What classfys as serious?

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This is aimed at both genders. So, what do you think classifys as serious in a relationship?

Now to me, its confessing that you love your partner. To me that shows that its becoming a serious relationship. Of course moving in together is pretty serious too, but I guess that comes after the "I love you" part. Well it did for me in my previous relationship.

Now Ive been with my new guy 2 months and he said he feels like were becoming too serious in 2 months?! Not possible as love, marriage or moving in has not been disgussed. We only see each other at the weekend and sleep together whenever possible, so its not alot.

My family and friends dont understand what he is talking about, but he said it had to do with the past weekend. We had a falling out, patched things up and then he says this. However last night he said to ignore his messages and said his head was f***ed.

My mum has told me Im being paranoid and shouldnt ask him about it, which I havent. However Im not secure in the relationship now as Im not sure where I stand. He doesnt text me as much as he previously did and I got upset when he said we were becoming too serious. It feels like Im just someone to have a good time with.
 
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I always thought love was a serious thing anyway, but your saying you havent got that far? Has he said i love you?

If i were to say something like that to someone i would be having doubts but its only 'serious' if you stop seeing him for weeks on end i would say.
 
No he hasnt said it. When I was drunk few weeks back I did say "Id love you even if you were completely bald!" but I realised what I had said and quickly corrected myself and said "Id like you ..." But he just smiled at me. Last week he said he thought I had whispered something to him, but he wont tell me. He must have been refering to that night and hadnt heard me correct myself.

But when I asked what he though I said, he said he wasnt saying as it was embrassing.
 
People are a lot more resilient to the word Love these days. I wouldn't place him out for the count yet, he could suprise you.

If he says he needs some space then you can show how you care by letting him be alone, he may realise what hes missing then. Are you officially going out? I mean does everyone know? Can't see how it would be embarrassing though.
 
Yeah everyone knows we're dating and I did ask him if he wanted me to leave him alone for a while and he said no. Hes said we were okay, but I dont know. He changed since Sunday when I last seen him.

And hes not embrassed dating me, he was embrassed to say what he thought I had whispered to him.

My mum did say he was probably having an off day, she said everyone has them.

He did say afew hours after saying feels like were moving too fast:
Sorry about eariler, my heads not screwed on today, r you ok?
And another said:
Its alright ignore me before. My mind was abit head f***ed.
 
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Well as much i understand he understud what you were wispering to him and
a.he got scared
b.it was a bit to quick for him listening that you Love him.


My advice to you let him the space he think he need,but again dont ignore him.


My other advice is to dont see that relationship to seriously,because there may be a small possibility that he was just playing with you.
I'm sorry that i have to tell you that,please dont be mad at me.
Your still young and you see everthing will be just fine.
 
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Well as much i understand he understud what you were wispering to him and
a.he got scared
b.it was a bit to quick for him listening that you Love him.


My advice to you let him the space he think he need,but again dont ignore him.


My other advice is to dont see that relationship to seriously,because there may be a small possibility that he was just playing with you.
I'm sorry that i have to tell you that,please dont be mad at me.
Your still young and you see everthing will be just fine.
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I had had a drink and I quickly corrected myself. I didnt mean to say the word love, it just came out, it was meant to be "I'd like you even if you were bald" as he had recently shaved his hair. It was a friendly comment. Im not mad at you, but I doubt he would play with me like that.

Hes like me, a very emotional person and would never mess around with someones feelings. We've barely communicated since Monday when he told me this, we send the random text via phone, but I no longer get the goodnight or good morning texts he use to send. Now he will text me randomly through the day or at night.
 
I believe that serious in Love means you 2 truly appreciate each other's company and care about each other deeply, and i mean deeply
 
Well Ive sent a message to him that charliepayni has proof read for me and he said its fine. So just got to see if he replies to it at all. Last night was the first time he sent me a good night text in over a week. But this morning he said he would see about coming up to mine this Sunday, which has upset me as it was his idea in the first place and he usually jumps ta the chance to see me.

That was at 10am this morning and its now 4:30pm. I have recieved no other text message as Ive not replied to his first one. Usually he would have texted me once or twice more to see if I was okay, but nothing. Even if hes busy at work, he always sneaks me a text to see how I am. Obiviously hes not that bothered if I reply or not.

Plus theres a girl on his MySpace who keeps flirting with him. They met at a concert and exchanged MySpace addresses, this was before we met. She always "sends him some love" and it upsets me cause she does it quite a bit. Ive asked him bout it and said its nothing, shes in a relationship and lives in another country. But they are meeting at a festival this year and he told her first bout getting a ticket and she said see you there x !!!!

I had to find out about the ticket via his MySpace, he didnt even bother to tell me about it for God's sake and I told him and he said again it was nothing. But she always has to put an ;) or kiss (x) in any comments she leaves him. Its upsetting me and I think the relationship is over. My gut is telling me that its finished. His female friend told me to stick at it awhile, but I dont know if I can. Its pushed me to tears and Ive been like this since Monday.

He doesnt want to see me, barely texts me, yet on Monday he said everything was fine. If I dont get a reply from that essay of a message I sent via MySpace, then its over. Hes either freaked or ignored it. I may get an answer from him, but if its a good one or not is a different story. He has changed alot since I last seen him Sunday gone.
 
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