Serious Mother-in-law

[wiccawolf7]

well i went to the pub, with my friends john and milana, im 18, my other half isnt yet so cannot legally drink yet so doesnt go to the pub with me

now my other halfs mum heard i went to the pub with milana and assumed im shagging anything witha skirt

my other half knows im not but her mum keeps insisting tht i am, and i dont know what to say about it.

and my other half is the sort of person, that if someone tells them something enough times they'll start to believe it, and i dnt wat to argue with her mum as that will push us apart as well.

what can i do? the very exsistence of my future love life could depend on what YOU post

 

[Aztec Triogal]

In my experience, the best thing for you to do is kill the mother. Preferably with a large blunt object...

I actually don't know what to tell you, is the truth. There are really only three options available to you. They are:

1. Win the Mother Over - Be nice to her, sweet talk her, and do whatever you can to try and soften her up. Never rag on your girlfriend in front of her mother. Always bend over backwards for her. Try and look like you are the kindest gentlest most pussy whipped little SOB that has ever been born. And... don't tell her when you're going to the pub.

2. Talk Sense into the Mother - The mother may be a big nasty mean old bitch but chances are she's gone through the same thing she's doing to you. Everyone has had that person that doesn't approve of their relationship. Ask her to sit down, calmly and rationally tell her how you feel, and tell her that she needs to lighten up a little bit. Try to be as open and understanding of her feelings as possible. All you're really doing here is trying to trade everything she wants for her kindness. Lay it all on the table. You might get screwed in the trade but it doesn't really matter.

3. Sit Tight and Don't Overreact - Sometimes it's easy to get flustered and overreact. Sometimes it's best just to sit back, be patient, and let things unfold in your favor. If you don't pressure your girlfriend and are just the best boyfriend in the world, she will eventually tell her mom to lay off for you. The two of them might fight... but who cares. Let her fight her mom because it's her problem anyway.

Those are your only 3 choices. Play to your strengths... if you're always perceived as a kind, considerate soul... then sweet talk her. If you're smart, try to rationalize with her. And if you're mean and moronic, just try to sit back and not put your foot in your mouth.

 

[Big Casino]

Wait are you actually married? Or is it just ur girls mum? Married at 18...scary.
Anyway I think you should be blunt and tell her exactly what was happening, dont take no shit. Cant let someone accuse you of that, she has to be told. If your gf knows the truth then shed be a total fool to believe something just because she hears it repeatedly from her mum. Dont fuss too much over it man.

 

[wiccawolf7]

Wait are you actually married? Or is it just ur girls mum? Married at 18...scary.
Anyway I think you should be blunt and tell her exactly what was happening, dont take no shit. Cant let someone accuse you of that, she has to be told. If your gf knows the truth then shed be a total fool to believe something just because she hears it repeatedly from her mum. Dont fuss too much over it man.

not just yet, just engaged, wanna go to uni first, and thanks for thr tips, ill probs choose option 2, talk sense into her