Serious People that could have been your friend

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Have you ever met someone that could have been a great friend to you, but certain circumstances prevented this?

I feel this way with the first person I dated. We both liked the same things (video games, anime, cartoons, other nerdy things) and we could for the most part get along. We dated for a few weeks. However, we were way too immature at the time to be in a real relationship (we were both 13 and 14) As we got closer, we realized that we both saw the world differently and got into huge arguements over it. And honestly, we wanted to change each other so that we would feel the same way about issues as the other person. We couldn't look at the other's point of view at all. That, and me being a girl wanted all the story book romance (something I look back at and am a little embarassed about) So we broke up and left on pretty bad terms. We see each other seldomly and it is always so awkward because these stupid old romantic feelings always flare up.

I do feel that if we hadn't dated, and had just remained friends, we could have been good friends. We wouldn't have talked about certian things for felt the need to change the other person. I also feel that if we had met when we were a little older and more mature, things would have gone better. A relationship probably wouldn't have worked, but we probably could have ended it better and remained good friends.
 
Hm, good question...

Honestly speaking, I feel that I have quite a few people that could have been my friend, but either responded uninterestedly to my attempts, or didn't approach me to talk. That, as well as the occasional cases where I didn't muster up the courage to approach them, or simply 'didn't bother'. I don't really know what exactly they like, but really, how would I know if I didn't go and find out?

These are people that went through their daily lives with me in school, yeah? I could have gotten closer, and maybe, I might have a larger circle of friends! D: But well. I guess they stayed as 'people who could have been my friends'. We never quite moved above the 'acquaintance' level.

Which was quite a pity :\
 
There are a couple of people like that I've crossed paths with over the years where the circumstances just prevented any sort of friendship developing. One case involved a colleague of mine who was a great guy and whom I had a lot of interests in common with. The problem was that he was lazy as hell at work which caused us to butt heads a lot and he'd often pull a no-show if he'd promised to do a shift for you. I'm sure that if we had met outside of work we would have gotten along famously, but at work you often get to see a different side of people.
 
:hmmm: I really would like to be their friend...
There is this girl who was a really good friend of mine when we were little, she always made me laugh and she always consoled me when I was feeling down. But then when hormones kick in, they become totally different people. She has grown up to be rather bitchy and snobbish. She talks back, she says rude things, she wears skimpy clothes sometimes, and she's gotten drunk and made out with all these guys she doesn't even know...
I know the old friend I knew is still in there somewhere, my close friend Laura is able to fish it out of her and it's truly remarkable. But it's my fault for not wanting to be anywhere near her. I would like to just sit and talk with her like we used to, but I just can't find it in myself to actually talk to her anymore. I guess I just don't really like her anymore. But hey, that happens with friends :mokken:
 
hahah yeah, I knew this guy one summer
and we were really cool with eachother, and we had all this stuff in common. We were as close as we could have been for only knowing each other one summer

but then he became my best friends boyfriend.... and things got complicated form there

we had always tried to still see each other, and hang out. but it would never work out.
then he moved, but still I saw him randomly. he told me once that before he had moved he had gone over to my house to hang out, but I wasn't home.
after that I still saw him here and there, and whenever we would hang out he would always bring up back when we were younger during that summer.
I think we were both very fond of each other and got along well. We could have been great close friends, but things just didn't work out


I cant really think of anyone else? there are always people I think ill get along good with, but once I get to know them a little better I prove myself wrong.
 
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