It happened for a reason, it happened for that person

[Korytco]

This is not meant to be a deep thread, just a discussion .

Everything does happen to make something else happen. How often do you intentionality, help others though ?

How often do you realize you can help someone because you went through the same problems as them? At the time it can seem like you are going through a pointless hell, then later on in life all of it comes together like an art.

Everything may happen for a reason but some of the time I think it happens for far more of others than yourself.

Call it fate, God's way of making us help one another, or whatever.

Its not a deep concept , but how often do you help others because of your personal back ground ? How often are you surprised that someone is going through something that you just went through ?

How big of a helper tool are you ? I am not asking if you are a doctor , or nurse . I mean how often do you go through deep pains in life , in order to later in life get a sense of worth by helping others?

I have it fairly well in life, I have good health for the most part, I have some problems, nothing huge. I occasionally have helped people in the past.

 

[Moogles]

I lend a hand to others when I feel it's necessary or would be appreciated. Not always based off a problem or pain of mine, but occasionally. For instance, I came across a dude a few months ago who was trying to push his car to a nearby gas station by himself. I pulled over and helped him out. I ran into that problem myself a year or so ago, and wouldn't have minded if someone helped out, so I could relate with the dude's situation. Still, it probably would've been easier for him to walk to the gas station and bring the fuel back. Maybe he needed a gas can. Oh, well.

I mean how often do you go through deep pains in life , in order to later in life get a sense of worth by helping others?

Seldom...or maybe never. Not a fan of deep pain, so I wouldn't purposely put myself through it. I don't usually help other people just to feel good about myself anyway.

 

[Dean Winchester]

I only aid those who allow themselves to be helped. Seriously we are indeed our greatest enemies, and if we don't find a way to help ourselves first then we surely won't be able to help anyone out. Sometimes, I tend to involve myself to see things happen the way I want them to happen by influencing a bit, call it "pulling some strings". It's just a die hard bad habit, wanting situations to happen when I want if I want....but I've learned how to avoid it.

 

[Soul Saver]

I can't say that I'm out to dedicate my actions to others... not yet. Either I haven't had a chance, or I don't take those chances and make massive sacrifices to help others, unless it is out of self-interest. I would help someone if I was in the right place at the right time, or had enough resources to make it happen. My long-term goals in fact involve doing what I can to make the world a better place, in a way, whilst furthering my own selfish interests in the process. In a philanthropic sense.

 

[Gingerbread Lesbian]

I didn't really go looking for people to help who have had similar or are in the same situation that I had once been in. If I do help people from personal experience it's normally unintentional, that's not to say I wouldn't help them...I just don't go looking for it. That's mainly because people nowadays are less likely to LET you help them because they don't think you know how they feel or they don't want you getting involved in their situation (99/100 it's because they don't want you to be hurt because of it).

But yeah, is someone came to me if their parents had an argument or getting a divorce or something I'd help them.

 

[Bones]

I kinda think I'm an agony Aunt with the people that come to me with problems, I try my best to help anyone who comes to me for advice and stuff, I don't help people unless they actually ask for it. Or if they let me give them advice, I'm going through a weird situation where me and my friend are both having men troubles of the same sort at the same time, we try to give each other advice but we're both going through our tough times in different ways.

 

[Mitsuki]

Everything does happen to make something else happen. How often do you intentionality, help others though ?

How often do you realize you can help someone because you went through the same problems as them? At the time it can seem like you are going through a pointless hell, then later on in life all of it comes together like an art.

Whenever a situation arises and I happen to be there, then I'd help others, yes. I can't really say if it's often or not - that's kinda hard to determine since the situation doesn't always present itself in front of me. But when it does, I try my best to lend a helping hand.

I think I know what you're trying to say here though. Basically, it's that whole "you learn from your experiences, good or bad" and as you realize that someone is in dire need of help and was in the same situation that you were in the past, you then try to incorporate what you have learned and experienced and take advantage of that in order to help others. That would mean that you shouldn't really regret the negative things that you experience in life, (although that's really hard to do) but rather take it as some sort of gained lesson to give advices to those who needs help.

How often are you surprised that someone is going through something that you just went through ?

I'm not really surprised to see other people going through something that I went through. Things that happen to you and me can happen to everyone, really, no matter how "uncommon" you think some situations are.