I thought I was in love...

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Thanks for the advice, but right now, not talking to him is working, at least to a certain extent. It's pretty hard to avoid someone you talk to on a nearly daily basis, but if that's what it takes to save my friendship with him, then I'll do just that. As long as the option isn't "break up with Andy", then I'm willing to try anything.
 
Ugh, I REALLY hate to admit this, but this needs to be brought back up. Sorry for the double post, by the way. :gonk:

As of the last post, I have had these weird dreams still, now with 4 different guys. This has happened off and on for the past couple of months, too. These guys are: Some guy in one of my classes (don't even know his name), my friend Nick from high school (not the Nick on here), My friend Chris from college, and...

Andy's best friend Derek. That was the worst one. I actually brought it up with Andy at that point. His trust in me was dented a bit and he doesn't really like for me to talk to Derek anymore. Here's the thing: I am NOT at all consciously attracted to any of these guys at all. I just don't know what in the hell is going on. :gasp:
 
i'll ask a blunt question (and i don't mean offense by it) - are these dreams sexual? romantic? it could be that you're lacking in something.
 
Well, I've said this before and I'll say it again, I think your feelings for Andy might be fading. I understand you don't want to hear that, and I don't blame you, but it seems that you're looking past your relationship with Andy to something (or someone) else. It is also quite possible that you're just experiencing a crush with these other guys, and your feeling for them now will fade away in time. But I still think that the frequency in which you think about them might be a little unnatural.

I'm also well aware that it's not easy to just end a relationship with someone that you've been with for a long time (relatively long time). It is very easy to be mislead by what you think is love, and it's generally not very obvious to someone. I'm not saying that you're misreading it, but it is a possibility, considering you're thinking about others and have been for a while. I really don't know the extent of how your relationship is with Andy, like if you spend a lot of time together and such. If you don't, then simply spending more time together will remove some of those thoughts about others. If you do spend a lot of time with him, then maybe you are misreading it.

I'm sorry if what I've said was bad or highly inaccurate. I'm just trying to help in some way and trying to be informative. But I think you'll have to take to time to reflect on your relationship with Andy and ask yourself the question "does he make me happy?" If you can easily say he does, then the thoughts of others will pass in time. Hopefully that helps. :ryan:
 
Well, we spend roughly 3 hours a night together about 4 days a week, so...12 hours every week I get to spend with him. Part of that revolves around working on here and playing on PS3, so the time there is cut in half, practically. We talk on the phone on days I work (since I don't get off till nearly midnight), but other than that, we really don't spend that much time together.

What is really bugging me about these dreams is that I'm not consciously aware of any sort of feelings toward any of these guys. They only come out in my dreams. And, like I've said before, I want to try to fix this so I don't end up breaking his heart, because he just told me last night that he's deeply in love with me and doesn't want anyone else. And I'm pretty sure that's the first time he's said that to me. (Memory's lacking a bit right now. :wacky: )
 
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