Gender or human being?

Nature vs nurture is the real argument here,no doubt the the way we are taught and the envirment we are reard(?) in effects us in some way but the drives and motivations that we are predisposed to can never be fully ignored.

The sum of a human is divided into the desires, reasoning and logic of the subconscious mind vs the values, Respect and Societal norms that we are governed by, all coming together to create many and divided individuals.

A good example is the pronunciation of certain words :eg Tomatoes "you say To-may toes, l say Tom-ar-toes" these can be the lines that separate the individual mind.
Mental Awareness is also a great divide that can cause people to act without realising there actions eg: cults

The only real problems that can arise when the balance of Self vs Desire causes individual people to act outside of society norms in terms of thing like rape or murder,
but you don't have to be Insane to murder another person, this is where the subconscious mind takes over.

The Human being is so advanced and we mentally only control a small amount of it.....for instance did you guys know that when humans Walk erect millions of years ago Infant died because of the strain placed on the neck by the legs....so evolution created a way to get around this by making the babies head soft so it could squeeze through the vaginal cavity

Human have only been aware of themselves and there environment for about 100,000 years 1 10th of the species lifetime and only in the last 10,000 years have we developed society and moved away from animalistic nature and instinct.

We've got along way to go?.....well you guys do l'm civilized already;)
 
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Also, I would like to add something...

A question I was asked today:

"Why is it that women have the power to turn any small thing you do or dont notice into a problem? and why is it they can also take something thats bothering you and make it about them?"

Here is my reply:
I have been thinking about this for quite sometime. I'm a woman and I have never been this way. Small things like forgetting a birthday, for example, seems to be a real issue with a lot of women. My guess is that they are convinced of false thoughts and ideas. Forgetting their birthday, to them, is like forgetting them as a person. I'm not sure why it seems to be women a lot more than it is men, but the whole "nothing says I love you like a bunch of materials" garbage applies. There are so many other things to life than birthdays and Valentine's day gifts. It's understandable how one would forget such minor events so easily.
What many females fail to see are the small details that are actually really quite large; if the man was to remember to buy her a gift for her birthday, then is it sincere? A good portion of it may be, yes, otherwise I imagine that he wouldn't go through the trouble of getting anything at all. However, the fear of receiving heck from the woman most likely takes a major role in his 'generous' act.

Basically, whatever I conclude usually leads to the woman having materialistic thoughts dominate any common sense. A simple "happy birthday. I love you" would be sufficient to any strong minded woman. Because to them, it truly is the thought that counts.

Again, I'm not sure why it's mostly in women, but it is. It may have something to do with what we watch on television? It seems normal and expected for a woman to become angered over such minor things, so it feels right in real life... perhaps.



- - Is any of this correct? All of this is from my own personal observations. I would like to be corrected if this is all false and if it is true, I would still wish to become further educated.
 
Well feline recreational drug you a guy right..... woops l guess not sorry.

Anyway how can you not have insight into how this can being a woman? are you so singular from other aspects of female thought patterns? please dont take this as a dig but this is usually the kind of question a guy asks.

Or are you after a male perspective on this? ......"like a bunch of materials"......thats great lmao
 
I'm asking anyone. I don't think being male or female has much to do with a person's opinion.

I gave you my guesses and thoughts on most of this. I fail to understand what you aren't getting.
 
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Is any of this correct? All of this is from my own personal observations. I would like to be corrected if this is all false and if it is true, I would still wish to become further educated.
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lm sorry werent you asking a question or just stating your POV?

Sorry if l upset you..
 
You definitely didn't upset me at all. I was simply asking whoever was reading my post to pretty much double check my guesses for me. I don't want to be swimming in ignorance, if there is any there, so I want someone to correct me. Either that, or continue what I was saying so we can deepen the conversation.
 
Alright thats better....what did you say again?

Not wanting to incur the wrath of my FFF female brethren, but it has been proven that women think via emotional cotext and men think via a logical component....these are not so black and white but they form the basis of the different experience for men and women.

some women few themselves through emotional worth "am l worth loving"
"why does he not care for me?" kind of stuff where as for a man the subtle reasoning of a woman is not easy to read.

Men can do a thing , anything, and consider/ think he has done a good job but then comes along his wife or GF(girlfriend not FFVIII summonlol) even there mother or daughter and they will find something wrong out side of the male experience and the guy will be stood there "the hell did l do?"

the ways and diversions are really that far apart.
 
Pretty sure society is to thank for that.

From what I've personally gathered, men and women act and think in ways that suit their gender because it seems right or makes sense. Men are generally raised to become the dominant ones in society, so they're almost forced (all of this is subconscious) to hide any vulnerable emotions to avoid appearing weak or "gay" (most likely used as a synonym for weak). I'm sure it was mentioned earlier how a father would tell his son to toughen up after he scraped his knee or has been hurt at all, while the daughter would be pampered.

What would happen if fathers gave their sons a band-aid along with a few comforting words(pamper him) and after everything was okay, the dad would let his son know that there is much worse that could happen (a possible way to 'toughen' that child up). What if he did the same with his daughter? What if they were treated like two human beings, and not just a boy and a girl? I'm not talking about just one family, either. What if everyone did the same? Would women still be the overly emotional creatures while men can remain the logical beings?

Because my brother and I were raised in the same ways, I would really like to beg to differ. I think a heck of a lot more logically than any other boy my age I know -they actually tend to act on their emotions, and it's a very rare thing for me to do that. And even after all that, the media and getting treated differently by others growing up because I was female has still played a role, yet I'm still not like your "typical woman".

This is where I am stuck. Everyone is always throwing these comments at me; telling me women think this way and men think that way because some unknown scientist quoted from your buddy says so, yet here I am, not letting that be the truth for myself because that is not who I am.
 
Good for you maam if you no need to conform to societal stereo types then dont l sure as hell dont....l have enough swords at my house l should be arrested but lm an advocate of responsible ownership of bladed weapons yet people still runa away.

Its like my argument in the "is yuna spineless "thread right if you take her out of spira with its Dogmatic law and religion how would she act....probably the same just her actions would be based on her conviction rather than societies....if you follow me.

Theres no way to tell if your "band aid premise" would work people are geard for certain things men want there sons to be strong and there daughters protected and safe
it may be cliche but its a societal norm.

I sense your struggling with finding your own place in life Im guessing ur still a teen ager maybe late teens or early 20's? it gets easier as you get older it did for me and does for most if your feeling different from other people dont lose itits a rare gift to value your unique way of looking at things:)

if none of this applies just ignore , its late here and lm kinda tired and this jibberish could just be my being tired lol
 
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