How do you act in front of that special someone?

Bei Bei

Bei Bei

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How do you usually act around someone that you really like, or even someone that you know likes you?

I'm actually really shy when it comes to chatting with someone that I really like. I'm always afraid they'll think I'm too boring, or they just don't like me for some reason.

When I know someone usually likes me, I play stupid. I pretend I dont even know they like me even if it's really obvious.
 
... I just try to be myself, but get stuck on myself and I'm the only one talking sometimes. I also get caught up in trying to impress people, which is very stupid. But if someone's pissing me off, I try and restrain my overwhelming amounts of rage and talk with them about it.(The speial someone, not the dick.)
 
I try to just be myself as well, which can kinda screw you over. Especially if you're the one interested and the other person doesn't like your personality or something Lol...

But yeah, I'm very shy myself when it comes to starting a conversation with someone (breaking the ice) even more so when I'm interested in that person. I think its the whole rejection issue and we can be our own worst enemy when it comes to judging ourselves.

Now, I still tend to be shy even if I know the other person is interested in me, but its a lot easier due to the fact that I know she found something about me that she liked.
 
I'm the same way as you Bei Bei, if I know a person likes me, I try to be a dumb as I possibly can.

Funny thing is, I'll flirt with all the friends I have that are girls, but as soon as I find out they like me more then a friend, I get weird and kinda ignore them, although I dont know what kind of person that makes me.
 
A bastard? :p Just kiddin bro.

I act like myself because I know that she will have to get used to that part of me if we really plan on having a good, long, healthy relationship. I don't want her thinking I'm anything better or worse then what I am, because if she does, at some point I'll either disappoint her or worse...and I couldn't live with that.

My only moto is to always be a gentlemen...and she even knows that.
 
The Scriblerian said:
...at some point I'll either disappoint her or worse...and I couldn't live with that.

My only moto is to always be a gentlemen...and she even knows that.
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That's admirable, you my friend, are a true gentleman. For me, it's terrible with a woman that I truly have feelings for. I usually do the exact opposite of what it is I should do. If my friends say "play hard to get" I play right into her hands. If my friends say "remain mysterious and brooding" I get all jovial and jolly. For me, personally, It's nerve wracking trying to pursue someone I actually have deep feelings for. It's always a lot easier to chase someone I'm not emotionally attracted to. Deeply, that is. I've done it all to get the girl/s of my dreams. I've fluffed before, tried to impress them, pretended to be someone or something I'm not, so on and so forth.
 
The Legendary Wullfe said:

That's admirable, you my friend, are a true gentleman. For me, it's terrible with a woman that I truly have feelings for. I usually do the exact opposite of what it is I should do. If my friends say "play hard to get" I play right into her hands. If my friends say "remain mysterious and brooding" I get all jovial and jolly. For me, personally, It's nerve wracking trying to pursue someone I actually have deep feelings for. It's always a lot easier to chase someone I'm not emotionally attracted to. Deeply, that is. I've done it all to get the girl/s of my dreams. I've fluffed before, tried to impress them, pretended to be someone or something I'm not, so on and so forth.
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Thanks man...

Let me just start by saying, your problem is not uncommon. No matter how easy it looks for other guys etc, trust me, making a DEEP relationship like we're talking about is nerve racking on everyone involved.

But as it's been proven in this thread, the best answer is the most simplest one, be yourself. Dammit if you feel like being a jolly bastard to a girl, do it. And if you feel like being a mysterious guy who answers every question with "Whatever..." then do it. In the end, just follow yourself and yourself only...and you will end up with someone who loves you.

Don't do what your friends tell you, but what your brain, heart, and most of all, emotions tell you too.
 
I always end up acting completely shy and always avoid contact.

Then if they would approach me my face would start getting very read. And they would start talking to me and I'd talking a mile a minute. It's completely embarrassing.
 
It really depends on the person. I really try to go with the flow. My personality never really changes much... but I try to present the side they like to see most. It doesn't really mean I'm two-faced, just that I try to put my best foot forward, depending on what they see as my best foot. Some people just want a nice guy to talk to. Someone to be sweet and be there for them... other people are attracted to "bad boys" (which I don't make a very good one to begin with but whatever).

The only thing that is consistant is that I'm deeply concerned with their every thought about me. Do they think I'm interesting, funny, smart, handsome, etc? I guess mainly because I don't think I'm any of those things.

As for sublty, I don't know of the word. If I like you, you know it... even to any extent, you're more than well aware, as I'm sure that several of my friends can attest to on this site. :/ It does mean that I try to shoot straight. Even though I try to present the best of myself, I always try to be straightfoward, regardless of how I come off.

My only real flaw with women is that I am shy in real life. That and I fall very easily for women. I'm the kind of guy who believes in taking a chance on a person, even if that chance isn't justified. I come off as a real jerk sometimes but I love people. I easily put other people before myself, even if it seems like I'm completely self-indulged, which I know it often does. I don't think it's a bad thing that I care as much as I do about people and women in general... but it definitely puts me in some romantic pickles. As Busta tells me, I put myself in those situations so I have no one to blame but myself... but I can't help but see the best in some people. Maybe I just see people how I want to see them... or see them for their good or their bad to justify my predispositions... but I do find myself caring for people I hardly know and it gives me a lot of heartache. I'd rather have the headache than be devoid of feelings though.
 
The Scriblerian said:
A bastard? :p Just kiddin bro.

I act like myself because I know that she will have to get used to that part of me if we really plan on having a good, long, healthy relationship. I don't want her thinking I'm anything better or worse then what I am, because if she does, at some point I'll either disappoint her or worse...and I couldn't live with that.





I act the same way better to be your self than playing something else,its the best way.
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Tifa, You're a lesbian? That's hawt.

Nevermind, you fucked up a quote tag. Man... That was going to be funny...
 
*Pushes Finnegan off a Cliff that's at a higher elevation than Natural Bridge*
 
Cloud said:
Tifa, You're a lesbian? That's hawt.

Nevermind, you fucked up a quote tag. Man... That was going to be funny...
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For the first no i'm for shure not a Lesbian.
For the quote sorry,i had to take care of my kids,they were fighting like always.
Mistakes can happen.
 
Ahh... I hate kids.
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I've been with the same person for 2 years and I still act like an airhead around him. =x
 
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