Serious EVIL EX'S!

[Kandy-Sugar]

Okay so I've been broken up with this guy for like 3 years already and he is still harassing me. <_< He broke up with me and still he wants to keep in contact with me for some sick reason.

He is a complete psycho who is obviously still kicking himself for getting rid of the best thing he ever had. <_< I can certainly say that I was the best thing, looking at the shit-hole he is now living in and considering the people he hangs around.

So I was just mentioning in the 'I hate you' thread in Costa Del Sol, that he was one of the people I still hate and that I hadn't had contact with him since we broke up pretty much in 2006.

Anyway just seven hours after making that post he messages me on the internet saying that I'm a hoebag and that I should come to his 21st party today so that we can get it on and such. <_<

I replied with smartass comments right back and it went on for a while until he ended it and logged off.

Anyway I was fuming and just saw RED!!! I want to punch him in the face so bad. I'm not a violent person and have never harmed anyone before but with him I will gladly make an exception!

Why the hell did he message me on his 21st anyway? Is his life that crap that he finds joy in harassing me on one of the most significant days in most peoples lives? Loser.

So have any of you got any ex's that still harass you or ended the relationship horribly or anything along the lines of that?

Feel free to discuss anything about the PSYCHO EX's that sadly made their way into our lives at some stage! V_V

 

[Bambi]

Take pleasure in the fact that the best he can do on his 21st is harrass you. The Sad individual clearly has no life

As for psycho exes, haha...where do I start, a more recent ex stalked me for AGES. It was a nightmare. It was like, everywhere I went, he was there. Or turning up on my door step, or like if we happened to be out in the same group, he'd just.....stare at me. One time I was innocently chatting to some guy and I heard him tell him to back off becuase we were together I was like wtf we split up MONTHS ago......he was annoying. I was sooo glad when I heard he got a gf xDD We can chat ok now though, it was just like a year when he wouldnt back off

The main one though fucking hell. He WAS a psycho. He actually had me by the throat on the floor in the middle of Ashton telling me if I didnt get back with him he'd kill me. Like that was gunna work..¬.¬ or if he found out I was ever with anyone else he'd kill me and them.... I didnt touch another man for about 6 months, I was terrified He also said he'd kill himself at one point. I told him to do it. Sadly, it was an empty threat. One can but dream. Although that was all a few years ago, and we are on talking terms now, we have to be really, seeing as he's the father of my child

But yer, thats my experiences with crazy exes

 

[SapphireStar]

I havent had any, but my guy has. The last 1 who worked with us hated my guts since day 1, well before we staretd dating. She kept trying to win him back after we got together and they had been apart for 6 months before we started seeing each other. She even had the balls to tell the girl Im jealous of and who fancied my guy, to go for it and get him! Whilst I was with him!!

She is a complete and utter bitch, hes had to change his number, delete his MySpace and block her from Facebook. But she hasnt had the gall to try and conact me. She still comes into work with a new guy or girl trying to make him jealous, but shes a complete and utter prat. Or she will try and trash my section and just be an arsehole to me. Its been 15 months since they split and she just wont back off. Its freaking sad.

 

[Jacqui]

My boyfriend's ex girlfriend's father chased around a cinema car park in his car...
That's about the worst it got, if you don't count my ex leaving me for a man...

To be honest I think I've had it pretty mild compared to some people. My boyfriend's ex thinks that she's still got the right to see him and stuff, and for about 6 months she kept asking him to go round to hers when we had gone away for the night...it was weird

 

[The Illusive Man]

Oh gawd...where to begin....

My first major ex, I was engaged to and found out she was sleeping with someone else behind my back, all because I wouldnt skip a lecture for her.

My second major ex, she was just an utter bitch that tried to rule my life and make me do as I was told like I was some kind of pet...least to say I didnt put up with that for long...

My third and most recent Major ex, After several months of her screwing around with my head, making me super jealous by purposley flirting with my mates and other guys in front of me and getting a kick out of it despite numberous "talks" to stop it, she always demanded to know where I was going and who with when I was off out with the lads, she was allowed to do as she pleased without so much of a word mentioned....eventually she had screwed my head up for so long that I decided to dump her after checking a message on her phone (wrong I know but she was constantly arrousing my suspicions and messing with my head on purpose) from another guy.

I confronted her about it, she claimed her mates put her up to it, so I asked her if she would jump off a cliff if they told her to, and walked away there and then...

