Serious I can't get a break

Well, Im putting up with it. Shes my boss and best friend. I know she can be a complete and utter dweeb, but I love her so much. So Im just gonna smile and nod lol.

But Ive finally severed contact with my ex. Ive been ignoring him last few days as Ive been annoyed with him. He didnt make any effort as a friend and it upset me. But weve deleted each other from Facebook and XBox LIVE. He said he still cares for me and couldnt help but wanted to sleep with me. But know its over and thats it. No more friendship or whatever it was. We broke up 7 months ago for Gawd sake, but I was actually crying when he said goodbye to me.

Theres a guy whom likes me, but I guess I wanted the attention. He is such a sweet lovely guy who should be perfect for me. But I still love my ex so much. Why the hell cant anything be sodding simple???
 
I actually had that problem.

It's been almost two years since the love of my life has left, and sometimes I STILL think about "what could have been"? But it's in the past and there's nothing anyone can do about it. I've been thinking about her less and less, but she still has that special place in my heart.

My point is that, although it will take a very long time, try to think about your ex less and less and go out with this new guy. If it develops into a relationship, postpone all serious steps (sex, marriage, etc.) until you have truly got over your ex. I also think that you should claim this guy before another girl does. Act quickly, but not too quickly.

If it's meant to be, it's meant to be. If not, not. Simple as that. :) I hope this helps.
 
Time definitely heals all wounds. Time away (for good this time) from your ex will help you get over him.

Not seeing him or talking to him every day/week etc will allow you to move on and you won't miss him as much anymore.

Sure there will be the random thought of him, like I still have of one of my exes that I broke up with over three years ago now and I think of what could of been, but it doesn't really hurt anymore.

My heart has had time to heal in the time I've not seen him or spoken to him.

This new guy seems like he could be a great distraction, but obviously not just for that. It'd be awesome if he turned out to be the perfect guy for you.

When I met Steve I was still depressed from past relationships, but now I'm too caught up in our relationship to give any of my exes a second thought, unless like I said before I may have the random thought of them from time to time.

You'll be all right hun!

Things always get better even if you don't think they will. At this point it's only natural for you to think that sort of thing, but in time you'll be right. =)
 
Thanks guys. Its werid cause I was with him for 364 days, yeap. We split up a day before our year aniversary. And Ive been in a 3 year relationship and it didnt hurt as much as this one.

This new guy seems too squeaky-clean for me, if that makes sense. He has a good job, his own house and car, nice. And yet hes not my ex. Im not madly attracted to him the way Im usually attracted to my exs. And he smokes, dont like dating smokers :/ My ex stopped smoking cause he wanted to be with me. I dont think we would make a good couple. We do have stuff in common and he seems to like me, but I dont feel the same.
 
You may be right.

Though quitting something in order to be with someone sounds kinda romantic -- note I said "kinda" -- I've read that a relationship can succeed if there are no sacrifices involved. If he has to quit smoking in order to be with you, he's obviously not right for you.

My 12 grade English teacher said once that the perfect guy -- let's be honest -- is someone you're comfortable farting in front of. That's one way of putting it. It's best if you let people be themselves.

I'm a picky guy myself (which could explain why I'm still single). The perfect girl for me would have to be at least nice, loving, and at least willing to raise the kids Catholic. I know it may sound weird to some people, but I know in my heart I'd be miserable if my life partner wasn't doing any of the things I just mentioned.

So I understand why you're not all over this guy anymore. But remember when you finally meet "the one", don't stop being yourself. Don't ever change for anyone. At the same time, don't let the guy stop being himself either. If either of you have to stop being yourselves, how did you like each other in the first place?
 
Thanks Tedo. My boss did say I was trying to change my ex when he stopped smoking for me. He was a heavy smoker and I did see it driving him mad when he'd inhale peoples smoke :/

So Im not going to change anyone and Im not changing myself. But the more I think about this new guy, the more happier Im getting. Its werid. We've been texting alot today and hes made me something for when I next see him lol. I do like him, but not as much as my exs. But I think a squeaky clean guy what I need.
 
Well, we're together XD We got together yesturday, so very happy. Weve been talking for weeks, met twice and just clicked. Got loads in common and his friends love me. And he met my gran yesturday who says hes a lovely dear :) And he gave me Lost series 2 and Cold Case series 1! Im so happy lol, fingers crossed this works :)

And now my ex has decided to get in contact with me, asking how I am and if I wanna go for a meal with him. He doesnt know Im seeing someone, its a pain.
 
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Oh that's awesome!

Glad it all worked out for you with this guy so far. <3

Glad you're feeling happy again. =)

I'd suggest that you try not to pay too much attention to your ex or go out with him though. It might ruin things with this new guy who may be the one to actually make you happy for the long run. =)
 
Congrats, at least you're happy.

It will suck, but somehow you got to tell your ex about this guy without making it look like you're rubbing it in. Better to hear it from you than someone else, right?

Go with him, but make it the last time you do so, at least the two of you alone.
 
Oh, great news indeed SS! Congrats on finding someone! The big benefit in this is the fact that you can move on from your ex. What you feel for him or what you think you feel for him was your big setback I think. But now you can finally move away from that and start over again. Hopefully happiness will be the result here. :ryan:
 
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