Serious Dont lie to me!

[SapphireStar]

Oh my fracking God, I hate liers!!! Its one of the things I detest so much.

Ive just discovered my best friend may be lying to me. She still works with my ex and even though I told her not to tell me ANYTHING he does at work, she still does. I still love him and she knows this, but I think she is trying to make me hate him. I confronted him about an hour ago regarding something she had said, he denined it and said she was a lier. Now Im stuck. He has just told me now that she has made it clear she doesnt want me and him talking. I know she loves me and I love her, but she cant rule my life like this. It is hurting me so much.

Im mega upset because either my ex, whom I still love and my best friend who got us together is lying. And I dont need this crap right now. My gran wants me to get them together and get it sorted. But I hate confrontation and these are 2 people I care about. Im going to lose both of them now I think.

Sorry I made another thread, I just need some advice here. I either lose the man I love or my best friend. Its a shit situation. Feel like Im in school all over again!

 

[Serah]

How long have you been friends with your best friend? If you've known her longer and have been closer to her longer than you have your ex, I'd choose losing my ex over my best friend anyday. If you two are staying split up and that's that, eventually you're going to get over your love for him, especially if you find somebody else. Has your best friend ever lied to you in the past? Maybe she's hurting for you because of you two splitting up so she's exaggerating. Perhaps your ex is lying to you because he doesn't want to be seen in a bad light.

Truthfully I can't fathom why your best friend would lie to you if she doesn't have a history of it, but I could see your ex doing it, so honestly I don't know. I think your gran is in the right by saying you really should get the two of them together and confront them both. You may hate confrontation but there are going to come times in your life where it's going to be inevitable and something is going to have to be done in order for you to find out the truth. That's really I can offer in something like this. I'm so sorry you're going through this, but when it really boils down to it, I'd rather lose my ex than my best friend who's been there for me for a long time and still is. That's just my opinion.

 

[SapphireStar]

Thank you Kikyou.

My ex just texted me saying "She has made it clear she doesnt want us talking." So he confronted her and she admitted to lying to me. Im heartbroken, we've been friends for almost 2 years and I was with him for a year. I dont know if we are going to get back together. He said he would come back, but isnt "right" at the moment as he is having alot of family and health issues. She got us together, the 3 of us were close. My gran thought she may have been jealous, but she is madly in love with her guy whom I went to school with.

I do love my friend, but she has a bad habit of doing silly things for attention, which is why I question her. Ive decided to switch my phone off because Im so upset by it and their behaviour.

 

[Serah]

Maybe then you just need to take some time from her to get your head a little sorted out around this whole fiasco. I think maybe that'd be best for you. Once you've gotten yourself calmed down, I would suggest you contacting her and trying to talk this out with her. Why doesn't she want you two together? Did he hurt you and perhaps she's just trying to protect you from getting hurt again or getting your hopes up about something that may not happen? Perhaps her heart was in the right place, she just went about doing things the way she did wrong. I wouldn't be so quick to push her out of your life just yet or stop being friends. Give yourself a little time to cool down and then talk to her about this. Her intentions may have very well be good ones, they just didn't turn out that way.

 

[SapphireStar]

Yeah, Ive switched my phone off and Im working at my new job tommorow, so Im going to chill out tonight and get a good nights sleep. She was gutted when we broke up as everyone, espcially her, thought we would be together forever. But due to his depression and my paranoia, it ended about 4 months ago. I guess she is trying to protect me, but lying about the man I love just upsets me. I think she wanted me to confront him tonight and then I wouldnt speak to him ever again.

He has said he doesnt know if we should remain friends because of this. So Im just going to avoid them both for the weekend.

 

[Serah]

Well I wish you the best of luck. I really hope everything will turn out okay in the end. I just hate seeing friendships end, especially if the whole matter/situation isn't clear or hasn't been resolved. I also hope that I've helped you out a bit.

 

[SapphireStar]

Kikyou, you have helped. Thank you. Ive decided to sleep on it and see what happens. Thing is my friend lives round the corner from me and she has just finishes work, lol I know her work rota and I thought she may come round and say something. But no.


But thank you

 

[Kandy-Sugar]

I agree with Mandi in that you should stick by your friend more so than your ex at the moment.

In my opinion from reading previous threads of yours this guy has been jerking you around a lot these last few months of not being together and maybe your friend has seen that and just felt like she had to intervene and put an end to it in order to see you happy again.

I know that it isn't really her place to do that, but she obviously cares for you as a friend and doesn't want to see you get hurt again by this guy.

She got you two together and you said she was upset when you two broke up.

I know that when my friend had troubles with her boyfriend cheating on her that I intervened and even threw a mobile phone at him.

She wasn't sure what she wanted me to do in the end. To keep out of it or help her out but I ended up deciding that I should stay out of it as it wasn't my issue to solve.

She'll realise this and hopefully you guys will sort things out. All three of you. <3