My relationships have definatley made me the bitter individual I am today, I just dont believe in happiness and I definatley dont think I'll ever find "The One"

If god wanted me to, he would stop shitting down my back every relationship I have

 

[Shu]

I'm not one to intentionally hurt a girl in a relationship, but I've had a few end badly. The road goes both ways as well as far as.. stalking ex's go. I had one mutually break up with me because of long distance relationship, in which I was willing to keep it going as long as she was, but if she wasn't I told her to screw it, so she didn't feel guilty. After we broke up, I stopped saying the whole.. "I love you" bit and being a bit short with her, for I just wasn't exactly in love with her anymore. She started getting all psycho and spazzing out. I mean maybe 2 days after we broke up, I received around 5 emails from her saying how much she loved me and how much she wanted to get back together. She sent me random Instant Messages.. asking me why I wasn't responding and I start shaking my head. I started getting voice messages, annoymous calls, and calls from her roomies cell phone. I then start getting instant messages from her best friend back in Georgia, asking me all these out of the ordinary questions a complete stranger just should not ask.

So guess what.. I just said .. well that's enough for me.. no more AOL, and haven't used it in say... 5 years? I mean the girl was perfectly fine in the relationship, no quirks really. I mean she was the one who proposed to break up in the first place, so I have no idea where the heck it came from.. so hey, call me Captain Dickhead, but desperatation is a turn off to me and borderline psychotic.

The last relationship I had ended quite badly too, but I rather give her some dignity and leave her out of it. Not all women are like this, but I just don't take crap anymore. I don't like head games, and I'll throw it in the face of those who play them. I hate drama, so anything to alleviate it, and live a good healthy relationship, I'll make sacrifices to keep. So that's where I'm at today. I just wish I could have met L. way back when, instead of having to learn countless lessons, in countless relationships. Crazy Ex's for the loss.

 

[Bambi]

My most recent ex is sending me nasty messages becuase I wont get back with him, no one will want me because Im a single mum, go kill myself, I'M a twisted bitch...etc etc...I pick all the winners

What I don't get is WHY people behave like this, sure you're hurt, but fucking hell, acting like a tard isnt gunna get me back is it? Not that I want to but thats not the point..... if someone broke up with me... and I still wanted to be with them, Id just cry and feel sorry for myself for abit, like I did when my bf dumped me when I was 15

There's no need to go all weird, it gets you no where and you get over it eventually, so what does it achieve?!

People are idiots

 

[Kandy-Sugar]

I didn't exactly explain how my relationships ended when I first posted this thread. I pretty much just rambled on about my most recent encounter with one of my most hated. XD

Anyway...

Well I've always been good at picking the good ones. /sarcasm

My first boyfriend 3 years ago was someone I went to school with up until he left in year 10 and we met two years later. We went out for a grand total of two weeks and therefore I didn't really call it a relationship until he started going all psycho on me and I had to tell people that, 'Yes he's one of my ex's and that's why he keeps harassing me.'

He pretty much wanted to just hop in the sack with me and I didn't, which equals him getting annoyed and dumping me. He didn't even dump me actually. He just stopped talking to me the coward.

However, he spoke to everyone else, spreading rumors that he had a threesome with me and my best mate, he kept trying to call me to come over to, 'kiss and make up'. He would sit outside my house in his car and then do a burn out before driving off. The loser.

Anyway I was good mates with his best mate Blake who I kept in contact with after the break up. We ended up together and loved each other etc.

I believe that my first boyfriend Toby (who was his best mate), convinced him that I was a slut or whatever even though I never touched Toby considering it only lasted two weeks. Still, I guess I did kinda work my way around the group of friends just a tad, but unintentionally. =/

Anyway after 4 months Blake decides to just start making up excuses to not see me and then just stops contacting me all together. Finally we get together one weekend and everything is normal as could be. However the following week we go to a movie and he is all weird. He takes me home and before I leave I say I love you and he doesn't say anything. I get to the bottom of it after harassing him to tell me what the hell is going on and he replies like a little bitch, "I just don't feel it anymore. The spark is gone."

I'm like, "Why the hell couldn't you tell me earlier instead of confusing me and taking me out to dinner and shit?" Something along those lines.

He looks away all dramatically and I leave.

Anyway a few days later Blake, Toby and their mates come to my house and steal my letterbox. They do burnouts on my lawn. They ring me to tell me they are going down the coast with some hot chicks to hang out with and such.

This went on for around 5 months and every now and then they somehow get my details on the internet and email me the bastards.

My most recent ex about 2 years ago now, was just a rebound boyfriend to be honest. =/ He was so nice at first, told me he loved me etc. Then he and his brother steal my car and smash it into a power-poll. I had to write it off it was that bad and his brother lost his two front teeth. He stopped talking to me because he didn't want to have to pay for damages the prick!

