Do you have a significant other?

[Bambi]

I have men coming out of my ears at the moment

Im happy to share

I should take heed of that 'be careful what you wish for' shizz,

 

[Dark Adonis Wilt]

No girl for me, which is a bit of a pain considering I spend most of my time with couples aha.

Called a third wheel my friend .

And Frisky, you have a shot at something only girls in interracial videos get to do. Take advantage of it !

As for me though, almost 3 years with my girly girl now ! Be jealous people! My girlfriend rocks your f'in socks! That's pretty much all I'm tellin' though.

 

[Bambi]

lol i think i might somewhere safe to hide for a while

I suck at long term relationships, I always end up feeling suffocated, Im far too independant for my own good.

Or maybe I just haven't met the right guy, altho annoyingly when I do meet someone I think i could like, they always live too far away. But then maybe I feel safe by the distance and thats why I think i like them Oh dear,Iv confused myself

I would actually like to settle down but I think im incapable

 

[Lirael]

I have enough responsibilities as it is. Those responsibilities can mar me of gamerhood. I would rather be a hardcore gamer than a husband and/or father. Falling in love can be a pain.

You sound more like a childish teenager than a man nearing the age of 30. Either that or you're kinda closed, and don't want to even consider the idea that you might be wrong. I know people like that... One of my exes would be an example. Which leads me on to my answer.

I've had three boyfriends; all three I met online. I met two in person; Shaun and Christoff. The other, Mike, wasn't serious in the slightest; he was a rebound of mine, and I was just like a trophy to him. I played hard to get and he got me.

Anyway, onto the more real relationships. I'll keep it brief.

Shaun and I met on EyesonFF in 2005, and went out from 1/1/06 to the 31/03/07. After months of longing, we got back together in October 2006, and met in-person from sometime late December to the 2nd of January 2007. We met twice after that too. But as time went on, he became really paranoid. He made me block a friend who fancied me. Not only that; he became controlling. I don't think he meant to be, but he was very one-sided and failed to see my point of view, possibly due to his depression. He wanted me to go to Uni near him and thought that if I loved him I would. He truly believed that if I didn't, it meant I didn't love him. There were other cases like this... Let's just say I felt I had to do some affectionate things I didn't want to in order to prove my love. And I did sometimes. But it grew too stressful, and I broke up with him about 8 1/2 months later in May/June.

It was a terrible breakup; he posted on a forum I was a member of, telling people that I'd dumped him for Christoff, who was a friend of mine at the time. He also made me tell my parents this, threatening to call them himself if I didn't. I admit I liked Christoff from around May, but he wasn't the reason I had to break up with Shaun. Shaun made me feel suffocated. I was so afraid of doing something wrong; being with him was like walking on ice. It was so easy to fall through; so easy to do something wrong. I knew that true love was unconditional. I was no good for Shaun, and my feelings had gradually faded. I found myself, during the last month, almost forcing myself to say "I love you" at times.

I suppose the decline in my feelings all began the last time I saw him. He made me feel I had to do something affectionate that I didn't feel ready for, and this pressure made me question him. Why would someone who loved me force me to do something I didn't want to? Shaun didn't understand that he was forcing me. I couldn't love someone who thought mainly of himself, and failed to see my perspective. I couldn't love someone who made me feel small; he didn't value my opinions either, and deemed what I study as worthless (how is Philosophy and Ethics more worthless than e-media when you want to be a writer like I do?)

Anyway, after that I did eventually go out with Christoff, and I'll keep this story shorter. We had 3 relationships. He could never decide what he wanted more; me or no long-distance relationship. He's not good at waiting, or travelling, so the distance was the one and only thing that broke us up all those times. But we still liked one another for months. We did meet once, over the last New Year, and we had a good time, but after he broke up with me for the third time, he had a girlfriend a week later... Apparently she was a customer at work. I dont' quite believe that, but I don't resent him for it. We're still good friends.

As for now, I really like one of my friends but I know he doesn't like me. Also, I would much rather remain one of his good friends for a lifetime than be his girlfriend for a few weeks/months and then never speak to him again; it's sometimes hard to go back to being friends.

As for the future...well, I'd quite like to meet someone at Uni. Recently I've been feeling lonely, but I don't have any desire to be with a person right now. For me, I only want a relationship when there is a particular someone I want to be with. I never just want to be with someone and so go in search of a relationship.

 

[Reality.Fantasy]

Meh, I decided that it's time to post here.

Really, I only had one relationship, and it was awkward. Back in eighth grade, my best friend asked me out and I felt guilty so I said yeah. But I realized that I didn't like her, so I avoided her all Summer until she dumped me. Thank God I got rid of that, now after some scandal last Summer, neither I nor any of my friends talk to her. She's gone down the crapper.

I don't want to judge my ability to hold relationships off of that, though. It was more of a pity relationship, and it was back in middle school, where nothing was that important or serious. I've had some crushes in high school, but I decided that I want to focus on having grades and a bunch of free time to live my life before college. I don't have the time for a serious relationship with how much I want to accomplish, and while I don't think a relationship would hold me back a great amount, I like having a one-track mind when I need it.