Overcoming Shyness

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How do you overcome shyness?

I personally find it hard to overcome because I am pretty shy myself. I find it hard to get out of my shell to talk to people that I would like to talk to but really can't because of this little quirk. Urk. >_<
Now, before you bash me for this, let me tell you that I do try, just not try enough, because either I don't feel I have too much support, or because I was just too lazy, which is just plain unacceptable.

Discuss the ways (many, I'm hoping :D) that one can do to help get oneself out of this. You can't really be shy forever, because that's when you fail.
 
When i was younger i was very shy i had difficulty openly speaking to some1 who wasnt a good mate.
But being shy was something that just faded with time, the older i got the more my confidence grew.
Like now i feel comfortable speaking to people whoever they are even complete randoms.
Chances are youl grow out of it
 
I was pretty shy when i was younger... I am a little shy now but I do feel comfortable speaking to just about anyone. Maybe I'm not shy, I'm just not cocky

^Just like lagunas said, you might grow out of it.
 
You know, I was shy too. For me, it took taking a job in a bingo hall when I was 18, it was terrifying, checking claims in frount of 800 people but after a couple of weeks you realise that its not 800 people, its 800 individuals. Not sure if that makes sense to you guys but it was a great boost to my self confidence.
 
I was really shy when I was younger, and then I deliberately overcompensated by being extremely familiar, almost to the point of being obnoxious. Not sure which one was better. Shyness is just something you overcome with experience. Just try to make friends and you'll do fine.

Most people are shy on some level. Best illustration is how you can have a ton of people in a long line at a store or be in an elevator and everyone avoids eye contact. This even happens when I go to bookstores and find people browsing the same shelves I am (Meaning we obviously have similar interests) Still no one talks to each other.
 
The best cure for shyness? Easy. Get a job. Particularly retail jobs where you have to deal with all sorts of customers. Shy or not, if you encounter jackass customers, your temper will surely come close to exploding.

Then your shyness shall disappear. :D Hey, it worked for me. I'm more confident now, I guess. I can talk to people easily and speak my mind out just like that. I'm not saying I'm totally like "out there"...but it's a great improvement.
 
Well, I guess people have inbuilt guards. For example, if I was browsing the same shelf as Vagabond I wouldnt dream of saying hi, no disrespect to him, but you know, he might think im after him.

And visa versa, there really is no answer. But when I was at UNI, I lived in an Asian community and everybody shook each others hands and chatted in the street. Thats somthing we in the west just don't do. And I think thats a shame.
 
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For example, if I was browsing the same shelf as Vagabond I wouldnt dream of saying hi, no disrespect to him, but you know, he might think im after him.
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Oh noes!

All the same I'm trying to make more of an effort to talk to people wherever I go. They can think what they want.
 
Gahhh! I'm still extremely shy in public. I too scared to ask anyone anything or look at people. I can go up to a counter and ask someone where is whatever, or if they have still ___ item, but I still feel awkward. It's just I'm afraid of rude people and myself for snapping out.

Getting a retail Job helped a bit with my shyness but it also made me dislike people a lot more.
 
lets seeI first just joined in whatever group wouldn't mind some kind of game club or something and eventually started talking more and more. it is very slow, but it does help to build confidence.
 
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Yeah, I suppose getting a job or something is the easiest way to get out of shyness, I mean, that is if you get a job that actually requires social skills....practically everything, I know. >.>

But if it was up to me entirely, I'll just go into the science field, part of the description has something about working by yourself, though of course you do have to interact to other people, but not as much as an architect and much less an businessman.

Another thing, how about spreading out into different areas and join as many clubs as you can? Would that work?
 
You might not have to work with people too much in the science field (I wouldn't know) But I assume you're still going to have to go to college in order to be qualified.

College is a good opportunity to get to know people.
 
I am a pretty shy person. But once I get to know somebody, I open up and you can't shut me up. Whenever I'm around women and I think they are pretty cute, I just sorta get a little tense and I become a bumbling idiot. I guess it's because all I can think about is how beautiful she is and I can't find the right words to express my feelings. But when I meet a woman and I'm not attracted to her, I can pretty much say anything. I can't speak in front of a group of people, either. Well groups of 5 or less, if I know most of the people.

There are only three ways that I know of to get rid of shyness. The first way involves a pipe and a sack o' weed. The next one involves a tiny pill called X. The last one calls for a bottle of JIm Beam. All these methods are guaranteed to help you overcome shyness.
 
I'm alot like you, dimmufan, but not with the.... ways of escaping shyness. :P

I've always been really shy, ever since I was little. Alotta people comment to my mom or step-dad on how quiet I am. I was always afraid of offending people, or making them upset. The anxiety was just sooo much, because both sides could get hurt, easily, and so many things could go wrong. And around my crushes, especially, I become uber klutzy and fumble-mouthed. I do really stupid things. :P

I'm not really out of it yet, but I think it does help if you join something like a club, and get out there with people who have the same interests as you. Maybe then, you can start to expand to other things, and open up. I haven't had a job just yet, but I'm due to start at least looking for one soon. Probably get one before the end of the year. We can see if that works War. : )
 
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