Who the hell does that! It's freaking sick. Lucky for me he was good enough to leave me alone and never speak to me again. But he still ended the relationship in a screwed up way.

They all did!

 

[Shu]

Also, I wanted to add because I was thinking this the other day.. and I didn't have the time to write it.

To save some time I'll cut through stories and get to a few points.

1) Sexually founded Relationships will fade - Never no Never, start a relationship purely on attraction to one another and doing your.. "thing."

2) If you notice someone taking advantage (guy or girl.. but for me this will be a girl) of your well earned money because you have given them a nice gift.. keep track of it. I hate the fact that there are women who are born with a silver spoon in their mouth and that their daddy gave them everything. I am no sugar daddy, I might do something sparatic one day, but I will never be expected to repeat it just because I did it once. Buying stuff for your lady can be very therapeutic for them, but when you notice they are starting to ride your coat tails for stuff like "coach", "burberry", "Louey BUTTon.." (don't even care of spelling), Hobo, Juicy.. list goes on, try taking that luxery away, and see where that relationship goes!

Like I said before I've been in honestly too many "unhealthy" relationships so to speak. When you end a relationship with a gold digger, do yourself a favor and don't call them out on it. Save yourself some face, and humble it down inside you, because otherwise prepare for Out of this World Psycho Lady!

I had a best buddy call me after a break up saying I did this.. I did that, just because I broke up with her. All my friends were like.. Dude, she's spreading shit about you that we know you are better than that.. I just told them, well ... eff it, if she needs to defend herself with lies to build her to be the better person because she was broken up with.. then soooo be it. People can be retarded upon break ups, its like a damn switch is pulled. I know my place, and I never linger.. you want me gone, well I will be gone.. I just don't see why people need to be the better person upon break ups.. I mean why can't people just take it and that's that.

 

[Estella Vanilla]

Okay I think I can help you!

First thing, block him. =) If he can't rant to you, you don't have to listen to him.

Also, if you don't block him, he'll read this post and then harass you AGAIN.

He sounds disrespectful also and like a complete jerk. And you probably were the best thing that ever happened to him. He still sounds hung up on you so that proves it. =/

I've had plenty of exes that still want to be my "friend." I had a boy I really liked when I was 13 or so lol and at the time we both liked each other and stuff. I got rid of him after a year and he STILL tries to talk to me and be my friend. He IMed me last night, true story.

If you don't get rid of them now they'll continue to harass you! (I'd know!) I'm almost 21 now, they'll continue to talk to you (even more so when they get dumped by their next girlfriend).

 

[Kandy-Sugar]

Well there's no chance of him reading anything I say about him on these forums because he doesn't even know about them. XD

I've done pretty much everything. I've moved twice, changed jobs, changed my emails. But some idiot keeps updating him on my latest email and I don't know who it is or if he's just a brilliant stalker.

Yeah I've had a few boyfriends and I'm almost 21 and happily with my partner of 2 years. I tell him about the harassment sometimes and he gets really angry, but sometimes I don't say anything because I'm afraid it might hurt us. It's not like I get the emails enough to worry about it too much and in a couple of years I won't have the internet anymore anyway so I won't have to read them anymore. XD

 

[Estella Vanilla]

Well there's no chance of him reading anything I say about him on these forums because he doesn't even know about them. XD

I've done pretty much everything. I've moved twice, changed jobs, changed my emails. But some idiot keeps updating him on my latest email and I don't know who it is or if he's just a brilliant stalker.

Yeah I've had a few boyfriends and I'm almost 21 and happily with my partner of 2 years. I tell him about the harassment sometimes and he gets really angry, but sometimes I don't say anything because I'm afraid it might hurt us. It's not like I get the emails enough to worry about it too much and in a couple of years I won't have the internet anymore anyway so I won't have to read them anymore. XD

Oh! Well that is good news. I read this the wrong way then:

"So I was just mentioning in the 'I hate you' thread in Costa Del Sol, that he was one of the people I still hate and that I hadn't had contact with him since we broke up pretty much in 2006.

Anyway just seven hours after making that post he messages me on the internet saying that I'm a hoebag and that I should come to his 21st party today so that we can get it on and such. <_<"

He sounds really creepy... I think perhaps you need a restraining order. x_x

*Random tidbit- Rape happens more frequently between people you know than strangers.

 

[Kandy-Sugar]

Yeah I was just saying that it was all the more creepy because the first time I talked about him in ages in the 'I hate you' thread was also the day he decided to message me through email only hours after. XD

I really doubt he would have read that thread, although if he's the stalker I think he is it's very possible. XD

Okay sorry for the double post but this is really freaking me out.

