Seeing the ex again

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Okay, had to serve my ex at work today. I knew I would have to sooner or later because he goes there often. He did look sheepihsly at me when he came over to be served. He had his friend with him and they just asked how I was and I replied with simple answers. I didnt ask how he or his new girlfriend was as I was genuinely not interested, I didnt even give a decent goodbye when they left.

But I was shook up when they both left and still am. I dont understand why Im still shaking. I thought it was my nerves as I havent seen or spoken to him since he told me of his new girlfriend back in October. Im happy Im no longer with him and Im very much happy with my new partner, but I dont understand why Im like this.

I cant be the only one who has been through this am I? I mean I didnt get butterflies or anything like that, I was calm and just packed his shopping whilst they spoke to me. It wasnt untill they left that I started to shake.
 
That's only normal, hun. It doesn't necessarily mean you still like him or that there's any light feelings still lurking somewhere. I think it's because you know for a fact that you used to be with him and there were memories and such shared during your time together, so naturally, you reacted the way you did after he left. The fact that you were calm when he was in your presence is a sign that you truly have moved on and that you're happy with your current boyfriend.

I know that when I meet the other boys that I liked back then, I'd kinda get the same reaction. Well, I don't actually shake, but I do feel all rattled inside. It could be many reasons, really. We'll just never really pinpoint exactly what, and sometimes it's better that way.

So I wouldn't really worry about it, if I were you. Like you said, it's probably nothing.
 
Thanks Mitsuki. My gran called and I told her and she said it was perhaps the shock of seeing him. He was in yesturday, but I dont know if he had seen me and my gran reckons he had seen me yesturday. I mean, where we use to live is a massive supermarket, so why walk to our shop which is 25 minutes away from my old home? She reckons it was to talk to me.

But Im glad I was calm and in a way Im glad it happened cause it does show Im over him. I never thought I would get over him because we were together for 3 years and 4 months.
 
Three years and four months? Wow. See what I mean? There were a lot of memories build up and I'm sure it'll always stay with you guys. I mean, I know there's room enough for you to love someone else, but I'm guessing your ex was also a major part of your life once upon a time and that there was love involved. You can't just cross that out easily. It'll take time...years, even. Or it could always stay with you. It happens, you know.

There's those that believe that once you truly love someone, that love never really fades away. It'll just be hidden back there, amidst the pile of new or current other loves you might have with others.

Might not be your case though. I mean, only you can truly know. But what I'm saying is, try not to let it bother you since it's only normal. ;)
 
Yeah, love was present. I remember he told me first and it made me cry as Ive never been told that before. We had alot of memories, some good, some bad, every relationship has them. I dont think I love him anymore. Yes he is still attractive, but in a way his face was older and he looked more mature then the guy I knew and loved.

I know I would never go back, been asked by many people if I would. But the trust is no longer present and towards the end it became horrible and he did turn cold which was a massive shock for me as he said I was is everything. But no, whats in the past, stays there IMO.
 
I got an email from him the other day about me sending him a MySpace invite, I did it by mistake and he sent me an emial about it. Said he didnt have 1, but if I wanted to ever talk to him, I had email and his msn, which I deleted. Even said he would get me his old job cause its the least he could do. I replied saying there was nothing I wanted to talk about and I was happy with my current job. Got a reply last night saying thats good to hear and to take care.

This is screwing with my head, as was me serving him at work. My mum reckoned he came in that day to see me and to either get closure or see what his feelings were. My family reckon hes no longer with his current girlfriend and came to see what would happen between us. Plus I had a dream last night in which he said he had dumped her and wanted us to be together again.

I dont know what to do, since I seen him it feels bizzare and the email upset me somewhat.
 
I have just been dumped by my girlfriend that I have been with for seven years. She was taking a year off in New Zealand, I can't even imagine what it is going to feel like to see her again. We are keeping in touch by email, but I know I should stop, Im just not strong enough right now. At least that much contact gives me some connection with her.

It is so bloody hard, when you love sombody so much, I know because I can't give up just yet.

You have my thoughts.
 
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