Tempted to call it quits

SapphireStar

SapphireStar

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Lol, I do apologise for the amount of threads on my relationship Ive made and this may be the last one on it I make. Lately Ive hitten a snag with my boyfriend and he wanted to be left alone for awhile, fair enough.

But Im a jealous person and on his MySpace account theres a girl he met at a rock concert before we dated. Shes from Sweden and hes meant to be meeting her in London in December, but as friends he has said. At this moment in time, it doesnt feel like that. On all of the picture comments he says how beautiful she is, how pretty her eyes are and has posted most of these since we've been dating! On one of them it talks about their marriage in a beautiful forest and he askes her if shes chosen the honeymoon yet?! That was written in December though, before we met. He has said that he and his friends are an open group of people, different sexualities and joke about second husbands, etc. But this girl is not part of our group. Yet, when we are both on MySpace he doesnt talk to me, yet leaves her picture comments. Plus he used my PC to log into MySpace the other day and there were loads of saved messages from her and none of mine! There was another girl on his MySpace whom would send him messages full of kisses and such and he said he would never speak to her again if it meant losing me. But I was told I was over reacting and I told him to forget about it.

I cant ask him about it as Im meant to be giving him space and Ive been told that I shouldnt be worried about this, but more concerned over the fact that he claims "hes messed up at the mo." To one friend this seems like he wants out, yet he claims he has feelings for me. But every time we get another month under our belt, he starts this again. Ive been told to give him till Friday and if I dont get any contact from him, then Im just to ask him straight out of theres still an us. Im meant to be seeing Spiderman 3 with him and his friends on Friday, but I dont know if I want to be near him cause at this moment in time he has seriously hurt me.

Im stuck between a rock and a hard place and Im so confused and upset. Thanks to whoever reads or replies to this.
 
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You should only stay with someone if it feels right to be with him. If something doesn't feel right and his only response to you asking "what's wrong" is "I'm messed up at the moment", then he's obviously not being open for his half of the relationship. In order to have any sort of relationship (friends, bf/gf, or any other), you both need to communicate.

I'm not sure how long he's been keeping this up, but it's obviously upsetting you. If he can't get that through his head, leave him. A guy who can't tell his girl what's going on doesn't deserve anyone.
 
I do keep thinking that we should be together as we have a load in common and get on great. Hes been doing this everytime we get another month over with, its been 3 months and this is the second time hes wanted time to himself.

When this first happened his friend said its because hes overwhelmed at the fact that we are in a relationship and we've done alot together in 2 months even though we only see each other at the weekend. I thought then that was a valid reason, but he cant keep doing this every month as its an emotional strain for me.

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Well, hes contacted me, but its taken a bullentin and quiz on MySpace for him to get in touch. I did a bulletin on how Im not bothered with people or anything this week and he agreed, apologised for the past few days, said he was messed in the head at the mo and if I was alright. And I replied that it sends out alarm bells when you boyfriend says hes messed in the head and to me says he wants out. Just waiting for a reply now ...
 
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"LYKE OMG LETS JUDGE PPL BY MYSPACE CAUSE WE KNO THAT ITS NOT TAKING OVER THE WORLD!"

Yea, pathetic in my opinion. A person can't share beliefs on pictures anymore. -Shakes head-

A girl does it to their guy friends all the time, "Man, that is hawt. Nice picture!" and such. However, a guy can't do it to girls because it would be considered cheating. @_@ Weird world.

Anyways, my opinion on this:

If you feel threatened and such by another presence, then you should leave...or something. I am sure he isn't talking to you on it because, like me, he sees you more often than her. Also, if they're just meeting, ask if you can come. =D. That way you can be there as well.

Meh. I didn't read your last part on your last post. If he wants out, give him out. LEAVE HIM! Or, you know, leave him, get back together, and have makeup secks.
 
I didnt read any of the messages, just seen her picture.

And Styfe I dont make comments like your beautiful to any guys on MySpace I know or go on about fake little weddings. Im a serious person and when the guy Im with compliments another woman more then me it upsets me and I believe they are doing something, maybe cheating on me as I was cheating on in my last relationship or they fancy this other person.

We're talking about it when he gets home from work. He said there were some problems and worries about us he wanted to talk about. I confronted him and asked if he wanted it to be over and he said
"You keep saying this and makes me feel like you dont want to be with me. So you want it to be over with?" And I said no. Hopefully this'll get sorted later and we'll be fine and together.
 
Thats what i think too. Maybe you have very similar personalities? If you want to talk and he wants to talk and you both say you want to still be together then thats really good. You will find out after he meets with this person anyway. Btw is she a dog?
 
He wont be meeting her till Decemeber and we may not be togther till then, I hope we are. I personally dont find her the slighest bit attractive and if he fancies her, it makes me feel bit angry.
 
Im with him because I like him, I had no idea he was a flirt beforehand. We have spoken and we are seeing how it goes.
 
Saph, let it go. Trust me, he's an arse. I know because I used to be one. He'll keep you hanging around indefinately while he does his own thing because he knows that you will be there as a fall back.

Don't be a fall back. Be you.
 
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