My other ex Aaron who was Blake's (the guy who I initially started this thread about) good mate had his birthday a week after Blake and also turned 21 (this week).

The same night I get random messages from Aaron commenting on my pictures saying, "Two bottles of vodka and I might say yes to having you." Or something along those lines.

He was the sweetest and most decent guy I had ever been with to be honest and we were kinda more buddyish then a couple really. <_< But anyway this was the first bad thing he'd said to me and I was so shocked and disgusted by it.

Just because you aren't with someone anymore doesn't mean you have to get angry about it and take it out on the person you once cared about. I could never do that. I never gave them reason to do anything bad to me.

Anyway this was like the second horrible message from another ex in two weeks and I just saw red and I'M'd him back:

"Wow you and Blake must have had really shit 21st birthday's if you can be assed harassing me. Poor things. I'm obviously the best thing that ever happened to any of you if you can be fucked keeping in contact!!! Vodka is shit by the way!!! Girly poofter drink!!! Now go fuck yourself!!!"

Ignore the comment about the vodka. <_<

Anyway so I've ensured that I've fully blocked them in every way possible, even though I was sure I had from the start, and then today I get a message on my 3-year-old-never-been-used-in-ages Myspace account from Aaron. <_<

sorry, my mate was using my facebook, i read what he said though. pretty sure u no i dont need 2 bottles of vodka...

anyway hope u dont hate me, good night

Can I kill all men in Beauy right now? They are going to send me to the loony bin.

I am sick of being harassed. <_<

 

[The Illusive Man]

Ho-boy break up stage, I've had some fun with that when dumping the previously mentioned bitch-for-gf's

one thing I am guilty of in the "break-up" stage is becoming the embodiment of pure evil, I become extremely cruel and heartless shutting myself off to any kind of saddened state, I become angry, hateful, spiteful, vengeful among other things.

With the ex-fiance, she did not expect me to show up to college (wasnt supposed to be in that day) and she was there with the guy she had been sleeping with behind my back....

I strode in, told her exactly what she was "A no good two bit whore" before turning to the guy and saying "what you with her for, shes only going to do the same to you" I then told her to keep the ring and shove it where the sun dont shine..

Several months after that one, I found out the words I had said to the other guy turned out true as she had sodded off down london with someone else, which I found quite ironic.

The controller: I turned extremely nasty with her when I realised what she was trying to do, even telling her NO! over silly little things in order to re-instate my individuality that she had almost taken from me, when we finally did break up she kept pestering me, I was then guilty of an act of revenge...

Her brother was someone that worked with me, I made his life a living hell over the next few weeks, giving him all the shit jobs and coming down like a ton of bricks over anything, eventually he told his sister how I was being with him and she came into the place I worked.....to get me dragging her to one side and saying

"Look you stupid bitch, fuck off out of my life, I wish I had never met you, you fucking horrible manipulative cow, you wanna know why im being mean to your brother?...Its because you wont leave me the fuck alone!"

She left in tears, and I was left with a sadistic smile on my face, she never bothered me again.

The Third was a real bumpy ride, when we were close to the breaking up stage, she pulled the "Pregnant" card on me, out of desperation as she knew I was beginning to fall out of love with her.

She knew this was my greatest weakness, as I have always wanted a son or daughter to spoil and bring up and put all my love an attention into, so temporarly she got me back on-side.

I quickly remembered that the whole time we had been together (2yr+) we had used 1-2 forms of contreception everytime we had slept together, condoms and the pill (which I used to have to remind her to take everyday as she would tend to forget) so I became sceptical about the truth behind it and talked to her brother and his wife about it (I was pretty close with her brother and he had always known how much I had cared about her and how much I had always wanted a child)

He then went to her house and confronted her, pregnancy test in hand while I was asleep at home (just been on a long night-shift and was catching up on some sleep) I then recieved a phonecall, from her brother telling me the results and that she had been lying to me all along about the pregnancy.

Eventually when push came to shove, and after I could not stand anymore of her outrageous flirting, coupled with her crushing my soul over one of the things I most covvet in this world, and the notion that she could be possibly cheating....I ended the relationship, turning nasty and deleting her phone-number on my mobile in her face, before walking out of the door saying.... "Dont call me, dont come near me...dont even breathe in my direction, I dont wanna fucking know your alive"


I often think back to the way I had behaved in these situations, and how I could of handled them differently, I often put myself in what if situations too.....

But I always reach the same conclusion....I did the right thing, they backed me into a corner, they forced me to act that way through there actions and behaviour....

I could only hope they learned there lesson, like I had....never EVER trust a person with your life until you are totally certain they are the right one for you!