she seems so interested in her ex after saying to me a month ago she hated his guts, ect,ect
 
Ask her? Seriously, if something bothers you, you at least deserve an explanation. If she wants to get back with her ex, she should have the guts to tell you. If you guys have problems, talk it out. Communication is VERY important... I remember when I got back in touch with my ex, whom I hated. It felt weird...I was no longer interested, but my ex wanted to be friends and was being all nice...so I was thinking, maybe it would be nice to put an end to my bitterness. It never happened, though, cause my ex messed up big time. So it might be something like that in your girl's case...either way, you should ask.

As for your friend, good friends don't encourage you to cheat on your girlfriend. That's just...not a suggestion.

And your suicide-friend...well, it's already been said. It's a childish way to get you to be with her, playing on guilt and all that rot. I'm sorry, but I think it's best to tell her no. I doubt she'd REALLY kill herself, to be honest...and even if she does, it's not your fault. It was her decision. It's not your job to "save" her from her misery, especially not if she's kinda forcing you to.

For what it's worth, my 2 gil.
 
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thanks for all the help guys, really means alot to me :)
I'm at work again, I have another meeting in about half hour, yay for me.

Kirsti seems to be acting normal again but if she does act like this again I will talk to her about as you suggest Dying Wish.
 
Well yesterday was going reasonably well, then it just turned, Kirsti said that we have to talk, she said she isnt happy and doesnt think we should be together at this moment in time, she is unstable and has been smashing things up at home, and she has been with dave(her ex) alot the past week because he is the only one strong enough to control her, and she doesnt want to hurt me.
 
Hmm...she's not stable enough to be with you, but she is stable enough to be with her ex because he is "stronger"? Could be, but it sounds somewhat fishy to me... I'm sorry she's not doing well and wants to split up with you, though.
 
At the moment, I have no idea what is going on, I am just at work, doing my job, and posting on here, not thinking about what is happening too much, Its escapeism really but its the best thing for me right now, it keeps me happy, gah what a life aye?
 
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At the moment, I have no idea what is going on, I am just at work, doing my job, and posting on here, not thinking about what is happening too much, Its escapeism really but its the best thing for me right now, it keeps me happy, gah what a life aye?
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Aye, distraction is a big help for me too, mate. You simply need time to process all of this. If you ever need someone to talk to, feel free to give me a yell. No pressure, the choice is all yours.
 
Im sorry to hear this. Your girlfriend at the moment seems to have gotten close to her ex from what Ive read. This is not your fault, its her siutation and needs to deal with it. You are srtong enough to handle her, shes trying to make you feel inferior to her ex.

Personally, Id get out of this and just let her go. Its horrible to say as I had a close call yesturday with my boyfriend, but she is hurting you and needs to realise that.
 
Yea from what i gathered and am interperting she wants to be back with her Ex man. Shes just trying to butter it up and dance around the edges with how she is telling you. As for your friend thats encourging cheating stay away from them, no true friend even if they do have feelings for you would ever say such a thing. They would realize the feelings you have for someone else and if they cared for you as much as they are protesting they would back off. As for the sucide friend, just talk to her and try to get her to calm down, tell her sucide is not the answer and youll always be there for her as a friend. If she doesnt want to listen after that then fine, ignore her and well whatever she does with herself is her fault. Though if you truly believe shes gonna commit sucide refer her to a mental health clinic so they can help her.

Hope all that helps.
 
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