Being left out

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Have you ever been left out of something? Like a social gathering with friends or family?

Ive experinced it alot lately and yes it does get you down. At the moment Im missing out on meeting my friends from a Muse forum and the Muse at Wembley concert. On the forum and MySpace all they talk about is where theyre meeting and how great the concerts going to be. Yes, Im jealous, upset and angry about the fact that I was not allowed to go cause I couldnt afford it and because its in London, I was not allowed to go alone.

Happened last Friday aswell. I was home early and my boyfriend had the day off work, so I thought we would be meeting up, but sadly no. He went on to tell me how he went swimming with his friends, went for something to eat, then went back to one of their homes and watched DVDs together. Of course I was upset and angry as he had asked me what I was doing that day and I said I was doing nothing. Surely he would have thought to invite me along.

Its happened alot of times at university, I think I made a thread about it. How when one of my so called friends replaced me with 6 men!

I guess it can be seen as childish getting upset over something so trivial, but you must have experinced a time when you were left out and basically got annoyed. What do you do to get over it? Do you confront the people who left you out? Or do you go on and not say anything?
 
It happens to all of us I think. There's been a few times when my mates have gone places without asking me (usually because I'm at work though) but it doesn't bother me too much really. Sure, it isn't the best feeling in the world; that people don't care about you, but I don't think about it too much and I just get over it.
 
What? They didnt invite me because theyd be talking about me? Basically bitching behidn my back. Well, youve certainly put my mind at ease ...
 
Always, and over everthing. But it doesn't take much to tip me when i am upset anyway. Its always refreshing when you get your own back though don't you think? Best way to deal with it is to sort something out without them, then when it slips out where you went say something like "oh did'nt i tell you" :)
 
I never really had to deal with being 'left out'. The only times I was left out was for childish reasons back in High school/Middle school.

I was never left out by my friends or boyfriend though. I guess it's because I have a very small group of friends. Even if I was left out I would be very upset. In this situation I would ask my friends about leaving me out and what was the reason. Depending on what they say I might let the situation go or question them more. If they're are like: "Ohh we didn't invite you because....I don't know...I thought you were doing something...." Of course I'm going to ask: "Why didn't you ask me earlier, why didn't you inform me?"
 
Yes, it really does happen to everyone more than once in their lifetime ^_^
Not a particularly happy feeling obviously.

One time, I had to get left out of a trip to Disneyland back in 8th grade because my mom didn't want me to, that being the sole reason. :dry:
It's deeply annoying, but then at the same time, I had to consider why she wouldn't let me ---- I still haven't figured it out yet btw.
Anyways, yeah, I'm sure she had her reasons and I don't blame her one bit for it. ^_^
 
The thing with your boyfriend is kinda weird, although I guess one can expect he'd just want to hang out with just his male friends once in a while.

But while I can understand that you'd be jealous at not being able to go out with your group you can't really get upset at them for being excited about it. You'd be excited too if you were going.

PS
You can't go out alone? Aren't you like 23?
 
Vagabond said:
The thing with your boyfriend is kinda weird, although I guess one can expect he'd just want to hang out with just his male friends once in a while.

But while I can understand that you'd be jealous at not being able to go out with your group you can't really get upset at them for being excited about it. You'd be excited too if you were going.

PS
You can't go out alone? Aren't you like 23?
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Whats my age got to do with it? Im 22 and I dont like going out alone. I prefer going out with friends.
And they werent just male friends, 1 male and 2 females ...
 
Well then that is weird.

And the last part was really none of my business, I'm sorry. I was just commenting because it seemed like you were saying someone (presumable your parents) was forbidding you go out by yourself.
 
I hate getting left out of things... but thats because sometimes my friends dont know I have a day off and dont invite me to do stuff as they think im at work... (some of them are unemployed)
 
Hell_Razer said:
No :dry: didn't mean that way i ment you kinda thin kthey are talking about you thats why they didn't invite you by you im not meaning you (star >_<)
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I never think theyre talking behind my back. Your post is hardly reasureing to anyone. I like to believe my friends and boyfriend like me enough not to discuss me behind my back.
 
I dont know if its really feeling left out but I know how it feels to be the third wheel or watching people do things that you wish you were a part of.

One thing is seeing two of my friends fall in love and be happy. Now I'm happy they are happy but I want that as well. I lost the woman I wanted to be with forever and now when I see two people together I feel like I'm missing something.

I'm happy that everyone has found the one they wanna be with but I guess I hate them all for it as well. I guess you can call it envy right?
 
I only really get left out of things because I can't get ababysitter or I'm skint, that gets me down abit sometimes, but I guess that's my own doing ;)

I remember once years ago everyone in my class at primary school went to a birthday party and I wasn't invited becasue me and the girl whoses birthday it was didn't like each other

I pretended I wasn't bothered but I was secretly well miffed & I cried in the toilets- that has always stuck with me lol
 
Yeah, I feel left out a lot. xD

I do all that I can for people, for them to ignore my problems due to relationships they're currently in, or just a lack of caring, despite how long we've been best friends.
 
I am that one person in my group of friends that everyone leaves out. They all go bowling, the movies, out to dinner, to the mall without me, and none of them really tell me about it. They say things like "Oh, we were going to invite you, but it was kind of last minute". Well yes, but I till would have came!

I can never get my friends to do anything with me. I usually end up going to movies alone, or out to lunch, and shopping. Once in a while I'll get my best friend to go with me (she isn't part of the same group of friends as I am, but she has a full time job, and is a full time student so we barely spend time together).

Yes my friends to invite me sometimes, but it feels like they only do it to be nice. I don't know if I'm just unpleasant to be around if they actually do forget about me.
 
If someone leaves you out of something, fuck 'em.

All you have to do is wait until they want to be a part of something you're doing, then you leave them out. Simple as that.

Of course if you're not into that whole "two wrongs don't make a right"-thing... I dunno.
 
All my best friends are selfish, especially recently, and pull this shit all the time. Then they yell at me when i don't want to do something with them. So yeah, shit sucks.
 
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