Is choosing to have sex for therapy reasons as bad as giving into urges?

[Korytco]

Is choosing to have sex for therapy reasons as bad as giving into urges?
This is a post for singles not married couples.

Some people could benefit from getting laid, confidence and many other gems can be rewarded to its participants .

Some people could more easily work through certain mental probs if they had intercourse . Like "therapy sex"

If you choose to have sex , use someone for sex just to gain confidence, and mental stability , is that as bad as just giving into your physical urges and having sex because your body wants to have sex?

Is it as bad as doing it nasty or is it more sincere if done for therapy ?

Some religious fanatics despise sex before marriage.

Some people despise meaningless sex? Which is often considered sex where you are in and out . What if you are in and out for therapy , is that more sincere than not ?

 

[Saki Kasukabe]

A one night stand is a one night stand. People have different reasons for it. Because they feel horny or they just want the sex so they can feel better in result, cleanse their mind, etc.

I don't think sex before marriage is wrong. In fact, I think it's so not wrong, I think it's daft to refer it as "sex BEFORE marriage".

Anyway, if someone who has mental problems can feel better having sex, that's just as much as a reason as feeling horny. I wouldn't consider "giving up to urges" a bad thing unless it involved rape.

Yeah I didn't think this post through, but eh it's 4am, fuck you fuckers.

 

[Daenerys]

I don't think giving into urges is wrong at all, since it's about doing what your body wants you to do, and it's good for you, as Bambi pointed out in this thread here.

I don't think having sex for "therapy" reasons is bad either, to gain confidence in the bedroom by having more sex can only be a good thing, since it should lead to you have better sex in the future. I don't think it's wrong to just go out and have sex if you're feeling miserable and need a pick-me-up, it's cheaper and safer (if all the precautions are taken) than drugs and alcohol

Although, I fail to see how sex can help Mental Stability, I think if you're feeling mentally unstable you should see a doctor or something.

Meaningless sex is fine by me, as long as both people understand the fact it's meaningless, and are cool with it - otherwise you'll end up hurting someone.

 

[Korytco]

Well confidence is the main thing here, confidence can def help with the stability of your life, because with confidence more gets done and less is left incomplete and a bother.

 

[Donald Trump]

Do you really think that getting laid will give you confidence?

It won't especially if it is your first time. Considering that the vast majorities of 'first times' are shit and that you won't have much idea what you are doing, it will lower confidence.
Having a girlfriend will give you confidence, as afterwards they will tell you all those nice things you want to hear. " You were so good/ big", "you lasted so long", "you're the best I ever had" etc.

And no sex is not sincere if you are doing it for therapy. It's a mutual thing, not spread your legs cause I need confidence. It's even less sincere than an one night stand, because then both people know it's casual meaningless sex.

I highly doubt that having sex would make you or anyone else more confident.

 

[Doaj]

I think having sex for confidence is worse than for therapeutic or health reasons, whereas giving in to urges means that it'll be emotional and acceptable.

 

[Fusilli]

Maybe I'm just reading this wrong, but is giving into urges really that bad? Isn't that why most people have sex anyway... If they didn't have these urges then they wouldn't want to have sex, would they? Unless they're trying to conceive ofcourse, which is different altogether.

Anyway, if what you're basically asking is whether or not it's bad to use someone for sex for your own reasons then it depends. Yes, it would be wrong to lead somebody on if all you had in mind was meaningless sex, but if they were okay with that then it should be fine. Whether or not it will actually help with any 'mental issues' is completely irrelevant. If you ask me there are much better ways to boost your confidence, like joining a drama group or something, but that's not what you asked, so...

 

[Bones]

I don't see how sex can help with mental problems, and as for confidence, there are people who have sex in the dark because their self-esteem is so low, so it would be rare for sex to boost confidence, sometimes having sex in the wrong situation can make you feel worse about yourself than you did before as it can make you feel cheap and used etc.

As in sex before marriage, I believe it's fine, I mean you don't see cats or dogs get married do you? (Well you might do because the crazy shit in the world these days) As long as people are careful with their feelings and their sexual health then sex at any given situation isn't really a problem.

 

[Bambi]

I never know how to reply to your threads because they always confuse me

Im not sure how sex for therapy reasons would help anything, if anything that might mess your head up more.....unless you actually WANT sex and you have the urge, I mean yeah, it does have positive benefits, releases all those feel good hormone efforts but if your hearts not in it and your just thinking yeah, this might make me feel better you might just end up feeling worse....

Sex is good if its what you want and you are either in a relationship or just like to have iyt for fun, but dont think itl make problemsgoo away

 

[Krysta]

I don't know how having sex with a random person could benifit me really.
If it was sex with a boyfriend.. then yes, that would actually do something.

In my case anyway.