Today I had quite the pleasant little conversation with my mother and older sister. I had briefly... briefly mentioned my summer project and combining two spare rooms into one long room for me and my bf. I was afraid to tell her about it, because I knew she'd be such a Negative Nelly about it... she argued more of a Realistic Ralph. Well... I was right. 
She questioned me why I wanted to do this. It mainly stems from my current living situation. My room right now, is a shoebox. It's a very 12 foot by 12 foot small room with barely enough room for my double bed, dresser, bookshelf and desk... there's maybe enough room to just walk straight into the middle of the room and that's it. Two years ago I had knee surgery, and it was complicated and frustrating to have to stay in this tiny room and not be able to move anywhere, and if I did move, it was painfully rough on me.
I slept in the same bed as my bf, and most often than not he'd have to crawl over top of me to get out, as the bed was against the wall and he was always worried about hitting my leg. I'd like to be in a room with enough space to be able to get into a bed on either side (as I'm going to have to have a second surgery the same way). I'd also like to be able to move around, or at least stay in the room with things to do, instead of fleeing to the living room for TV.
I wanted to make this a nice project for myself to do after my bf would have to go home. But noooo this is where my sister flipped her lid. She wants me to go straight to college and focus on education. Which, I have no problem doing but I can't until next year, cause I need to upgrade 3 courses online/or at school in town to get the requirements for the Course I want to take. I have plenty of time to do that as well as this together... I'll be at home doing it online anyway. But no, she just wouldn't have it.
Another thing was that she didn't want our father involved, who I wasn't planning on getting to help just to supervise. The plan is to knock out an existing wall between two adjoined rooms, and all I need to do that, is my other sister's husband as he loves tearing shit down. He could help drywall the space left, and viola.. I can start to paint. But my sister is worried our father will get involved, and it's not something he could do. He used to do a lot of carpentry in his day, but now he's nearly 60 years old, and has had two Quadruple bypasses. He's always come to my rescue with moving stuff and she's worried that he'll overdo it again with this.
But I won't let him, nor is he stupid enough to do that to himself. He still does projects around the house (build himself a nice back deck this year) since the surgery and he's been okay, he knows when to take a break and not overdo it.
It's just... ugh, I'm so frustrated with her. She's 8 years older than me, and with a lot of bossing around, negativity and trying to drive my life around in different directions just keeps driving us apart. She won't support most ideas I have, or has to put a negative spin on something... And really a lot of it is because she wants me to go to school because she never did, she just became a stay at home mother right away. I'M GOING TO GO TO SCHOOL. I've looked into it, but I have plenty of time to upgrade over the next year, there's no rush.. I just want a secondary project so that I don't drive myself up the wall with boredom.
....anyway tl;dr rant over with.. does anybody else have someone in their life who 'believes they're helping' but it does more harm than help? =/
She questioned me why I wanted to do this. It mainly stems from my current living situation. My room right now, is a shoebox. It's a very 12 foot by 12 foot small room with barely enough room for my double bed, dresser, bookshelf and desk... there's maybe enough room to just walk straight into the middle of the room and that's it. Two years ago I had knee surgery, and it was complicated and frustrating to have to stay in this tiny room and not be able to move anywhere, and if I did move, it was painfully rough on me.
I slept in the same bed as my bf, and most often than not he'd have to crawl over top of me to get out, as the bed was against the wall and he was always worried about hitting my leg. I'd like to be in a room with enough space to be able to get into a bed on either side (as I'm going to have to have a second surgery the same way). I'd also like to be able to move around, or at least stay in the room with things to do, instead of fleeing to the living room for TV.
I wanted to make this a nice project for myself to do after my bf would have to go home. But noooo this is where my sister flipped her lid. She wants me to go straight to college and focus on education. Which, I have no problem doing but I can't until next year, cause I need to upgrade 3 courses online/or at school in town to get the requirements for the Course I want to take. I have plenty of time to do that as well as this together... I'll be at home doing it online anyway. But no, she just wouldn't have it.
Another thing was that she didn't want our father involved, who I wasn't planning on getting to help just to supervise. The plan is to knock out an existing wall between two adjoined rooms, and all I need to do that, is my other sister's husband as he loves tearing shit down. He could help drywall the space left, and viola.. I can start to paint. But my sister is worried our father will get involved, and it's not something he could do. He used to do a lot of carpentry in his day, but now he's nearly 60 years old, and has had two Quadruple bypasses. He's always come to my rescue with moving stuff and she's worried that he'll overdo it again with this.
But I won't let him, nor is he stupid enough to do that to himself. He still does projects around the house (build himself a nice back deck this year) since the surgery and he's been okay, he knows when to take a break and not overdo it.
It's just... ugh, I'm so frustrated with her. She's 8 years older than me, and with a lot of bossing around, negativity and trying to drive my life around in different directions just keeps driving us apart. She won't support most ideas I have, or has to put a negative spin on something... And really a lot of it is because she wants me to go to school because she never did, she just became a stay at home mother right away. I'M GOING TO GO TO SCHOOL. I've looked into it, but I have plenty of time to upgrade over the next year, there's no rush.. I just want a secondary project so that I don't drive myself up the wall with boredom.
....anyway tl;dr rant over with.. does anybody else have someone in their life who 'believes they're helping' but it does more harm than help? =/