I've just seen a face

Hmmm...I wouldn't say I fell for someone without having talked to them before. Looks do play a role in attraction, but I've often said I'd rather be with an ugly sweetie than a beautiful bitch. Good thing I'm with a beautiful sweetie right now.^_^

But no, I've never fallen in love with a stranger before. I have been getting that good feeling from time to time when talking to certain people, even if we haven't known each other for very long yet. That's how my girl and I met, really...and that's working out really well all these years.
 
I wouldnt say love but have really liked some girls I see when I'm out clubbing.

Personally I'm not a believer of love at first sight.
 
Bah, you don't fall in love with someone without even having talked to them. That, ladies and gentlemen, is called infatuation. And yes, I have been infatuated with women I've observed at work or whatever other common circumstance we have that I've either barely spoken to, or not even spoken to at all. And truthfully it's a completely unintelligent, illogical, completely naive course of action to give it any sort of value beyond that which it is; a stupid infatuation that gives you no connection whatsoever to this other person who is completely oblivious to how they may have charmed you. Let's be honest; it's not going to lead you to anything and the longer you persist in indulging in what "could be" the more creepier towards them you're going to get, and the less chance you'll ever have.

Now, I'm not saying it's a dumb idea to act upon this and initiate some sort of approach. Say hello, find out if they'll give you a chance to speak with them and hang out. Get to know them. Become a friend first, and expect nothing more than their continued friendship. If it becomes more than that, then hey cool. Relationships tend to grow on their own. When we try to make one based on nothing, or based solely on some stupid little infatuation then it's not going to last at all. I've noticed that too many people tend to act on just this childish sort of infatuation alone, and expect it to mean that they have some sort of meaningful connection with this other person all of a sudden. If this is how someone goes about things then they are being completely and utterly naive. They're probably getting a little lonely, which can be understandable and a perfect grounds for wanting to find a significant other. But more often than not it's this type of person who is really trying to go out and settle for the first chance they can find to give them this sort of satisfaction, and really this 'infatuation' of theirs turns out to be nothing more than someone suitable for distracting themselves from what they might be missing out on. A quick fix, if you will.
 
I was on the tube in London, saw a girl out of the corner of my eye leaving at Kings Cross who wasn't beautifull in the classic sense of the word but there really was somthing very attractive about her. I smiled and she smilled back. Never saw her again.

Love at first sight? Oh yes, it's very real.
 
Very real, but you can rarely make anything out of it. :P

Which is why I've been saying time and time again, someone invent teleportation, got dang it! xD
Then you can get the address, even at the passing moment, teleport, make the acquaintance, and....

xD

Seriously though, it is very real...well, wouldn't say it's love because there's no way it can possibly be love.
It's just that weird feeling at the pit of your stomach, or the warm feeling you get. ^_^
 
Haha, I disagree. But then I suppose love is what you make of it. I think love is when you know someone, and completely understand them. It's when you get to know them so much that you can come to respect them for the way they choose to live, what they stand for, and to know that you've found someone for whom you would go the whole length of the world for no matter what the expense is towards yourself. And for me, I just can't do that for some stranger I glimpsed out in public. To come to that sort of understanding and respect, would take lots and lots of time in order to know and understand every facet you can gleam from them. Anything else is simply just attraction, infatuation, some sort of primal urge. Can that sort of thing eventually lead to love if you act upon it? Most certainly, given enough time, willingness, understanding, and compatibility. But I just can't understand how some of us can think that love can just spring up like that.

But then again I suppose any different opinion anyone may have from the one that I'm expressing is because different people have a different opinion on the definition of love.
 
Elegy, thats because we have to face that love changes through a relationship. Warbourne mentioned "warmth" and that is always how I would describe my first feelings of love. Not "wow, nice body" etc, but a primal desire to spend time with that particular person.

In time the nature of love changes, this is not a bad thing but it does. The ultimate ending of love? Two people who are content to die in each others company.
 
Ah, I can understand what you're saying. It's not lust, but you speak of an extreme fascination and inclination to further get to know this other person in an intimate manner that is more akin to the intellectual side of things as opposed to physical. But answer me this, can there not be different types of infatuation as well? I've certainly felt many times what you describe, but I guess I've always felt to classify it more as intrigue.

But then I suppose such a difference of opinion really just serves to illustrate the difference between those who might react more intuitively to their emotions vs. critical analyzation. The choice between following your heart over your head, if you will. Haha, I'm probably coming off as someone who's trying to prove you wrong, not my intent. I just love to analyze other people's opinions, and then throw my own out there for the sake of devil's advocate.
 
Intrigue is a great example, Elergy.

A person who you really desire to know more about, does that classify as love at first sight? No, but in my experience a woman who intrigues me, who is an enigma to me. I usually fall in love with.

And don't worry, I'm never offended by your posts, I enjoy them mate.
 
Haha right on, thanks.

And aye, I can definitely see what you're saying. If they've merited your intrigue then there's definitely a very high likelihood that it is going to lead to some wonderful things.
 
Warbourne said:
Have you ever fallen in love with anyone even though you've never talked to them before?
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Lol… Yeah, I’m definitely guilty of this as well… Only in real life though. I don’t know if I’d say it was love though, but a definite strong attraction whether it be looks or by the way she carried herself.

Now for all the love at first sight disbelievers... I wouldn’t say that I disbelieve it. I think it really all depends on the person in my opinion. Some people fall in love very easily and some don’t. ;)
 
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